Is it over?

Blake · 11-05-2007, 01:38 PM

Hi everyone, I wanted to ask a question regarding a chance I had that I passed up.

Last semester I had a class with this girl in philosophy. We were first assigned in a mini-group assignment by our professor and I found it difficult to focus on the assignment. My philosophy class was full of a lot of pretty girls and she was one of them so I was already starting to get doubts that she might be a mean person or something(I have this strange thing where I tend to think more attractive women are usually more stuck up and whatnot, sorry if I offend anyone. My paranoia is ridiculous).

Anyhow one day we were walking to class and I began to talk to her again casually asking about this group project that was due by the end of semester and whatnot and she seemed like a decent person. So every day I would share a comment or two with her in class about some of the things I thought were stupid in the class (such as the theory that all humans know nothing at all, everything is an illusion and this other strange case where our Professor said he was vegan and basically claimed it was easy to become one even if you eat a lot of meat).

I never really had the courage the confront her outside of class, I almost asked her where she was from one time but I hesitated and then she asked this girl about homework in another class once our class was over.

And so it seemed like she had an interest in me soon and I completely blew an opportunity. On the last day of class she said she was from a state(I won't say which) but it happened to also be my home state before moving down here. I could have used this to my advantage to strike up a very interesting conversation, for I always go back 'home' over the summer.

And basically if I had acted I could have probably seen her during the semester and during the summer.

And now summer has already passed and now here comes a question(I dont even know how to describe what kind of question this is).

But as of right now I don't see or know anything about her right now. I tried to find her on facebook but I don't think she has one.

But my question is, is there any way I could possibly maybe find her again despite all this against me? I don't want this so sound like stalking at all, but I just need suggestions. I was wondering if I should ask some of my friends if they know who she is and from there wonder if I can meet up with her.

Again, I don't want to seem like I'm stalking so that's why I need advice. I just hate college in this aspect because people come and go and I don't really have any permanent friends. What I really think I need is a relationship with someone that will last during school and outside school.

Please comment and give me advice on whether I can still get together with this girl, if I just plain lost my chance, or if my idea is absurd or alright.

Dylan · 11-05-2007, 02:32 PM

I know how you feel, man; I was in the same situation last year, but I actually made an effort to ask her out (Turns out she had a boyfriend, but the point remains valid.).

It really is too bad you didn't act sooner. I think at this point, it might be time to count your losses and move on. Any effort to try and get in touch with her might be considered a bit stalker-esque, depending on how you go about it, or how she takes it. The best advice I can offer is to learn from your mistakes and don't be afraid.

-Dylan

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 11-05-2007, 08:43 PM

Unfortunately, that's a hard one. If you have her surname, you might be able to look it up in the white pages and start calling all the families in your home state looking for her XD

Seriously, though. It'll be very difficult to track her down, and who knows what she'll think if you do. Maybe fate will smile kindly on you and you'll meet her again, but it might just be better to move on. *hug*

SephirothKirby · 11-09-2007, 04:55 PM

^

*SHORYUKEN*

All I really have to say is I'm sorry. I'd say more, but they're kicking me out.

Totally Kennerson · 11-09-2007, 05:04 PM

Sorry, I had to.

Seriously though, you could find her by doing the phone book thing. But you should think about how she would react to you "somehow" finding out her phone number. Try to find out her email first, if possible. Do you have any friends that knew her?

Dylan · 11-09-2007, 05:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lord Zombie

I want to hit you with something, but at the same time, I want to give you a high five. I am conflicted.

-Dylan

Blake · 11-10-2007, 10:40 AM

Thanks a lot for the advice guys. I just needed someone to wake me up from my foolish stupor(if I used that right, too lazy to check). I got over her when summer started but recently one of my friends mentioned her the other week and it got me all emo and whatnot. But yeah I should be good. It definitely was a good opportunity I passed up, probably my best yet but oh well.

As for contacting her, I don't really have any permanent friends at college. I feel like I'd be somewhat using the friends I have if they know her because I don't interact with them on a daily basis, and haven't done anything in which they owe me for a favor like this.

I'll be fine single I guess, lol. My 20th birthday is coming up November 18. Maybe I'll get my first date in my twenties

11-05-2007, 01:38 PM	#1
Blake Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: A generic place such as a house Gender: Posts: 4,628 Thanks: 1,489 Thanked 206 Times in 148 Posts	Is it over? Hi everyone, I wanted to ask a question regarding a chance I had that I passed up. Last semester I had a class with this girl in philosophy. We were first assigned in a mini-group assignment by our professor and I found it difficult to focus on the assignment. My philosophy class was full of a lot of pretty girls and she was one of them so I was already starting to get doubts that she might be a mean person or something(I have this strange thing where I tend to think more attractive women are usually more stuck up and whatnot, sorry if I offend anyone. My paranoia is ridiculous). Anyhow one day we were walking to class and I began to talk to her again casually asking about this group project that was due by the end of semester and whatnot and she seemed like a decent person. So every day I would share a comment or two with her in class about some of the things I thought were stupid in the class (such as the theory that all humans know nothing at all, everything is an illusion and this other strange case where our Professor said he was vegan and basically claimed it was easy to become one even if you eat a lot of meat). I never really had the courage the confront her outside of class, I almost asked her where she was from one time but I hesitated and then she asked this girl about homework in another class once our class was over. And so it seemed like she had an interest in me soon and I completely blew an opportunity. On the last day of class she said she was from a state(I won't say which) but it happened to also be my home state before moving down here. I could have used this to my advantage to strike up a very interesting conversation, for I always go back 'home' over the summer. And basically if I had acted I could have probably seen her during the semester and during the summer. And now summer has already passed and now here comes a question(I dont even know how to describe what kind of question this is). But as of right now I don't see or know anything about her right now. I tried to find her on facebook but I don't think she has one. But my question is, is there any way I could possibly maybe find her again despite all this against me? I don't want this so sound like stalking at all, but I just need suggestions. I was wondering if I should ask some of my friends if they know who she is and from there wonder if I can meet up with her. Again, I don't want to seem like I'm stalking so that's why I need advice. I just hate college in this aspect because people come and go and I don't really have any permanent friends. What I really think I need is a relationship with someone that will last during school and outside school. Please comment and give me advice on whether I can still get together with this girl, if I just plain lost my chance, or if my idea is absurd or alright.

11-05-2007, 02:32 PM	#2
Dylan Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Teenage Wasteland Gender: Posts: 7,790 Thanks: 1,632 Thanked 1,816 Times in 773 Posts	I know how you feel, man; I was in the same situation last year, but I actually made an effort to ask her out (Turns out she had a boyfriend, but the point remains valid.). It really is too bad you didn't act sooner. I think at this point, it might be time to count your losses and move on. Any effort to try and get in touch with her might be considered a bit stalker-esque, depending on how you go about it, or how she takes it. The best advice I can offer is to learn from your mistakes and don't be afraid. -Dylan

11-05-2007, 08:43 PM	#3
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	Unfortunately, that's a hard one. If you have her surname, you might be able to look it up in the white pages and start calling all the families in your home state looking for her XD Seriously, though. It'll be very difficult to track her down, and who knows what she'll think if you do. Maybe fate will smile kindly on you and you'll meet her again, but it might just be better to move on. hug

11-09-2007, 04:55 PM	#4
SephirothKirby Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Those who criticize our generation forget who raised it. Gender: Posts: 7,213 Thanks: 373 Thanked 760 Times in 447 Posts	^ *SHORYUKEN* All I really have to say is I'm sorry. I'd say more, but they're kicking me out.

11-09-2007, 05:04 PM	#5
Totally Kennerson Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Falling down all these stairs Gender: Posts: 2,116 Thanks: 340 Thanked 406 Times in 136 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Sorry, I had to. Seriously though, you could find her by doing the phone book thing. But you should think about how she would react to you "somehow" finding out her phone number. Try to find out her email first, if possible. Do you have any friends that knew her?

11-10-2007, 10:40 AM	#7
Blake Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: A generic place such as a house Gender: Posts: 4,628 Thanks: 1,489 Thanked 206 Times in 148 Posts	Thanks a lot for the advice guys. I just needed someone to wake me up from my foolish stupor(if I used that right, too lazy to check). I got over her when summer started but recently one of my friends mentioned her the other week and it got me all emo and whatnot. But yeah I should be good. It definitely was a good opportunity I passed up, probably my best yet but oh well. As for contacting her, I don't really have any permanent friends at college. I feel like I'd be somewhat using the friends I have if they know her because I don't interact with them on a daily basis, and haven't done anything in which they owe me for a favor like this. I'll be fine single I guess, lol. My 20th birthday is coming up November 18. Maybe I'll get my first date in my twenties