My Parents Hit Me and I Came Out All Right

[Cosmonautical]

As a justification for hitting your kids, that's pretty weak. No, you didn't. You want to hit people.

My parents never hit me, and I don't commit violent crimes. I'm also a generally polite and remarkably civilised person.

[Booyakasha]

Are we talking 'hit' as in, like, punching them in the face? Like, beating the sh*t out of them, in an effort to cause injury? Because my parents didn't do that to me, either.

[Dux is not you]

My parents hit me. They didn't ever hit me hard enough to cause injury, but hey, I was a terrible child to raise. I'm sure they would still like to hit me even today.

But yes, I don't think hitting your kids is the right way to get things done.

Also someone please move this to the Venting (?) forum.

[Panfan]

^ AI is a Supermod. He knows where things go. Plus how you feel about spanking/etc. your children as discipline definitely falls under your "philosophy".

I'm not sure what my view is on corporal punishment. When I was like 6 and under, I definitely had to watch what I was doing in fear of the dreaded rolling pin, though I didn't really end up getting spanked that much anyway. I think I would've turned out the same person I am now with or without spankings.

[Ace Mercury]

I'm generally of the mind that a child will grow up being whatever, and parental behaviour does not affect it much.

[Marilink]

I think that spankings should be for discipline and not out of anger. And they shouldn't be overdone. Basically, to me, there's nothing wrong with spanking as a punishment, but it's also not a total necessity to raise a good kid.

[Dux is not you]

Originally Posted by Mr. Pan-anagrabber

^ AI is a Supermod. He knows where things go.

but he was venting

[Cosmonautical]

Originally Posted by Booyakasha

Are we talking 'hit' as in, like, punching them in the face? Like, beating the sh*t out of them, in an effort to cause injury? Because my parents didn't do that to me, either.

I mean striking a child with the intent to inflict physical pain as punishment. Doesn't sit right with me. Kids are smart enough to make the connection that getting smacked comes from the person and not their action, anyway. Just speaks of a lack of consideration.

Originally Posted by Dux is not you

Also someone please move this to the Venting (?) forum.

Appreciate your concern for the order of the forums, but just leave that up to the powers that be, okay? If you notice flaming, obscene posts/pictures, or anything that would stir up discontent, feel free to use the "report post" button on the lower left of the offending post.

[Valigarmander]

My parents hit me and I turned out great.

Who wouldn't want their kid to grow up into Val?

[Dux is not you]

"Congratulations! Your CHILD evolved into VAL!"

Doesn't sound too appealing, really. Everstone, anyone?

[Dizzy]

Originally Posted by People of the AMS

I mean striking a child with the intent to inflict physical pain as punishment. Doesn't sit right with me. Kids are smart enough to make the connection that getting smacked comes from the person and not their action, anyway. Just speaks of a lack of consideration.

But that's a rule true of any punishment. The only way to way to really establish an action/consequence connection is to actually give the child a moral compass, which last I checked was either impossible or near-impossible. It's more just something you grow into.

[Jere]

i don't agree that we shouldn't hit children, i think no one should be hit as a disiplinary action (im looking at you <insert Evil dictator country here>) but sometimes someone need some sence knocked into them but they deserve it.

I admit this is flawed but i especially think that children dosen't need to get some sense beaten into them.

[I REALLY HATE POKEMON!]

Hitting a little kid when necessary is fine. Once they have an understanding of right and wrong, just use other methods.

[Loot]

Ah, yes encouraging a child's development by discouraging any curiosity out of fear of violence is perfectly acceptable.

[Cosmonautical]

Originally Posted by I REALLY HATE POKEMON!

Hitting a little kid when necessary is fine. Once they have an understanding of right and wrong, just use other methods.

It's really never necessary, though. They need to learn the ropes, and the ropes don't even include people hitting eachother. Kids are in many ways just adults with no wisdom and a short attention span, they're not conditioned to make good decisions. Punishing them with violence for making mistakes is a cop out, they need convincing. The only reason why it works at all is because trauma makes memories stick out easier.

Originally Posted by Fluttershy

But that's a rule true of any punishment. The only way to way to really establish an action/consequence connection is to actually give the child a moral compass, which last I checked was either impossible or near-impossible. It's more just something you grow into.

That's part of the issue: you can use your position as the person offended or crossed as a platform to illustrate to children that there are people they need to think of. Hitting them is going to make them resent you more than necessary, which means they will be less inclined to be concerned about upsetting you, which is in direct conflict with showing them the ropes. Beside that, there's always the leveraging point that you can easily use to say "I'm your parent and I care for you, and that is why I will not hurt you despite any impulse I have to." If kids know there's a further line that they can cross which damages their relationship with you, you can use that to show them that you are being reasonable.

[Dylan]

"Have you ever tried simply turning off the TV, sitting down with your children, and hitting them?"

[Bomby]

I was very well behaved... so my parents never really had to hit me. I was spanked a total of one time.

[Vgfian]

I'm against beating your children.

I'm fine with spanking your children.

[I REALLY HATE POKEMON!]

Originally Posted by Loot

Ah, yes encouraging a child's development by discouraging any curiosity out of fear of violence is perfectly acceptable.

I was a demon child with whom no form of punishment had worked. And no, it was not the fault of my decent parents but was because I was what I can only describe as evil. My human parents' only recourse became bribes of video games and toys, something which I would rather beat or abandon my children before resorting to.

No matter how bad you guys think you were as kids I was worse. Even beating kids doesn't work in a case like that so your tree-hugger form of pansy parenting will never fly.

Oh, and my form of "curiosity" entailed cursing my mother with the mouth of a drunken sailor and hitting her for fun. Curious just how much I could harm someone, while obeying absolutely nothing. I derived much joy from punishment of all variety. I thought it was fun to be grounded, hit, to have things taken away.

When my dad died when I was 13 I ended my tyranny over night.

Ranting here but oh well.

[User Name]

I believe that a parent who strikes their child just isn't creative enough.

Didn't do the dishes before you went off with your friends? Prepare to have a bed full of dirty dishes when you get home. Slammed your door out of anger? Looks like you'll have to open and close your door quietly 20 times before you can re-enter. Kid's acting up at the McDonald's play area? Sorry, kid. Time to leave. You can't come back and play there for a while.

What's so hard with that?