Updating on my personal life

Brandon2390 · 03-24-2008, 08:19 PM

Alright so here's the deal...

I knew this girl in Sophomore year. Really cute and everything. We used to talk online and in classes sometimes. I got her number, but we never actually ended up talking on the phone, just on IM and sometimes in study hall. Then last year same girl was in my math class. We talked occasionally, and I got her number again cause I got a new phone, never called her though, and we would talk online sometimes and whatever.

Now it's my senior year. Same girl sits next to me in English. Sometimes we talk/flirt/other things, and some days we dont talk at all. She smiles at me a lot, and often I THINK(I use this term loosely cause I've been known to take signals wrong) I've caught her looking at me a few times just randomly. I've also talked to her a few times offline and everything. A few other notable things were that one day the girl who this is about and the girl that sits in front of me were talking about prom. The girl who I think is cute was saying that she doesn't want to go to prom with her old boyfriend, and is unsure about who she's going to go with now.

Another thing is one day we had a substitute so we were passing around a sign in sheet for who is here so the teacher would know who was absent. We were passing them up and down the aisles. The cute girl moved her seat in front of the girl who sits in front of me because we had a sub and she wanted to talk to some of the other girls. I get the sign in sheet and notice there is a space between the cute girl and the girl in front of me. I ask the girl in front of me(her friend) why she left a space instead of filling it right in. At first she said she didnt see the space. And then she goes "Well I noticed the attraction between you and Kara(the girl), and I thought you two should be close to each other."

Now taking all of this into account, do you think I'm just looking too much into this or these are really signs? I really want to take the girl to prom, but am fairly scared of being rejected. Not to mention I never see her outside of english class, though I still do have her number. Its been a while, I'd like vgf's advice.

Bomby · 03-24-2008, 08:21 PM

Bag that cutie before someone else starts boning that.

Brandon2390 · 03-24-2008, 08:25 PM

Haha, thats what I'm thinking too. The fact that we dont talk everyday though is kind of like something I'm not used to. Normally I wouldnt even hesistate to ask, but this girl just makes me think twice about everything. Good looks man.

CuccoLady · 03-24-2008, 08:56 PM

Trust me when I say that hesitation will only make you regret it.

Flirt with her, man!! FLIRT LIKE YOU'VE NEVER FLIRTED BEFORE!!!

Blake · 03-24-2008, 09:09 PM

Yes. Be a man(unlike me). Take the initiative and go for it. If you fail, then don't dwell on the past, contemplate how to succeed next time.

Hmm, I'm trying to sound smart, anyway:

Go on, take the woman and run!

***Cosmonautical*** · 03-25-2008, 11:29 AM

OH THAT IS A CLEAR INVITATION TO THE DANCE.

***Marilink*** · 03-25-2008, 12:07 PM

Go for it, man.

User Name · 03-25-2008, 03:36 PM

Honestly, if you don't go for it now, you'll regret it later. Regret is so hard to live with.

**Valigarmander** · 03-25-2008, 03:40 PM

DO IT.

If you don't take this chance now, you'll hate yourself for the rest of your life. She sounds perfect for you, man! It's obvious she likes you too. Just ask her out to something after school, or over to your house, or to a dance or something.

You'll never get a chance like this again, mate. If you don't take it, I'll never forgive you.

Eagle Eye · 03-25-2008, 04:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Brandon2390

The girl who I think is cute was saying that she doesn't want to go to prom with her old boyfriend, and is unsure about who she's going to go with now.

Clue #1

Listen man, I feared being rejected PLENTY of times, hell, I'm still somewhat shy with asking women out. The thing is though, if she rejects me, I know that she's the one missing out not me. You just have to have the confidence in yourself that you can be the man that a woman wants, the gentleman you know? You just have to be you, and if they can't deal with that, they aren't the one for you.

Basically:
You better take her ass to prom.

Brandon2390 · 03-25-2008, 04:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by I Done Bought You A Drank

Clue #1

Listen man, I feared being rejected PLENTY of times, hell, I'm still somewhat shy with asking women out. The thing is though, if she rejects me, I know that she's the one missing out not me. You just have to have the confidence in yourself that you can be the man that a woman wants, the gentleman you know? You just have to be you, and if they can't deal with that, they aren't the one for you.

Basically:
You better take her ass to prom.

Good looks man. Overall all I'm saying is most of the time I can tell when girls like me just by their actions alone. Usually I have no problem. This time though, the clues were more subtle, and I couldnt help but think maybe I was reading a little too much into it. Thanks.

Eagle Eye · 03-25-2008, 04:30 PM

I haev that problem too, and then you don't want to seem like a dumbass by asking someone out that in the end didn't really like you? I get that feeling alot.

Thing is, you just have to go for it, if she isn't interested, you have two choices:
1. Make her interested
2. Move on

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 03-25-2008, 07:09 PM

You could make it a casual offer, telling your ladyfriend that you've been thinking and you'd enjoy going to the prom with her, if she's interested. It doesn't have to be a huge thing, if you're uncertain of the signs.

Good luck, Brandon!

Brandon2390 · 04-07-2008, 09:27 PM

UPDATE:

So today I'm talking about her asking about certain things. Finally I get to prom and ask her what she's doing. She says she's going with another guy so I blow it off. But maybe it was for the best you know? I asked her if she wanted to chill though, and she said she's down for it, and told me to call her. So I'm probably gonna chill with her next weekend cause I'm goin to Boston this weekend.

I'm gonna go to prom with this other girl who is a junior who has had a thing for me. I've chilled with her a few times and she's mad cool. So either way I'll have a good time.

**Valigarmander** · 04-07-2008, 09:29 PM

Aw, man, I'm sorry. That sucks. But hey, I like your attitude, mate.

Who knows? Maybe she's just going to the dance to be there. Don't give up on her just yet.

03-24-2008, 08:19 PM	#1
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,519 Thanks: 7 Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts	Updating on my personal life Alright so here's the deal... I knew this girl in Sophomore year. Really cute and everything. We used to talk online and in classes sometimes. I got her number, but we never actually ended up talking on the phone, just on IM and sometimes in study hall. Then last year same girl was in my math class. We talked occasionally, and I got her number again cause I got a new phone, never called her though, and we would talk online sometimes and whatever. Now it's my senior year. Same girl sits next to me in English. Sometimes we talk/flirt/other things, and some days we dont talk at all. She smiles at me a lot, and often I THINK(I use this term loosely cause I've been known to take signals wrong) I've caught her looking at me a few times just randomly. I've also talked to her a few times offline and everything. A few other notable things were that one day the girl who this is about and the girl that sits in front of me were talking about prom. The girl who I think is cute was saying that she doesn't want to go to prom with her old boyfriend, and is unsure about who she's going to go with now. Another thing is one day we had a substitute so we were passing around a sign in sheet for who is here so the teacher would know who was absent. We were passing them up and down the aisles. The cute girl moved her seat in front of the girl who sits in front of me because we had a sub and she wanted to talk to some of the other girls. I get the sign in sheet and notice there is a space between the cute girl and the girl in front of me. I ask the girl in front of me(her friend) why she left a space instead of filling it right in. At first she said she didnt see the space. And then she goes "Well I noticed the attraction between you and Kara(the girl), and I thought you two should be close to each other." Now taking all of this into account, do you think I'm just looking too much into this or these are really signs? I really want to take the girl to prom, but am fairly scared of being rejected. Not to mention I never see her outside of english class, though I still do have her number. Its been a while, I'd like vgf's advice.

03-24-2008, 08:21 PM	#2
Bomby You just freaking blew Joe Biden's mind! Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: WHAT?house Gender: Posts: 19,491 Thanks: 513 Thanked 1,449 Times in 849 Posts Blog Entries: 5	Bag that cutie before someone else starts boning that.

03-24-2008, 08:25 PM	#3
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,519 Thanks: 7 Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts	Haha, thats what I'm thinking too. The fact that we dont talk everyday though is kind of like something I'm not used to. Normally I wouldnt even hesistate to ask, but this girl just makes me think twice about everything. Good looks man.

03-24-2008, 08:56 PM	#4
CuccoLady Anime and Cartoons Mod Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: THIS LOCATION REMINDS ME OF A PUZZLE, LUKE Gender: Posts: 9,077 Thanks: 2,825 Thanked 1,222 Times in 822 Posts	Trust me when I say that hesitation will only make you regret it. Flirt with her, man!! FLIRT LIKE YOU'VE NEVER FLIRTED BEFORE!!!

03-24-2008, 09:09 PM	#5
Blake Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: A generic place such as a house Gender: Posts: 4,628 Thanks: 1,489 Thanked 206 Times in 148 Posts	Yes. Be a man(unlike me). Take the initiative and go for it. If you fail, then don't dwell on the past, contemplate how to succeed next time. Hmm, I'm trying to sound smart, anyway: Go on, take the woman and run!

03-25-2008, 11:29 AM	#6
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,100 Thanks: 2,151 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	OH THAT IS A CLEAR INVITATION TO THE DANCE.

03-25-2008, 12:07 PM	#7
*Marilink* Gotta catch 'em all! Supermod! Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Location, Location. Gender: Posts: 29,118 Thanks: 2,535 Thanked 1,822 Times in 1,007 Posts	Go for it, man.

03-25-2008, 03:36 PM	#8
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham City Gender: Posts: 7,209 Thanks: 701 Thanked 536 Times in 367 Posts	Honestly, if you don't go for it now, you'll regret it later. Regret is so hard to live with.

03-25-2008, 03:40 PM	#9
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	DO IT. If you don't take this chance now, you'll hate yourself for the rest of your life. She sounds perfect for you, man! It's obvious she likes you too. Just ask her out to something after school, or over to your house, or to a dance or something. You'll never get a chance like this again, mate. If you don't take it, I'll never forgive you.

03-25-2008, 04:30 PM	#12
Eagle Eye Diddy bops Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Birmingham, AL Gender: Posts: 15,014 Thanks: 1,616 Thanked 1,084 Times in 597 Posts	I haev that problem too, and then you don't want to seem like a dumbass by asking someone out that in the end didn't really like you? I get that feeling alot. Thing is, you just have to go for it, if she isn't interested, you have two choices: 1. Make her interested 2. Move on

03-25-2008, 07:09 PM	#13
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	You could make it a casual offer, telling your ladyfriend that you've been thinking and you'd enjoy going to the prom with her, if she's interested. It doesn't have to be a huge thing, if you're uncertain of the signs. Good luck, Brandon!

04-07-2008, 09:27 PM	#14
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,519 Thanks: 7 Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts	UPDATE: So today I'm talking about her asking about certain things. Finally I get to prom and ask her what she's doing. She says she's going with another guy so I blow it off. But maybe it was for the best you know? I asked her if she wanted to chill though, and she said she's down for it, and told me to call her. So I'm probably gonna chill with her next weekend cause I'm goin to Boston this weekend. I'm gonna go to prom with this other girl who is a junior who has had a thing for me. I've chilled with her a few times and she's mad cool. So either way I'll have a good time.

04-07-2008, 09:29 PM	#15
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	Aw, man, I'm sorry. That sucks. But hey, I like your attitude, mate. Who knows? Maybe she's just going to the dance to be there. Don't give up on her just yet.