It figures...

Sean P Kelly · 03-09-2007, 12:05 PM

I suspected it for a while, but now it's confirmed (via Facebook profile) that the girl I have feelings for is dating someone else.

That's all

***CaptHayfever*** · 03-09-2007, 12:20 PM

Well, if your story starts turning into mine, she'll only be with him for 2 years. So right now you need to use Bide; also do everything you can to keep from going insane until those 2 years are up. Welcome to the fun zone.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

Bomby · 03-09-2007, 12:45 PM

Look, if it's anything like the absolutely massive amounts of experience I have with situations like that, just move on. It's really no use to wait around. Maybe someday later when they probably break up something could happen, but in the meantime just look for someone else. Or hope someone else appears. Or watch a bunch of kung fu flicks and forget what that whole "love" thing is. I know it hurts right now, but don't dwell on it. Just move along.

Swordmaster Link · 03-09-2007, 03:14 PM

I agree with Bomby here, plus given all of the info you've already told us about this situation, it sounds like you had multiple oppurtunities to tell her how you really felt. I remember you saying you were content with being just friends for now, so in essence you kinda made this choice, but anyway...it's better to take a little time, and then move on.

**Valigarmander** · 03-09-2007, 06:27 PM

Move on. As painful as it may be, just move on. There are plenty other girls out there for you. Don't dwell on it too much.

Just remember, a relationship only begins when someone is brave enough to make the first move.

Sean P Kelly · 03-09-2007, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Swordmaster Link

I agree with Bomby here, plus given all of the info you've already told us about this situation, it sounds like you had multiple oppurtunities to tell her how you really felt. I remember you saying you were content with being just friends for now, so in essence you kinda made this choice, but anyway...it's better to take a little time, and then move on.

Oh yeah, thanks for making me feel better by saying it's my fault. Truth be told, I was not mentally ready to make such a step. I was even seeing a counsellor at school to help control my inhibitions and negative thoughts.

But now....I don't know

(BTW, this revelation was something I suspected for about 6 months now.....I just didn't want it to be true)

Eagle Eye · 03-09-2007, 09:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sean P Kelly

Oh yeah, thanks for making me feel better by saying it's my fault. Truth be told, I was not mentally ready to make such a step. I was even seeing a counsellor at school to help control my inhibitions and negative thoughts.

But now....I don't know

(BTW, this revelation was something I suspected for about 6 months now.....I just didn't want it to be true)

Want him to sugar coat it? Tell you that she should have read your mind and came to you? Cause of course, she knew you wanted her.

If you truly felt you weren't ready to take that step then you shouldn't be kicking yourself now, there'd be no reason to.

But since you never took the step, you'll never know. Half of life is doing things you're not particularly comfortable with in order to move on, that's the only way things get off your chest, and it's the only way to know what really can happen.

Sean P Kelly · 03-09-2007, 09:25 PM

Who says I'm kicking myself?

I just don't know what to do. She's still my friend, but I don't know yet if could be around her without getting all emotional.

Also, where do I go from here? All my experiences with girls have left me hurt or disapointed. I just find it hard to pretend that I am going to be successful one day.

Eagle Eye · 03-09-2007, 10:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Sean P Kelly

Who says I'm kicking myself?

Your continuous "fear" shows that you wanted different, something you could have done yourself.

Quote:

I just don't know what to do. She's still my friend, but I don't know yet if could be around her without getting all emotional.

Mostly, that's a hard pill to swallow, but we all know we can't get everything we want. If we don't get what we want, we can't wallow on it forever.

Quote:

Also, where do I go from here? All my experiences with girls have left me hurt or disapointed. I just find it hard to pretend that I am going to be successful one day.

You move on. If you dwell on this, you only hurt yourself mentally. And don't "pretend", work your ass off to become successful, find where you can improve and do so. Take initiative.

**Valigarmander** · 03-09-2007, 10:48 PM

Try not to dwell on things you could have done. I think all the time about things I could have done with my ex, but that doesn't matter. It doesn't matter how much you thing about things you could have done, what you've done is what you've done. There's no going back in time and making things different. You live with the choices you make. I'd suggest, get back up on the bike. Find another girl. Do what I did. Yes, you'll probably still ache over this old gal. But getting a special friend to take your mind off of your heartache will really work. Trust me.

03-09-2007, 12:05 PM	#1
Sean P Kelly Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Toronto, ON, Canada Gender: Posts: 3,789 Thanks: 19 Thanked 58 Times in 46 Posts	It figures... I suspected it for a while, but now it's confirmed (via Facebook profile) that the girl I have feelings for is dating someone else. That's all

03-09-2007, 12:20 PM	#2
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,659 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	Well, if your story starts turning into mine, she'll only be with him for 2 years. So right now you need to use Bide; also do everything you can to keep from going insane until those 2 years are up. Welcome to the fun zone. And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

03-09-2007, 12:45 PM	#3
Bomby You just freaking blew Joe Biden's mind! Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: WHAT?house Gender: Posts: 19,491 Thanks: 513 Thanked 1,449 Times in 849 Posts Blog Entries: 5	Look, if it's anything like the absolutely massive amounts of experience I have with situations like that, just move on. It's really no use to wait around. Maybe someday later when they probably break up something could happen, but in the meantime just look for someone else. Or hope someone else appears. Or watch a bunch of kung fu flicks and forget what that whole "love" thing is. I know it hurts right now, but don't dwell on it. Just move along.

03-09-2007, 03:14 PM	#4
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 32,132 Thanks: 253 Thanked 951 Times in 640 Posts Blog Entries: 2	I agree with Bomby here, plus given all of the info you've already told us about this situation, it sounds like you had multiple oppurtunities to tell her how you really felt. I remember you saying you were content with being just friends for now, so in essence you kinda made this choice, but anyway...it's better to take a little time, and then move on.

03-09-2007, 06:27 PM	#5
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	Move on. As painful as it may be, just move on. There are plenty other girls out there for you. Don't dwell on it too much. Just remember, a relationship only begins when someone is brave enough to make the first move.

03-09-2007, 09:25 PM	#8
Sean P Kelly Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Toronto, ON, Canada Gender: Posts: 3,789 Thanks: 19 Thanked 58 Times in 46 Posts	Who says I'm kicking myself? I just don't know what to do. She's still my friend, but I don't know yet if could be around her without getting all emotional. Also, where do I go from here? All my experiences with girls have left me hurt or disapointed. I just find it hard to pretend that I am going to be successful one day.

03-09-2007, 10:48 PM	#10
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	Try not to dwell on things you could have done. I think all the time about things I could have done with my ex, but that doesn't matter. It doesn't matter how much you thing about things you could have done, what you've done is what you've done. There's no going back in time and making things different. You live with the choices you make. I'd suggest, get back up on the bike. Find another girl. Do what I did. Yes, you'll probably still ache over this old gal. But getting a special friend to take your mind off of your heartache will really work. Trust me.