Girl trouble.

Godot · 01-12-2008, 08:34 AM

This one girl that I knew for a month or so...she's such a nerd, she plays WoW, quirky, shy, a bookworm, but damn isn't she the fiesty woman I ever met. One day, James introduce me to her. We three were talking to each other (since James is friends with her), and I kept telling her how pretty she looked, and she got suspicious of me, saying why I keep telling her that. She doesn't know me yet, and I like to be her friend but I also know I cannot form a deep relationship with her. How can I get over myself?

(btw, in b4 "tikal r u gay?")

**Valigarmander** · 01-12-2008, 10:07 AM

OMG ITS TIKAL

TIKAL R U GAY?

Anyhoo, if you want to get closer as a friend to her, try finding things that you both have an interest in and use those as an excuse to get friendlier with her. I'm not sure how you would "get over yourself" other than to take your mind off it and do something else, but if I were you I might try to pursue a friendship with this girl.

***The Doctor*** · 01-12-2008, 11:23 AM

I agree with Val really. (Wow, I'd never thought I say those words). Mainly on the first line, and the Last bit.

But yeah, find a interest that you both like.

CuccoLady · 01-12-2008, 11:24 AM

I'm going to be frank and say that most girls (well, me anyway) feel kind of awkward when people compliment us when we don't know them that well. It's weird, we should accept the compliment and be flattered, but we DON'T.

I suggest just talking to her and getting to know her, then after awhile, when you feel you're closer, compliment her again.

We feel more comfortable being flattered by someone we already know and feel close to.

This applies mostly to shy types (when it comes to boys, anywayz), so I suggest giving this a whirl before giving up entirely.

FIND TEH COMMON INTERESTT
...

YAY STEREOTYPING

***Ace Mercury*** · 01-12-2008, 03:04 PM

The way to get fall out of love with someone is to not see them and see other people. As far as I know. =/

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 01-12-2008, 07:48 PM

If the situation occurs again, just shrug and tell her you behave that way when you enjoy someone's company. Ask her if it's making her uncomfortable, and if it is, you should tone it down. Nothing wrong with giving someone compliments, but not everyone actually likes them.

You're much better off just talking normally to her and chatting about things you both like instead of forcing the attention to her. Ask her questions and have a good time.

Nice to see you again, Tikal

Good luck!

Benito Mussolini · 02-06-2008, 03:17 AM

how good looking would you say she is scale of 1-10

if she's at least above the 7 mark i dont know why you should bother with the physical appearance compliments

hot girls have heard it all before and just think its a borefest what you should do is just talk to her and have an interesting conversation and let her talk about herself obv since all girls want to babble about themselves and then you compliment their personality or traits don't compliment their looks

if she's average looking or below then it's ok

01-12-2008, 08:34 AM	#1
Godot Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Coffee. Gender: Posts: 6,054 Thanks: 169 Thanked 161 Times in 102 Posts	Girl trouble. This one girl that I knew for a month or so...she's such a nerd, she plays WoW, quirky, shy, a bookworm, but damn isn't she the fiesty woman I ever met. One day, James introduce me to her. We three were talking to each other (since James is friends with her), and I kept telling her how pretty she looked, and she got suspicious of me, saying why I keep telling her that. She doesn't know me yet, and I like to be her friend but I also know I cannot form a deep relationship with her. How can I get over myself? (btw, in b4 "tikal r u gay?")

01-12-2008, 11:24 AM	#4
CuccoLady Anime and Cartoons Mod Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: THIS LOCATION REMINDS ME OF A PUZZLE, LUKE Gender: Posts: 9,077 Thanks: 2,825 Thanked 1,222 Times in 822 Posts	OMG TIKAL R U GAY????!!!1!11 I'm going to be frank and say that most girls (well, me anyway) feel kind of awkward when people compliment us when we don't know them that well. It's weird, we should accept the compliment and be flattered, but we DON'T. I suggest just talking to her and getting to know her, then after awhile, when you feel you're closer, compliment her again. We feel more comfortable being flattered by someone we already know and feel close to. This applies mostly to shy types (when it comes to boys, anywayz), so I suggest giving this a whirl before giving up entirely. FIND TEH COMMON INTERESTT ... YAY STEREOTYPING

01-12-2008, 10:07 AM	#2
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	OMG ITS TIKAL TIKAL R U GAY? Anyhoo, if you want to get closer as a friend to her, try finding things that you both have an interest in and use those as an excuse to get friendlier with her. I'm not sure how you would "get over yourself" other than to take your mind off it and do something else, but if I were you I might try to pursue a friendship with this girl.

01-12-2008, 11:23 AM	#3
*The Doctor* The Last Timelord. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: In the TARDIS Gender: Posts: 13,880 Thanks: 915 Thanked 656 Times in 426 Posts Blog Entries: 1	I agree with Val really. (Wow, I'd never thought I say those words). Mainly on the first line, and the Last bit. But yeah, find a interest that you both like.

01-12-2008, 03:04 PM	#5
*Ace Mercury* Marshmallow Knight ☆ Supermod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Southern Ontario Gender: Posts: 23,274 Thanks: 568 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,582 Posts Blog Entries: 1	The way to get fall out of love with someone is to not see them and see other people. As far as I know. =/

01-12-2008, 07:48 PM	#6
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	If the situation occurs again, just shrug and tell her you behave that way when you enjoy someone's company. Ask her if it's making her uncomfortable, and if it is, you should tone it down. Nothing wrong with giving someone compliments, but not everyone actually likes them. You're much better off just talking normally to her and chatting about things you both like instead of forcing the attention to her. Ask her questions and have a good time. Nice to see you again, Tikal Good luck!

02-06-2008, 03:17 AM	#7
Benito Mussolini Banned Join Date: Feb 2006 Gender: Posts: 65 Thanks: 0 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	how good looking would you say she is scale of 1-10 if she's at least above the 7 mark i dont know why you should bother with the physical appearance compliments hot girls have heard it all before and just think its a borefest what you should do is just talk to her and have an interesting conversation and let her talk about herself obv since all girls want to babble about themselves and then you compliment their personality or traits don't compliment their looks if she's average looking or below then it's ok