Ight, I honestly need a different opinion on this..

Brandon2390 · 06-15-2007, 10:58 PM

Alright, so a few weeks ago my friend and I rapped at a talent show at my high school. Needless to say, we were the best act there and were showered with compliments after. So I meet this girl's friend there who I start to talk to, and a few days later she introduces me to another one of her friends. The girl and I talk for a little while, and yea, I think she's kind of attractive.

So I stayed talkin with this girl for awhile. And so I was working an actual wedding at my parents' banquet place as a server last weekend(They own a banquet business and I work there.), and I see the girl who I've started talking with there, which is odd. I talk to her for a little bit while I'm doin my work but nothin big. We talk throughout the whole week and she thinks I'm kind of cute/whatever and she wants to see me this summer. And then it happens. I asked her how old she was and what grade she was in, and she's only 14. I'm turning 17 next month. Needless to say also, her body and mind doesnt emulate a 14 year old AT ALL, so it was very weird for her to actually be 14 in my mind. She is however, but is turning 15 pretty soon, so I'll be roughly 2 years older than her. I've never gone for any girls this young, and honestly feel like maybe I'm movin in a different direction than girls at this age and I should leave her alone. Then again, I've honestly been thinking about her a lot and would be lying if I said I wasn't attracted. Advice?

Mushi · 06-15-2007, 11:05 PM

Don't worry, there is usually an age difference between husband and wife. Two years seems like a lot now, but it'll seem like nothing when you're both in your forties.

Eagle Eye · 06-15-2007, 11:54 PM

I seriously doubt that they'll be stayin together that long.

Man, it all depends on maturity, my ex was 15 when we started dating and I was 17, we still talk and I'm damn near 18 (she's 16 now). As long as she's mature enough and her parents don't completely freak out, I dn't see any harm.

When you get the case where you gotta play big bro or dad, that becomes a problem.

Brandon2390 · 06-15-2007, 11:55 PM

Yea, the only thing is when you're a teenager, you literally do all your maturing throughout those years. So I mean when you're 17, it's miles away from somebody who's 13 as far as maturity goes. Usually I can see it, but this girl acts so much more mature than her age tells me..

EDIT: Dre thanks for the input. I was thinkin along the same lines too, I may try for it, but idk yet. Gonna let things happen for another week or two and maybe chill with her once when school finally gets out for good.

Eagle Eye · 06-16-2007, 12:15 AM

Yeah, you gotta give it a bit before you jump into it. You may see one side now, but you gotta nkow how she handles certain things man, you gotta read things like that.

~Man I've been playing football WAY too long lol~

Mushi · 06-16-2007, 12:19 AM

Yah, I jumped the gun a bit there, didn't I? Teenage relationships...

Demonicus Prime · 06-16-2007, 01:04 AM

^In Soviet Relationships, gun jumps you!

...I don't see any harm in this. She's obviously mature fo her age, and you like her. A-B and Connect the Dots.

ZeldaGirl · 06-16-2007, 02:06 AM

Although, remember, most girls mature earlier than boys, so it is possible that she is ready... just take it slow, for a while, but if you think it's compatible, why not go for it?

Godot · 06-16-2007, 09:27 AM

Dude. It's just a few years. If you were say, 40, you might as well put the GPS bracelet on.

...And don't feel bad. Introbulus is turning 20. =\ I'm 18.

Eagle Eye · 06-16-2007, 11:24 AM

^ But it all goes back to what we were saying Tik (that's you right?)

There's a huge difference in maturity from the age of 13 to 17, you begin to learn a lot within those years, and really, grow up. Big difference between a relationship with a 40-36 year old, and a 12-16 year old.

**Valigarmander** · 06-16-2007, 11:27 AM

Go for it. But not too fast. If she's mature, and you both like each other, then by all means, let it happen, babe!

***CaptHayfever*** · 06-16-2007, 12:35 PM

Essentially, you'd be a senior dating a freshman. In cases where the younger party is as (emotionally) mature as you're implying, this is usually only frowned upon by the snobbier seniors and the more uptight freshman parents.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

Brandon2390 · 06-16-2007, 03:59 PM

Thanks for the input guys, I can really see where most of you guys are coming from. To Capt - She's gonna be a sophomore next year and I'll be a senior.

Godot · 06-16-2007, 04:43 PM

Yes, it's Tickle Bug.

Kil'jaeden · 06-17-2007, 07:34 PM

I think parents and transportation would be a bigger problem. Hell, I dated an 18 year old when I was 16, and she didn't have her liscense, but I did. But at 15 you can't get a liscense. So parents would be the main thing.

Katyrna · 06-17-2007, 10:15 PM

It's rare for it to work out but I've been lucky enough to see it happen. A friend of mine started dating her current boyfriend when she was a freshman. At the time, he was a senior. We just graduated a few weeks ago, and they're still happily a couple, even with him being a senior in college this upcoming year. Her twin sister similarly has been dating a guy from the same high school graduating class as the other guy. They're really lucky, but they're all great people. They deserve it. It was really inspiring.

Typhlame · 06-17-2007, 10:37 PM

I have to agree with Val.

***CaptHayfever*** · 06-18-2007, 11:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brandon2390

To Capt - She's gonna be a sophomore next year and I'll be a senior.

All the better for your case, then.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

06-15-2007, 10:58 PM	#1
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,519 Thanks: 7 Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts	Ight, I honestly need a different opinion on this.. Alright, so a few weeks ago my friend and I rapped at a talent show at my high school. Needless to say, we were the best act there and were showered with compliments after. So I meet this girl's friend there who I start to talk to, and a few days later she introduces me to another one of her friends. The girl and I talk for a little while, and yea, I think she's kind of attractive. So I stayed talkin with this girl for awhile. And so I was working an actual wedding at my parents' banquet place as a server last weekend(They own a banquet business and I work there.), and I see the girl who I've started talking with there, which is odd. I talk to her for a little bit while I'm doin my work but nothin big. We talk throughout the whole week and she thinks I'm kind of cute/whatever and she wants to see me this summer. And then it happens. I asked her how old she was and what grade she was in, and she's only 14. I'm turning 17 next month. Needless to say also, her body and mind doesnt emulate a 14 year old AT ALL, so it was very weird for her to actually be 14 in my mind. She is however, but is turning 15 pretty soon, so I'll be roughly 2 years older than her. I've never gone for any girls this young, and honestly feel like maybe I'm movin in a different direction than girls at this age and I should leave her alone. Then again, I've honestly been thinking about her a lot and would be lying if I said I wasn't attracted. Advice?

06-15-2007, 11:05 PM	#2
Mushi Derp Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Looking at you. I can read your mind. Gender: Posts: 6,982 Thanks: 179 Thanked 351 Times in 271 Posts	Don't worry, there is usually an age difference between husband and wife. Two years seems like a lot now, but it'll seem like nothing when you're both in your forties. __________________

06-16-2007, 12:19 AM	#6
Mushi Derp Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Looking at you. I can read your mind. Gender: Posts: 6,982 Thanks: 179 Thanked 351 Times in 271 Posts	Yah, I jumped the gun a bit there, didn't I? Teenage relationships... __________________

06-15-2007, 11:54 PM	#3
Eagle Eye Diddy bops Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Birmingham, AL Gender: Posts: 15,014 Thanks: 1,616 Thanked 1,084 Times in 597 Posts	I seriously doubt that they'll be stayin together that long. Man, it all depends on maturity, my ex was 15 when we started dating and I was 17, we still talk and I'm damn near 18 (she's 16 now). As long as she's mature enough and her parents don't completely freak out, I dn't see any harm. When you get the case where you gotta play big bro or dad, that becomes a problem.

06-15-2007, 11:55 PM	#4
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,519 Thanks: 7 Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts	Yea, the only thing is when you're a teenager, you literally do all your maturing throughout those years. So I mean when you're 17, it's miles away from somebody who's 13 as far as maturity goes. Usually I can see it, but this girl acts so much more mature than her age tells me.. EDIT: Dre thanks for the input. I was thinkin along the same lines too, I may try for it, but idk yet. Gonna let things happen for another week or two and maybe chill with her once when school finally gets out for good.

06-16-2007, 12:15 AM	#5
Eagle Eye Diddy bops Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Birmingham, AL Gender: Posts: 15,014 Thanks: 1,616 Thanked 1,084 Times in 597 Posts	Yeah, you gotta give it a bit before you jump into it. You may see one side now, but you gotta nkow how she handles certain things man, you gotta read things like that. ~Man I've been playing football WAY too long lol~

06-16-2007, 01:04 AM	#7
Demonicus Prime Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: I Pity The Fool Who Confuses Me With Someone Other Than YoshiFreak. Gender: Posts: 3,108 Thanks: 648 Thanked 129 Times in 87 Posts	^In Soviet Relationships, gun jumps you! ...I don't see any harm in this. She's obviously mature fo her age, and you like her. A-B and Connect the Dots.

06-16-2007, 02:06 AM	#8
ZeldaGirl Awesome member Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 15,896 Thanks: 1,130 Thanked 1,919 Times in 1,046 Posts	Although, remember, most girls mature earlier than boys, so it is possible that she is ready... just take it slow, for a while, but if you think it's compatible, why not go for it?

06-16-2007, 09:27 AM	#9
Godot Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Coffee. Gender: Posts: 6,054 Thanks: 169 Thanked 161 Times in 102 Posts	Dude. It's just a few years. If you were say, 40, you might as well put the GPS bracelet on. ...And don't feel bad. Introbulus is turning 20. =\ I'm 18.

06-16-2007, 11:24 AM	#10
Eagle Eye Diddy bops Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Birmingham, AL Gender: Posts: 15,014 Thanks: 1,616 Thanked 1,084 Times in 597 Posts	^ But it all goes back to what we were saying Tik (that's you right?) There's a huge difference in maturity from the age of 13 to 17, you begin to learn a lot within those years, and really, grow up. Big difference between a relationship with a 40-36 year old, and a 12-16 year old.

06-16-2007, 11:27 AM	#11
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	Go for it. But not too fast. If she's mature, and you both like each other, then by all means, let it happen, babe!

06-16-2007, 12:35 PM	#12
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,659 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	Essentially, you'd be a senior dating a freshman. In cases where the younger party is as (emotionally) mature as you're implying, this is usually only frowned upon by the snobbier seniors and the more uptight freshman parents. And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

06-16-2007, 03:59 PM	#13
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,519 Thanks: 7 Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts	Thanks for the input guys, I can really see where most of you guys are coming from. To Capt - She's gonna be a sophomore next year and I'll be a senior.

06-16-2007, 04:43 PM	#14
Godot Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Coffee. Gender: Posts: 6,054 Thanks: 169 Thanked 161 Times in 102 Posts	Yes, it's Tickle Bug.

06-17-2007, 07:34 PM	#15
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 2,132 Thanks: 21 Thanked 146 Times in 99 Posts	I think parents and transportation would be a bigger problem. Hell, I dated an 18 year old when I was 16, and she didn't have her liscense, but I did. But at 15 you can't get a liscense. So parents would be the main thing.

06-17-2007, 10:15 PM	#16
Katyrna Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Hiding in the band locker from the man with an air bazooka... Gender: Posts: 243 Thanks: 6 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	It's rare for it to work out but I've been lucky enough to see it happen. A friend of mine started dating her current boyfriend when she was a freshman. At the time, he was a senior. We just graduated a few weeks ago, and they're still happily a couple, even with him being a senior in college this upcoming year. Her twin sister similarly has been dating a guy from the same high school graduating class as the other guy. They're really lucky, but they're all great people. They deserve it. It was really inspiring.

06-17-2007, 10:37 PM	#17
Typhlame Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Probably eating. Gender: Posts: 4,284 Thanks: 709 Thanked 155 Times in 110 Posts	I have to agree with Val.