My Parents Hit Me and I Came Out All Right - Page 3

Eagle Eye · 08-23-2011, 01:37 AM

My parents spanked me, I came out alright.

My aunt never spanked her kids and never allowed anyone else to, they came out alright.

As a parent, you should know your kids more than anyone, and you know what gets to them. Along with getting spanked when I screwed up, my parents made it understood that the things they gave us could easily be taken away.

My brother didn't have good grades? Guess what, everything but his bed and dresser were removed from his room until they saw fit to return it. Little things like that helped along the way, it wasn't the fact that we were fearful that we were gonna get beat, it was was the fact that in order to keep what we were given, we needed to hold up our end. And if we continued to screw up, then we got the belt. My parents were giving but also really strict, we had plenty of toys, but we also couldn't do "normal" things like watch TV when we wanted (could only watch FRI-SUN).

Joker · 08-23-2011, 09:17 AM

I got spanked whenever I deserved it and it worked just fine for me. I also choose to spank my son whenever he deserves it. I don't beleive in Time Out so he knows to fear mom and dad when does something really wrong. The one thing I learned from my parents though is that you don't spank your kids in public the humiliation that they feel when you do that in front of others is worse than the phsyical pain you cause.

Dylan · 08-23-2011, 10:18 AM

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Originally Posted by I REALLY HATE POKEMON!

It really is a complicated matter. In fact, I don't see how.people can deal with large numbers of children, even good kids. Parenting seems like a monumental task undet certain conditions.

So don't have kids.

Glux · 08-23-2011, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Dylan

On a serious note, I did get spanked when I was a kid -- never "hit," and it was never out of anger, just a swat on the ass to say, "Stop being a dumbass." It speaks hell of a lot louder than, "Go sit in the corner. You're in timeout."

OH NO, NOT TIMEOUT. I HAVE TO SIT QUIETLY FOR A RELATIVELY SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME?! MISERY!!

Grounding to rooms doesn't do much either (nowadays) if you don't take away video games, TV's, cell phones, etc.

Jere · 08-23-2011, 11:07 AM

^ This was THE horror when i was a kid!

Tv was alright the Video games on the other hand....

Random User · 08-24-2011, 12:44 AM

I had been spanked as a kid, but I continued to do bad things. So my parents started taking away privileges, and I still just kept doing bad things. So I guess I was always just apathetic, because no punishments ever really got through to me, and they still really don't.

My mom once did hit me two years ago across the face. I grabbed her and slammed her head against the wall in anger, though. She hasn't hit me since.

***CaptHayfever*** · 08-24-2011, 01:55 AM

^Clearly a role model for us all, you are.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

Random User · 08-24-2011, 08:21 PM

**LASER BEAR ASSAULT UNIT** · 08-25-2011, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Random User

My mom once did hit me two years ago across the face. I grabbed her and slammed her head against the wall in anger, though. She hasn't hit me since.

Sorry tough guy, must be good being some sort of mega manly man who parades the fact he physically assaulted his mother.

Random User · 08-25-2011, 03:10 PM

Not like I was bragging. I'm bigger than my (really short) mom and I'm a bit quick to anger. I just grabbed her shoulders and shoved her into the wall somewhat hard, so I guess I was exaggerating when I said "grabbed and slammed" eh.

**LASER BEAR ASSAULT UNIT** · 08-25-2011, 06:06 PM

Still ****ing disgusting

Dizzy · 08-25-2011, 06:23 PM

I feel no disgust. Not that I approve or anything, but I could see wanting to do that. But still, by all means, don't.

On topic, I was a very melodramatic child, so even very mild punishments did the trick nicely. For me, it was more the fact that I was being punished as undesirable than the punishment itself.

***Cosmonautical*** · 09-09-2011, 11:41 PM

Eh, do you guys all think there are going to be results over night? Kids learn more from emulating their parents and their peers than they do from direct punishments or anything like that.

The point being that if there's something you're doing to control your kids, physical violence is usually just another thing you use that can be taken out of the picture. If your kids misbehave so absolutely terribly, it might just be the environment you've kept them in. Foods, sights and sounds can all affect kids adversely, and entertainment especially. I might not have thought I was full of **** as a kid, but as an adult I can tell how much television warped my perspective.

Nobody has a perfect way to get another person to behave, and there's not really any justice in it, since the rules are all made-up regardless. Expecting your kid to be a saint who only ever pleases you is wishful thinking - having them means you have taken on the responsibility to convince them to behave in a way that is seen acceptable. Acceptable by an unreasonable, often-unfulfillable societal standard that makes a majority population question its happiness frequently. No one ever said that was actually fun. Or if they did, they're choosing to forget the unpleasantries of having kids, partly in an effort to justify their own life decisions.

Kil'jaeden · 09-10-2011, 02:18 AM

Kids can be annoying. Sometimes you really want to smack them upside the head. It's a bad example, because it teaches kids to deal with anger that way. I also hate angry outbursts because I have seen too many of them, and I always told myself I would not be that way. So I mainly disapprove of corporal punishment. All it really teaches is that you are bigger, stronger, and can inflict pain to get what you want. It should only be a last resort. If you can't teach lessons any other way, you won't teach them anything.

08-23-2011, 01:37 AM	#41
Eagle Eye Diddy bops Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Birmingham, AL Gender: Posts: 15,014 Thanks: 1,616 Thanked 1,084 Times in 597 Posts	My parents spanked me, I came out alright. My aunt never spanked her kids and never allowed anyone else to, they came out alright. As a parent, you should know your kids more than anyone, and you know what gets to them. Along with getting spanked when I screwed up, my parents made it understood that the things they gave us could easily be taken away. My brother didn't have good grades? Guess what, everything but his bed and dresser were removed from his room until they saw fit to return it. Little things like that helped along the way, it wasn't the fact that we were fearful that we were gonna get beat, it was was the fact that in order to keep what we were given, we needed to hold up our end. And if we continued to screw up, then we got the belt. My parents were giving but also really strict, we had plenty of toys, but we also couldn't do "normal" things like watch TV when we wanted (could only watch FRI-SUN).

08-23-2011, 09:17 AM	#42
Joker Lord of Vampires / God of Vengeance Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: The Planet of Eternal Darkness Gender: Posts: 11,117 Thanks: 3,273 Thanked 580 Times in 364 Posts Blog Entries: 6	I got spanked whenever I deserved it and it worked just fine for me. I also choose to spank my son whenever he deserves it. I don't beleive in Time Out so he knows to fear mom and dad when does something really wrong. The one thing I learned from my parents though is that you don't spank your kids in public the humiliation that they feel when you do that in front of others is worse than the phsyical pain you cause.

08-23-2011, 11:07 AM	#45
Jere Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Sutme Gender: Posts: 3,648 Thanks: 404 Thanked 331 Times in 256 Posts Blog Entries: 3	^ This was THE horror when i was a kid! Tv was alright the Video games on the other hand....

08-24-2011, 12:44 AM	#46
Random User Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Equestrian Republic of Spanglidesh Gender: Posts: 3,562 Thanks: 321 Thanked 195 Times in 143 Posts Blog Entries: 4	I had been spanked as a kid, but I continued to do bad things. So my parents started taking away privileges, and I still just kept doing bad things. So I guess I was always just apathetic, because no punishments ever really got through to me, and they still really don't. My mom once did hit me two years ago across the face. I grabbed her and slammed her head against the wall in anger, though. She hasn't hit me since.

08-24-2011, 01:55 AM	#47
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,661 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	^Clearly a role model for us all, you are. And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

08-24-2011, 08:21 PM	#48
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08-25-2011, 03:10 PM	#50
Random User Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Equestrian Republic of Spanglidesh Gender: Posts: 3,562 Thanks: 321 Thanked 195 Times in 143 Posts Blog Entries: 4	Not like I was bragging. I'm bigger than my (really short) mom and I'm a bit quick to anger. I just grabbed her shoulders and shoved her into the wall somewhat hard, so I guess I was exaggerating when I said "grabbed and slammed" eh.

08-25-2011, 06:06 PM	#51
LASER BEAR ASSAULT UNIT Videos Mod Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: In my pants Gender: Posts: 4,613 Thanks: 2,502 Thanked 767 Times in 422 Posts	Still ****ing disgusting

08-25-2011, 06:23 PM	#52
Dizzy Podiaphobe Join Date: Oct 2007 Gender: Posts: 19,359 Thanks: 1,764 Thanked 1,161 Times in 804 Posts Blog Entries: 116	I feel no disgust. Not that I approve or anything, but I could see wanting to do that. But still, by all means, don't. On topic, I was a very melodramatic child, so even very mild punishments did the trick nicely. For me, it was more the fact that I was being punished as undesirable than the punishment itself.

09-09-2011, 11:41 PM	#53
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,100 Thanks: 2,151 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	Eh, do you guys all think there are going to be results over night? Kids learn more from emulating their parents and their peers than they do from direct punishments or anything like that. The point being that if there's something you're doing to control your kids, physical violence is usually just another thing you use that can be taken out of the picture. If your kids misbehave so absolutely terribly, it might just be the environment you've kept them in. Foods, sights and sounds can all affect kids adversely, and entertainment especially. I might not have thought I was full of **** as a kid, but as an adult I can tell how much television warped my perspective. Nobody has a perfect way to get another person to behave, and there's not really any justice in it, since the rules are all made-up regardless. Expecting your kid to be a saint who only ever pleases you is wishful thinking - having them means you have taken on the responsibility to convince them to behave in a way that is seen acceptable. Acceptable by an unreasonable, often-unfulfillable societal standard that makes a majority population question its happiness frequently. No one ever said that was actually fun. Or if they did, they're choosing to forget the unpleasantries of having kids, partly in an effort to justify their own life decisions.

09-10-2011, 02:18 AM	#54
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 2,132 Thanks: 21 Thanked 146 Times in 99 Posts	Kids can be annoying. Sometimes you really want to smack them upside the head. It's a bad example, because it teaches kids to deal with anger that way. I also hate angry outbursts because I have seen too many of them, and I always told myself I would not be that way. So I mainly disapprove of corporal punishment. All it really teaches is that you are bigger, stronger, and can inflict pain to get what you want. It should only be a last resort. If you can't teach lessons any other way, you won't teach them anything.