WHEN THE BLOODY **** AM I GOING TO GET OVER HER!?!?

**Valigarmander** · 03-19-2007, 09:36 PM

God DAMN it, she broke up with me in September, it's ****ing March, and STILL I have goddamned feelings for her.

Anyone with experience? When the hell will they just go away? I'm sick and ****ing tired of feeling this way.

Totally Kennerson · 03-19-2007, 09:42 PM

*Trys to give intelligent advice*

Well...when my crappy girlfriend broke up with me, I had feelings for her for just as long. Eventually, she came up to me and told me she faked liking me for the whole relationship. So, I'm pretty much completly over her now.

Ask yourself: Do you REALLY want her back? You deserve better than that. You deserve a girl that actually cares about you and stuff. I'm not sure of the exact story between you and her, but...yeah. Thats my advice. I wish I could be more helpful.

**Valigarmander** · 03-19-2007, 09:44 PM

She DID ****ing care about me. She came to me, when I was all alone, she helped me when I was suicidal, she saved my ****ing life... When I was in the hospital, she was the only one who called me, sent me letters, waited for me at school to give me the greatest hug of my life the second I walk in the door, she was the girl who had feelings for me, she was the girl who wasn't so repelled by me that she would actually start a relationship with me, she was the only girl who ever held me, kissed me, loved me...

And she was the only girl I ever loved back.

Totally Kennerson · 03-19-2007, 09:45 PM

^Well, holy crap. What the heck happened?

**Valigarmander** · 03-19-2007, 09:48 PM

I don't know... She said I didn't talk to her enough, that I wasn't open enough. She told me she was a lesbian and then the next week told me she had lied because she was mad at me. I didn't want to take her back after that. But eventually I realized that I STILL ****ing loved her, and I told her I wanted her back, I ****ing BEGGED her, but she said I just wasn't worth a second chance, and I was driven suicidal again, I just didn't know what the **** to do...

Now, we're alright, and we're friends. She seems okay, but I still have a hard time concealing my feelings for her.

Totally Kennerson · 03-19-2007, 09:56 PM

^How the hell did you become friends again after THAT?! Geez!!

Ok, look. Do you want to spend the rest of your life worrying about a girl that probably dosnt lose sleep over any of this? Or do you want to prove that you ARE worth somthing, and find a better girlfriend? Honistly, you can't live in the past like that. You have to live in the now. I know it might be hard, but you gotta do it.

**Valigarmander** · 03-19-2007, 10:00 PM

I know she's a good person, but she has anger issues. I never let that get to me, it wasn't her fault. Saying it was her fault for getting mad was like saying it's my fault for getting depressed.

And don't think I'm thinking about her because I want to, I am because I can't stop! If it were up to me, I'd suffer amnesia and forget that entire segment of my life.

I still have pictures of her on my cellphone... I can't bring myself to delete them. I still have every single note she ever gave me, in a little binder at the foot of my bed. I couldn't ever think of getting rid of it. It's eating away at my soul, but I don't do anything about it. I can't.

Totally Kennerson · 03-19-2007, 10:05 PM

Well, I'm out of ideas. Sorry, but I'm not good with helping out with this kind of thing. Well, whatever you decide to do, I hope it turns out ok. Remember, your friends at VGF are always thinking of you.

**Valigarmander** · 03-19-2007, 10:29 PM

I was just in my bedroom, fingering a knife... I'm in so much emotional pain right now, I just want to ****ing die...

I really hope getting together with Karen will make me forget all about Jessi... it might be the only chance I have.

Bomby · 03-19-2007, 10:42 PM

She's not worth it. Believe me. It took me forever to realize Emily wasn't worth it. Things take time. You'll be a stronger person once you pull through this situation.

Totally Kennerson · 03-19-2007, 10:45 PM

^Exactly.

t3hDarkness · 03-20-2007, 12:33 AM

A messy breakup is difficult to deal with indeed, vent to us, if nothing else someone here will listen to you.

All I can say is relax, meditate, stew, vent, and meditate some more. Eventually everything sorts its way out.

ZeldaGirl · 03-20-2007, 12:42 AM

Try being in love with the same guy for... oh, about 3 years now. And he's completely oblivious, despite obvious advances. *sigh*

User Name · 03-20-2007, 05:12 AM

My advice is to walk over to your bed, pick up that binder...and throw it away. Don't even think about it. Just do it. In twenty years, let's be honest, it won't even matter and you'll probably thank yourself. Pick up your cellphone, delete her picture, toss her notes, rip them up...It really does help with the mourning process. Just vent. You finally have a chance to start over, I know I told you this before, and I'll say it again. You have a clean slate, use it! And if you can't do this for your own sake, at least do it for Karen's sake. She deserves a fresh relationship, not a rebound one.

**Marchie** · 03-20-2007, 05:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Bomby

She's not worth it. Believe me. It took me forever to realize Emily wasn't worth it. Things take time. You'll be a stronger person once you pull through this situation.

This.

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Originally Posted by UN

My advice is to walk over to your bed, pick up that binder...and throw it away. Don't even think about it. Just do it. In twenty years, let's be honest, it won't even matter and you'll probably thank yourself. Pick up your cellphone, delete her picture, toss her notes, rip them up...It really does help with the mourning process. Just vent. You finally have a chance to start over, I know I told you this before, and I'll say it again. You have a clean slate, use it! And if you can't do this for your own sake, at least do it for Karen's sake. She deserves a fresh relationship, not a rebound one.

And this.

If she said that you're not worth a second chance to her, she sure as hell isn't worth a second chance for you.

03-20-2007, 02:00 PM

Val, she's no worth it.
Your still sad about 1 girl, and at the same time your missing out on other people. You can spend the rest of your life thinking about what could've been. I thought rebecca was that one girl I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. When she broke up with me, I thought I would never be happy again, but I got over her.

I know a good way to calm you down. Go into your room, take a pillow, and just take all your rage out on it. Take your cellphone and delete every picture of here.

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I was just in my bedroom, fingering a knife... I'm in so much emotional pain right now, I just want to ****ing die...

I really hope getting together with Karen will make me forget all about Jessi... it might be the only chance I have.

Dont say that, your going to let 1 girl, 1 girl be responsible for you ending your life?
Just because 1 girl left you, you think there is no point in living?

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If she said that you're not worth a second chance to her, she sure as hell isn't worth a second chance for you.

March is right, if she said that to you, then she isn't worth it.

**Marchie** · 03-20-2007, 07:43 PM

A bitch isn't worth your life either, you have a lot of things pulling for you Val.
This Jessi bitch isn't one of those things. Get over her and find new love.

Demonicus Prime · 03-20-2007, 07:55 PM

Dude, Karen's not the one he's sad about. That's Jessi.

But honestly, you're going through exactly what I did when that whore did the same thing for me.

Just release it all. Go find a tree, a knife, and go Jackie Chan* on it's ass. Make a cardboard box your bitch. Just don't do anything that you'd regret. Life isn't worth one person that is willing to do this to someone like you. She said you weren't worth it, but it's the other way around. She's the one that isn't worth you. Karen seems just right for you.

*shut up. I know he isn't a samurai.

**Marchie** · 03-20-2007, 08:01 PM

Oh, whoops, sorry Val my bad.
I editted it out, thanks YF

Acradius · 03-20-2007, 08:24 PM

Just got out of a two and a half year relationship in September myself. I'm still not over her either, unfortunately. This may sound evil of me, but hey you gotta do what works. Get mad at her. Blame it on her. Realize that she's the one at fault, not you. Who cares how true it is? The difference lies in this: Will you be able to live the rest of your life moping and pining for her? Or can you stand to be angry at her for no reason, but allow yourself to move on with your own life? Know this, because it's a hard lesson I've had to learn my whole life, and will probably keep learning until the day I die: Sacrificing your own life, be it by taking a bullet, slitting your wrists, or by locking yourself inside a mental prison of sorrow and negativity, for someone who didn't think you were worth it is for the birds.

Almost all love in my life has been unrequited. I'm learning this lesson above, that sometimes it's better to pour all your hate into someone than to pour all your love and get nothing in return.

So say it with me. "What a stupid bitch."

03-19-2007, 09:36 PM	#1
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	WHEN THE BLOODY AM I GOING TO GET OVER HER!?!? God DAMN it, she broke up with me in September, it's **ing March, and STILL I have goddamned feelings for her. Anyone with experience? When the hell will they just go away? I'm sick and **ing tired of feeling this way.

03-20-2007, 07:43 PM	#17
Marchie Pokeman Master since 1999 Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wiscaaaaaaaaaaansin/Michigan Gender: Posts: 16,647 Thanks: 1,442 Thanked 680 Times in 477 Posts	A bitch isn't worth your life either, you have a lot of things pulling for you Val. This Jessi bitch isn't one of those things. Get over her and find new love. Last edited by Marchie; 03-20-2007 at 08:02 PM.

03-19-2007, 09:42 PM	#2
Totally Kennerson Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Falling down all these stairs Gender: Posts: 2,116 Thanks: 340 Thanked 406 Times in 136 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Trys to give intelligent advice Well...when my crappy girlfriend broke up with me, I had feelings for her for just as long. Eventually, she came up to me and told me she faked liking me for the whole relationship. So, I'm pretty much completly over her now. Ask yourself: Do you REALLY want her back? You deserve better than that. You deserve a girl that actually cares about you and stuff. I'm not sure of the exact story between you and her, but...yeah. Thats my advice. I wish I could be more helpful.

03-19-2007, 09:44 PM	#3
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	She DID **ing care about me. She came to me, when I was all alone, she helped me when I was suicidal, she saved my **ing life... When I was in the hospital, she was the only one who called me, sent me letters, waited for me at school to give me the greatest hug of my life the second I walk in the door, she was the girl who had feelings for me, she was the girl who wasn't so repelled by me that she would actually start a relationship with me, she was the only girl who ever held me, kissed me, loved me... And she was the only girl I ever loved back.

03-19-2007, 09:45 PM	#4
Totally Kennerson Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Falling down all these stairs Gender: Posts: 2,116 Thanks: 340 Thanked 406 Times in 136 Posts Blog Entries: 1	^Well, holy crap. What the heck happened?

03-19-2007, 09:48 PM	#5
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	I don't know... She said I didn't talk to her enough, that I wasn't open enough. She told me she was a lesbian and then the next week told me she had lied because she was mad at me. I didn't want to take her back after that. But eventually I realized that I STILL **ing loved her, and I told her I wanted her back, I ing BEGGED her, but she said I just wasn't worth a second chance, and I was driven suicidal again, I just didn't know what the ** to do... Now, we're alright, and we're friends. She seems okay, but I still have a hard time concealing my feelings for her.

03-19-2007, 09:56 PM	#6
Totally Kennerson Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Falling down all these stairs Gender: Posts: 2,116 Thanks: 340 Thanked 406 Times in 136 Posts Blog Entries: 1	^How the hell did you become friends again after THAT?! Geez!! Ok, look. Do you want to spend the rest of your life worrying about a girl that probably dosnt lose sleep over any of this? Or do you want to prove that you ARE worth somthing, and find a better girlfriend? Honistly, you can't live in the past like that. You have to live in the now. I know it might be hard, but you gotta do it.

03-19-2007, 10:00 PM	#7
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	I know she's a good person, but she has anger issues. I never let that get to me, it wasn't her fault. Saying it was her fault for getting mad was like saying it's my fault for getting depressed. And don't think I'm thinking about her because I want to, I am because I can't stop! If it were up to me, I'd suffer amnesia and forget that entire segment of my life. I still have pictures of her on my cellphone... I can't bring myself to delete them. I still have every single note she ever gave me, in a little binder at the foot of my bed. I couldn't ever think of getting rid of it. It's eating away at my soul, but I don't do anything about it. I can't.

03-19-2007, 10:05 PM	#8
Totally Kennerson Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Falling down all these stairs Gender: Posts: 2,116 Thanks: 340 Thanked 406 Times in 136 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Well, I'm out of ideas. Sorry, but I'm not good with helping out with this kind of thing. Well, whatever you decide to do, I hope it turns out ok. Remember, your friends at VGF are always thinking of you.

03-19-2007, 10:29 PM	#9
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	I was just in my bedroom, fingering a knife... I'm in so much emotional pain right now, I just want to ****ing die... I really hope getting together with Karen will make me forget all about Jessi... it might be the only chance I have.

03-19-2007, 10:42 PM	#10
Bomby You just freaking blew Joe Biden's mind! Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: WHAT?house Gender: Posts: 19,491 Thanks: 513 Thanked 1,449 Times in 849 Posts Blog Entries: 5	She's not worth it. Believe me. It took me forever to realize Emily wasn't worth it. Things take time. You'll be a stronger person once you pull through this situation.

03-19-2007, 10:45 PM	#11
Totally Kennerson Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Falling down all these stairs Gender: Posts: 2,116 Thanks: 340 Thanked 406 Times in 136 Posts Blog Entries: 1	^Exactly.

03-20-2007, 12:33 AM	#12
t3hDarkness Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: I weep oily black tears of joy. Gender: Posts: 7,590 Thanks: 119 Thanked 418 Times in 306 Posts Blog Entries: 5	A messy breakup is difficult to deal with indeed, vent to us, if nothing else someone here will listen to you. All I can say is relax, meditate, stew, vent, and meditate some more. Eventually everything sorts its way out.

03-20-2007, 12:42 AM	#13
ZeldaGirl Awesome member Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 15,896 Thanks: 1,130 Thanked 1,919 Times in 1,046 Posts	Try being in love with the same guy for... oh, about 3 years now. And he's completely oblivious, despite obvious advances. sigh

03-20-2007, 05:12 AM	#14
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham City Gender: Posts: 7,209 Thanks: 701 Thanked 536 Times in 367 Posts	My advice is to walk over to your bed, pick up that binder...and throw it away. Don't even think about it. Just do it. In twenty years, let's be honest, it won't even matter and you'll probably thank yourself. Pick up your cellphone, delete her picture, toss her notes, rip them up...It really does help with the mourning process. Just vent. You finally have a chance to start over, I know I told you this before, and I'll say it again. You have a clean slate, use it! And if you can't do this for your own sake, at least do it for Karen's sake. She deserves a fresh relationship, not a rebound one.

03-20-2007, 07:55 PM	#18
Demonicus Prime Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: I Pity The Fool Who Confuses Me With Someone Other Than YoshiFreak. Gender: Posts: 3,108 Thanks: 648 Thanked 129 Times in 87 Posts	Dude, Karen's not the one he's sad about. That's Jessi. But honestly, you're going through exactly what I did when that whore did the same thing for me. Just release it all. Go find a tree, a knife, and go Jackie Chan* on it's ass. Make a cardboard box your bitch. Just don't do anything that you'd regret. Life isn't worth one person that is willing to do this to someone like you. She said you weren't worth it, but it's the other way around. She's the one that isn't worth you. Karen seems just right for you. *shut up. I know he isn't a samurai.

03-20-2007, 08:01 PM	#19
Marchie Pokeman Master since 1999 Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wiscaaaaaaaaaaansin/Michigan Gender: Posts: 16,647 Thanks: 1,442 Thanked 680 Times in 477 Posts	Oh, whoops, sorry Val my bad. I editted it out, thanks YF

03-20-2007, 08:24 PM	#20
Acradius Member Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Where Time, Space and Reality fade, and there is left only the mind... Gender: Posts: 1,000 Thanks: 30 Thanked 39 Times in 29 Posts	Just got out of a two and a half year relationship in September myself. I'm still not over her either, unfortunately. This may sound evil of me, but hey you gotta do what works. Get mad at her. Blame it on her. Realize that she's the one at fault, not you. Who cares how true it is? The difference lies in this: Will you be able to live the rest of your life moping and pining for her? Or can you stand to be angry at her for no reason, but allow yourself to move on with your own life? Know this, because it's a hard lesson I've had to learn my whole life, and will probably keep learning until the day I die: Sacrificing your own life, be it by taking a bullet, slitting your wrists, or by locking yourself inside a mental prison of sorrow and negativity, for someone who didn't think you were worth it is for the birds. Almost all love in my life has been unrequited. I'm learning this lesson above, that sometimes it's better to pour all your hate into someone than to pour all your love and get nothing in return. So say it with me. "What a stupid bitch."