Ok, I really need help!

06-21-2007, 11:23 AM

Ok, this is the last place I can turn to. All other forums I tried to get help on just ended up in no one helping.
Theres this girl that was in all my classes last semester, and I started to talk to her around febuary. And the more and more that school went on, the more and more I started to get feelings for her. Then around May, I found her myspace and I added her. And almost everytime that I see her online, we talk till like midnight. And ever since I added her, I haven't been feeling like myself, I am hardly hungry, I read her comments on myspace over and over again and I have even started listening to love songs. Now, most people who would be reading this topic would say "Just go for it man", well thats the thing. She already has a boyfriend. And If I tell her how I feel, wont she hate me or somethin, and I would just be picking trouble with her boyfriend.

User Name · 06-21-2007, 11:52 AM

Bart, there's basically nothing you can do. I hate to say that, but if she has a boyfriend, she's probably talking to you as a friend. Don't underestimate the power of friendship. Stay friends with her because if you stay up talking to her, your friendship builds. I'd say there's not much to do to start a relationship with her because she's already committed to someone else. If it were me, I would just be her friend.

Platinum · 06-21-2007, 12:17 PM

Friend Zone....

not a bad place to be, but not a good one either. I would go for it, tell her how you feel? She if she feels the same way... You can always stay firends. or you can just wait... but i've been down that road. (not fun)

06-21-2007, 12:19 PM

I was talking to alex about this earlier.
He told me to wait and once their relationship is over to make my move, but wouldn't that just be taking advantage of her on the rebound?

Rainbow Dash · 06-21-2007, 12:22 PM

I thought you left forever.

No one ever leaves VGF permanently. No one.

Platinum · 06-21-2007, 12:23 PM

yes and no... but, waiting can last a long time... and you never know maybe she'll like you better than her boyfriend. (how long have they been dating?) Maybe just flirt a little and make her know your interested in her more than a friend.

**Valigarmander** · 06-21-2007, 12:23 PM

Well, Bartman, I can't say I haven't been in the same position before.

If you two really are close friends, then just confide with her your feelings. It doesn't have to be let out into the open. You probably know nothing can happen between you two right now, and it's best to just remain friends. Don't push for anything. Trust me, it's best to just stay friends.

Chunky: He never said forever. In fact, he said he'd be coming back every now and then.

Swordmaster Link · 06-21-2007, 12:45 PM

Well you can't do anything about it now, if she's seeing someone...just go with what UN was saying, just try to form a friendship with her now, because it's always a plus if the girl you like feels like she can confide in you and stuff. That way when/if she breaks up with this guy, you would have somewhat of an outside shot...but if it happens don't do it immediately, cause depending on how thinks shake out she might be in a bad way and she'll need the proverbial shoulder to cry on. So you'd have to wait awhile, but I'm sure you can feel it out.

06-21-2007, 12:57 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Chunky Kong12345

I thought you left forever.

No one ever leaves VGF permanently. No one.

Read the damn topic again, I never said I was leaving forever.

Platinum- She said for 3 months.

**Galefore** · 06-21-2007, 01:07 PM

I was recently in a similar postition, nixing the "she had a boyfriend" scenario. I went for the direct approach. Now, for me, it backfired like all get out, but for you, I dunno. What's she like, what's her personality? Honestly, as hard as it is to swallow that heart in your throat and accept it, for now it's best to stay friends. If you push to hard, you'll lose her.

Platinum · 06-21-2007, 01:18 PM

^ thats all right

Its really all up to you.
Does she ever talk to you about her boyfriend?

***Ace Mercury*** · 06-21-2007, 03:26 PM

I suggest you also look and immerse yourself with other girls; talk with them too. You may be attracted to her because you're simply blocking out anyone else. I know that's the case with me.

Anyways, remember there's always a chance up until she becomes a fiancée. Still, try not to let puppy love blind yourself.

Kil'jaeden · 06-21-2007, 04:09 PM

All this may indicate she is interested in you while she is with this guy.

06-21-2007, 04:56 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Conan Edogawa

I was recently in a similar postition, nixing the "she had a boyfriend" scenario. I went for the direct approach. Now, for me, it backfired like all get out, but for you, I dunno. What's she like, what's her personality? Honestly, as hard as it is to swallow that heart in your throat and accept it, for now it's best to stay friends. If you push to hard, you'll lose her.

She is like one of those people that can smile even the worst situations.

Quote:

Originally Posted by Platinum

^ thats all right

Its really all up to you.
Does she ever talk to you about her boyfriend?

Yeah, sometimes. And almost everytime she has a problem with him, she always come to me first.

Chocolate Ninja · 06-30-2007, 08:23 AM

Hmm. How bad are the problems she has with him? If they're bad enough, and she's still with him, you might be firmly wedged in the friend's zone.

Brandon2390 · 06-30-2007, 11:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CantTouchThis

I was talking to alex about this earlier.
He told me to wait and once their relationship is over to make my move, but wouldn't that just be taking advantage of her on the rebound?

Yes, but sadly, thats the only way you'll get her.

07-13-2007, 05:09 PM

Wow, I didn't know you posted that.
But she broke up with her boyfriend like 3 weeks ago, all I have been doing is showing her that I can be a good boyfriend, and flirting, yeah I'm good at that

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The thing that I dont know is I dont know is when I tell her? I need a sign or somethin.

Brandon2390 · 07-16-2007, 10:05 AM

Invite her over your place, start flirting, then go for the kiss.

Bomby · 07-16-2007, 10:36 AM

This sounds somehow... familiar...

I'll tell you what you do. You wait it out. You hope you're not staying an hour and a half out of town by the time she eventually breaks up with her boyfriend. And when you see her again...

Mmm... I'm giving Chow Mo-Wan advice again. Damn me.

Wow, I definitely read this whole topic. Looks like this is being resolved or something. Whatever...

07-16-2007, 06:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brandon2390

Invite her over your place, start flirting, then go for the kiss.

I did that before I even read you post. Except it wasn't at my place. It was at the park.

06-21-2007, 11:23 AM	#1
Silly Attention Seeking child Guest Posts: n/a	Ok, I really need help! Ok, this is the last place I can turn to. All other forums I tried to get help on just ended up in no one helping. Theres this girl that was in all my classes last semester, and I started to talk to her around febuary. And the more and more that school went on, the more and more I started to get feelings for her. Then around May, I found her myspace and I added her. And almost everytime that I see her online, we talk till like midnight. And ever since I added her, I haven't been feeling like myself, I am hardly hungry, I read her comments on myspace over and over again and I have even started listening to love songs. Now, most people who would be reading this topic would say "Just go for it man", well thats the thing. She already has a boyfriend. And If I tell her how I feel, wont she hate me or somethin, and I would just be picking trouble with her boyfriend.

06-21-2007, 11:52 AM	#2
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham City Gender: Posts: 7,209 Thanks: 701 Thanked 536 Times in 367 Posts	Bart, there's basically nothing you can do. I hate to say that, but if she has a boyfriend, she's probably talking to you as a friend. Don't underestimate the power of friendship. Stay friends with her because if you stay up talking to her, your friendship builds. I'd say there's not much to do to start a relationship with her because she's already committed to someone else. If it were me, I would just be her friend.

06-21-2007, 12:17 PM	#3
Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Wv Gender: Posts: 1,369 Thanks: 48 Thanked 21 Times in 21 Posts	Friend Zone.... not a bad place to be, but not a good one either. I would go for it, tell her how you feel? She if she feels the same way... You can always stay firends. or you can just wait... but i've been down that road. (not fun)

06-21-2007, 12:19 PM	#4
Silly Attention Seeking child Guest Posts: n/a	I was talking to alex about this earlier. He told me to wait and once their relationship is over to make my move, but wouldn't that just be taking advantage of her on the rebound?

06-21-2007, 12:22 PM	#5
Rainbow Dash been dreamin', i've been waitin' Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: a bomb-ass cloud house bachelorette pad Gender: Posts: 24,401 Thanks: 173 Thanked 1,179 Times in 716 Posts	I thought you left forever. No one ever leaves VGF permanently. No one.

06-21-2007, 12:23 PM	#6
Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Wv Gender: Posts: 1,369 Thanks: 48 Thanked 21 Times in 21 Posts	yes and no... but, waiting can last a long time... and you never know maybe she'll like you better than her boyfriend. (how long have they been dating?) Maybe just flirt a little and make her know your interested in her more than a friend.

06-21-2007, 12:23 PM	#7
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	Well, Bartman, I can't say I haven't been in the same position before. If you two really are close friends, then just confide with her your feelings. It doesn't have to be let out into the open. You probably know nothing can happen between you two right now, and it's best to just remain friends. Don't push for anything. Trust me, it's best to just stay friends. Chunky: He never said forever. In fact, he said he'd be coming back every now and then.

06-21-2007, 12:45 PM	#8
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 32,132 Thanks: 253 Thanked 951 Times in 640 Posts Blog Entries: 2	Well you can't do anything about it now, if she's seeing someone...just go with what UN was saying, just try to form a friendship with her now, because it's always a plus if the girl you like feels like she can confide in you and stuff. That way when/if she breaks up with this guy, you would have somewhat of an outside shot...but if it happens don't do it immediately, cause depending on how thinks shake out she might be in a bad way and she'll need the proverbial shoulder to cry on. So you'd have to wait awhile, but I'm sure you can feel it out.

06-21-2007, 01:07 PM	#10
Galefore EXPLOSION GOD OF MUSIC Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Some studio somewhere Gender: Posts: 8,275 Thanks: 1,361 Thanked 826 Times in 535 Posts Blog Entries: 5	I was recently in a similar postition, nixing the "she had a boyfriend" scenario. I went for the direct approach. Now, for me, it backfired like all get out, but for you, I dunno. What's she like, what's her personality? Honestly, as hard as it is to swallow that heart in your throat and accept it, for now it's best to stay friends. If you push to hard, you'll lose her.

06-21-2007, 01:18 PM	#11
Platinum Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Wv Gender: Posts: 1,369 Thanks: 48 Thanked 21 Times in 21 Posts	^ thats all right Its really all up to you. Does she ever talk to you about her boyfriend?

06-21-2007, 03:26 PM	#12
*Ace Mercury* Marshmallow Knight ☆ Supermod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Southern Ontario Gender: Posts: 23,274 Thanks: 568 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,582 Posts Blog Entries: 1	I suggest you also look and immerse yourself with other girls; talk with them too. You may be attracted to her because you're simply blocking out anyone else. I know that's the case with me. Anyways, remember there's always a chance up until she becomes a fiancée. Still, try not to let puppy love blind yourself.

06-21-2007, 04:09 PM	#13
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 2,132 Thanks: 21 Thanked 146 Times in 99 Posts	All this may indicate she is interested in you while she is with this guy.

06-30-2007, 08:23 AM	#15
Chocolate Ninja Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Wouldn't you like to know? Gender: Posts: 55 Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Hmm. How bad are the problems she has with him? If they're bad enough, and she's still with him, you might be firmly wedged in the friend's zone.

07-13-2007, 05:09 PM	#17
Silly Attention Seeking child Guest Posts: n/a	Wow, I didn't know you posted that. But she broke up with her boyfriend like 3 weeks ago, all I have been doing is showing her that I can be a good boyfriend, and flirting, yeah I'm good at that . The thing that I dont know is I dont know is when I tell her? I need a sign or somethin.

07-16-2007, 10:05 AM	#18
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,519 Thanks: 7 Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts	Invite her over your place, start flirting, then go for the kiss.

07-16-2007, 10:36 AM	#19
Bomby You just freaking blew Joe Biden's mind! Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: WHAT?house Gender: Posts: 19,491 Thanks: 513 Thanked 1,449 Times in 849 Posts Blog Entries: 5	This sounds somehow... familiar... I'll tell you what you do. You wait it out. You hope you're not staying an hour and a half out of town by the time she eventually breaks up with her boyfriend. And when you see her again... Mmm... I'm giving Chow Mo-Wan advice again. Damn me. Wow, I definitely read this whole topic. Looks like this is being resolved or something. Whatever...