Helpful advice for the shy type

Godot · 06-19-2007, 11:12 AM

Now, there have been a lot of topics lately about the shy-types wanting to ask the girls out. Now, a lot of people/myself/whoever has been saying just talk to her and get to know her. The people who come for help sometimes shuns away. Okay, you have awkwardness. You even probably think you’re not too good/lanky/dorky/whatever. That she may never date a loser like you. (not calling anyone a loser, just saying the mindset that you may be in, yaddayaddayadda.)

But people, the only way you are going to get what you want is by talking and trying to form something here. Don't be abrupt and just say “GO ON A DATE WITH ME PLZ”. Unless if she’s the kind that likes life in the fast lane, take it slowly. Chances are, she isn’t going anywhere fast for a while. Get to know her.

And there’s nothing wrong with being a friend, too!

Friendship is built off of attraction and a bond for each other. You would be surprise to know that a good friendship has its benefits as well. Not saying that the friendship may not work or anything. But if she likes you much, she may be ready to take it to the second level.

But if you suddenly find out you don’t like you or she doesn’t like you…

Let it go. It may be hard at the beginning, but at least if you know trouble is coming up, it probably won’t be hard for you later. Please use common sense and know your limitation.

And if you feel lonely and rejected…

There’s plenty other fishes in the sea. This isn’t the world where she is the only female and she is surrounded by bunch of men. There are other girls out there waiting for you. There are many different personalities. Take time in your young life (well, I assume you’re young.) And try to date other girls. You may be surprise to find some you like and don’t, and maybe even you will learn something about yourself!

Hopefully, you will take into account what I have said. And as always, thank you for reading this and happy girlfriend-hunting!

-Tikal

**Loot** · 06-19-2007, 12:04 PM

Boy, this is better advice than mine: Grow some balls. The testosterone really helps.

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Originally Posted by GOOD IS DUMB

Now, there have been a lot of topics lately about the shy-types wanting to ask the girls out.

So shy girls can't ask out guys?

Bomby · 06-19-2007, 12:10 PM

It's against the law.

Godot · 06-19-2007, 12:20 PM

:P Just do role-reversal.

Swordmaster Link · 06-19-2007, 12:36 PM

Of course there are a lot of shy guys out there, we're the ones who have to do all the emotionally stressful stuff like ask girls out in the first place.

Godot · 06-19-2007, 12:48 PM

Yeah, but you don't have to be total wimps about it. We are like you guys. Except. You know. Without the penis.

Kil'jaeden · 06-19-2007, 11:38 PM

How do you account for the blood drinking and soul eating if you are like men?

Swordmaster Link · 06-19-2007, 11:55 PM

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Originally Posted by GOOD IS DUMB

Yeah, but you don't have to be total wimps about it. We are like you guys. Except. You know. Without the penis.

I wholeheartedly agree with you. I'm just sayin, cut us some slack ladies.

Joker · 06-20-2007, 03:21 PM

This my friends is all any shy person needs, an old family recipe that we like to call liquid courage !!!

A few shots of this and you'll be talking to who ever, when ever, with confidence you never knew you had.....assuming you can still talk and walk after a few shots

Swordmaster Link · 06-20-2007, 04:47 PM

Katyrna · 06-20-2007, 05:16 PM

=] Seconded. XD

***Cosmonautical*** · 06-22-2007, 09:23 PM

You can be shy, or in my case, probably just self-absorbed, and still get ladies with little to no effort. It's how I've always done things - just stay the course of life, make friends, and apparently allow them to be charmed by my, well, charms. People are so afraid of doing something nice for someone else, it's like they think they're asking a girl to marry them by picking a flower.

***Marilink*** · 06-22-2007, 11:02 PM

AI would know, being the ladies' man he is.

Sean P Kelly · 06-30-2007, 10:36 PM

I want to post a reply, but every thought that comes into my head is negative (and my counsellor wants me to block those thoughts)

I will say in reference to the alcohol advice. Last year, I drank a lot of Smirnoff Twisted to try and release my inhibitions. It didn't work, so I kept drinking and....you don't want to know how it ends. In other words, Joker's advice is, well a joke.

Joker · 07-02-2007, 02:54 PM

^ My parents found love while lost in a drunken stupor, my son himself was engineered using that very drink the night his mother and I went out to party....so you sir....are wrong

Chocolate Ninja · 07-02-2007, 04:03 PM

Eh, that only shows it works in making you forget the contraception, thus preparing you for the possibly unwanted burden of fatherhood. So the non-liquid courage is probably the best route in this case.

Most advice I've heard that sounds sage involves just mentally kicking yourself in the head a few times and approaching the girl directly. Easier said than done, though.

Joker · 07-03-2007, 03:56 PM

^ you sir are no fun

06-19-2007, 11:12 AM	#1
Godot Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Coffee. Gender: Posts: 6,054 Thanks: 169 Thanked 161 Times in 102 Posts	Helpful advice for the shy type Now, there have been a lot of topics lately about the shy-types wanting to ask the girls out. Now, a lot of people/myself/whoever has been saying just talk to her and get to know her. The people who come for help sometimes shuns away. Okay, you have awkwardness. You even probably think you’re not too good/lanky/dorky/whatever. That she may never date a loser like you. (not calling anyone a loser, just saying the mindset that you may be in, yaddayaddayadda.) But people, the only way you are going to get what you want is by talking and trying to form something here. Don't be abrupt and just say “GO ON A DATE WITH ME PLZ”. Unless if she’s the kind that likes life in the fast lane, take it slowly. Chances are, she isn’t going anywhere fast for a while. Get to know her. And there’s nothing wrong with being a friend, too! Friendship is built off of attraction and a bond for each other. You would be surprise to know that a good friendship has its benefits as well. Not saying that the friendship may not work or anything. But if she likes you much, she may be ready to take it to the second level. But if you suddenly find out you don’t like you or she doesn’t like you… Let it go. It may be hard at the beginning, but at least if you know trouble is coming up, it probably won’t be hard for you later. Please use common sense and know your limitation. And if you feel lonely and rejected… There’s plenty other fishes in the sea. This isn’t the world where she is the only female and she is surrounded by bunch of men. There are other girls out there waiting for you. There are many different personalities. Take time in your young life (well, I assume you’re young.) And try to date other girls. You may be surprise to find some you like and don’t, and maybe even you will learn something about yourself! Hopefully, you will take into account what I have said. And as always, thank you for reading this and happy girlfriend-hunting! -Tikal

06-19-2007, 12:10 PM	#3
Bomby You just freaking blew Joe Biden's mind! Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: WHAT?house Gender: Posts: 19,491 Thanks: 513 Thanked 1,449 Times in 849 Posts Blog Entries: 5	It's against the law.

06-19-2007, 12:20 PM	#4
Godot Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Coffee. Gender: Posts: 6,054 Thanks: 169 Thanked 161 Times in 102 Posts	:P Just do role-reversal.

06-19-2007, 12:36 PM	#5
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 32,132 Thanks: 253 Thanked 951 Times in 640 Posts Blog Entries: 2	Of course there are a lot of shy guys out there, we're the ones who have to do all the emotionally stressful stuff like ask girls out in the first place.

06-19-2007, 12:48 PM	#6
Godot Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Coffee. Gender: Posts: 6,054 Thanks: 169 Thanked 161 Times in 102 Posts	Yeah, but you don't have to be total wimps about it. We are like you guys. Except. You know. Without the penis.

06-19-2007, 11:38 PM	#7
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 2,132 Thanks: 21 Thanked 146 Times in 99 Posts	How do you account for the blood drinking and soul eating if you are like men?

06-20-2007, 03:21 PM	#9
Joker Lord of Vampires / God of Vengeance Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: The Planet of Eternal Darkness Gender: Posts: 11,117 Thanks: 3,273 Thanked 580 Times in 364 Posts Blog Entries: 6	This my friends is all any shy person needs, an old family recipe that we like to call liquid courage !!! A few shots of this and you'll be talking to who ever, when ever, with confidence you never knew you had.....assuming you can still talk and walk after a few shots

06-20-2007, 04:47 PM	#10
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 32,132 Thanks: 253 Thanked 951 Times in 640 Posts Blog Entries: 2

06-20-2007, 05:16 PM	#11
Katyrna Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Hiding in the band locker from the man with an air bazooka... Gender: Posts: 243 Thanks: 6 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	=] Seconded. XD

06-22-2007, 09:23 PM	#12
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,100 Thanks: 2,151 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	You can be shy, or in my case, probably just self-absorbed, and still get ladies with little to no effort. It's how I've always done things - just stay the course of life, make friends, and apparently allow them to be charmed by my, well, charms. People are so afraid of doing something nice for someone else, it's like they think they're asking a girl to marry them by picking a flower.

06-22-2007, 11:02 PM	#13
*Marilink* Gotta catch 'em all! Supermod! Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Location, Location. Gender: Posts: 29,118 Thanks: 2,535 Thanked 1,822 Times in 1,007 Posts	AI would know, being the ladies' man he is.

06-30-2007, 10:36 PM	#14
Sean P Kelly Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Toronto, ON, Canada Gender: Posts: 3,789 Thanks: 19 Thanked 58 Times in 46 Posts	I want to post a reply, but every thought that comes into my head is negative (and my counsellor wants me to block those thoughts) I will say in reference to the alcohol advice. Last year, I drank a lot of Smirnoff Twisted to try and release my inhibitions. It didn't work, so I kept drinking and....you don't want to know how it ends. In other words, Joker's advice is, well a joke.

07-02-2007, 02:54 PM	#15
Joker Lord of Vampires / God of Vengeance Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: The Planet of Eternal Darkness Gender: Posts: 11,117 Thanks: 3,273 Thanked 580 Times in 364 Posts Blog Entries: 6	^ My parents found love while lost in a drunken stupor, my son himself was engineered using that very drink the night his mother and I went out to party....so you sir....are wrong

07-02-2007, 04:03 PM	#16
Chocolate Ninja Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Wouldn't you like to know? Gender: Posts: 55 Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Eh, that only shows it works in making you forget the contraception, thus preparing you for the possibly unwanted burden of fatherhood. So the non-liquid courage is probably the best route in this case. Most advice I've heard that sounds sage involves just mentally kicking yourself in the head a few times and approaching the girl directly. Easier said than done, though.

07-03-2007, 03:56 PM	#17
Joker Lord of Vampires / God of Vengeance Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: The Planet of Eternal Darkness Gender: Posts: 11,117 Thanks: 3,273 Thanked 580 Times in 364 Posts Blog Entries: 6	^ you sir are no fun