[Perrin Aybara]

For the love of God, Sean. For crap sake, stop thinking, stop making excuses, and LISTEN TO US FOR ONCE.

We are ONLY trying to help you.

For the love of all that is good and holy, TELL HIS GIRL HOW YOU FEEL.

I am getting tired of you saying this, but STOP MAKING EXCUSES.

I just heard you say, all in one topic:

"I truly need advice"

"I don't know what do to"

"I really don't want to let her go and start again"

"I'm afraid that I am not going to find anyone else"

"I don't really want to tell her anymore because I think I already know the answer"

Dear Lord! Either take our advice or don't.

It's your life, not ours. You have to live with it.

You're the one who will have to live with any regrets that you make.

But don't come here asking for advice, and when you get the perfect, most reasonable advice in the world, which is in fact, the ONLY solution to your problem (TELL HER!), when you get our advice, don't just throw it out. Otherwise you're just wasting our time. And you're wasting your time.

Sheesh, Sean! What can we possibly tell you if you think that "I'm never going to find anyone." You're simply lost if you believe that, and there's nothing we can do about it. It's up to you.

Look, your choice is really quite simple. You can either:

A) Don't tell her, and you'll most likely continue to have feelings for her for a long time, which will make you miserable and depressed and probably ruin any chances you have at another relationship, because you're going to be obsessing over this one girl.

B) Don't tell her, and just DROP IT already. Enough with the "Woe is me" attitude and just move on. YOU WILL find someone else. But you have to BELIEVE IN YOURSELF, DAMMIT.

Either way, if you don't tell her, you will live with the regret for the REST OF YOUR LIFE.

C) TELL HER, for the love of God, and whatever happens, happens. She's interested too? GREAT! She's not interested at all? CRAP! But hey, guess what, NOW YOU CAN MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. Sure, it may suck for a short while, but in the long run, you'll be much better off.

Otherwise, you're going to never, EVER take any chances in your life. How can you possibly expect any future relationship to EVER work if you can't even tell this ONE GIRL your feelings?

You'll never be able to.

And you'll continue to make excuses for your life.

So you tell her, you make the effort, and you LIVE your life. And whatever happens, happens. But either way, the outcome of telling her is MUCH better than the outcome of not telling her.

GAH. Ok, Sean, I gave you my advice. And I'm giving your this advice sincerely, as a friend. It's up to you to go through with it. If you don't, then I don't know what to tell you anymore. I can't wave a magic wand and make your life better. That's up to you.-jay