Panfan asked a girl out.

Panfan · 05-26-2008, 05:31 PM

She said "I don't know" and I told her to think about it. I thought that it could be a sign of rejection, but I had hope. Later, she sent me an IM.

" if you mean something like girlfriend........ then first of all i dont like you in that way, sorry.. and second of all im moving so yea but if you want to do something later i dont want it to be one on one.."

I don't think it's the rejection that's making me feel bad as much as it was the fact that she had to send me an IM to tell me no.

Swordmaster Link · 05-26-2008, 06:13 PM

Yeah IMs are a huge copout...keep your head up though, by trying you learn from the experience.

**Valigarmander** · 05-26-2008, 06:17 PM

*pats on back* Don't worry about it, bud. You asked her, and that's what important. And if she had to respond through IM, then she isn't worth the trouble.

Swordmaster Link · 05-26-2008, 06:22 PM

I forgot to mention, at least she respects you enough to be honest with you. She just as easily could have said something like "Oh I'm going to be busy a lot because I'm moving soon, sorry" without mentioning that she doesn't like you.

User Name · 05-26-2008, 06:37 PM

Hey, Panfan, don't be too down. It's only one rejection. Like SML said, take it and learn from it. You'll be okay, just stay cheerful.

If you need to talk, you know that my door is always open for you.

Seeking Attention · 05-26-2008, 06:42 PM

Man that sucks. She could have at least told you face to face.

Vapor · 05-26-2008, 07:48 PM

EXPERIENCE, man. learn from it, if you can.

**Marchie** · 05-26-2008, 08:47 PM

IM > MySpace, remember that, haha

Blake · 05-26-2008, 09:29 PM

Hmm, upon re-reading it is sounds prick'ish from the way the sentences were structured, but I'm still leaning more on her being flat out blunt. I think it's good that you have the precise answer to your question and know not to proceed any further. However, it does give off the vibe that she dislikes you as well and doesn't want to be bothered with you anymore (IMO at least).

I would say just leave things as they are and just move on. At least she'll be out of your hair after she moves.

**Crazyswordsman** · 05-26-2008, 10:03 PM

I hope it goes for the best. As someone who knows rejection first hand, I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to. -CSM

Panfan · 05-28-2008, 03:40 PM

Yesterday was really awkward, so today I try to break the awkwardness and talk to her. (I still wanted to be friends) But she's bee avoiding me.

And I'm pretty sure that she's now got a thing with the jackass from my Venting Forum topics (who has told me on more than one occasion, one being last Thursday, that he is not interested in her). But I saw them hug each other every five minutes, and according to three people, they were cuddling together during a trip to Chicago on Friday.

I have since been uninvited to band get-together on Saturday for being too awkward, and do not plan to go to end of school pool party.

Brandon2390 · 05-28-2008, 09:03 PM

As you get older you learn that you cant just go up to a girl and ask her out. I dont exactly know what the situation is, but small talk with a little bit of humor is always the way to go. Go up to her and start talking with her, mix in some of the type of sarcastic humor you use on here, then move it up to AIM/Phone, then from there you can ask her out. There's basically a bunch of steps to it.

Eagle Eye · 05-28-2008, 11:54 PM

Eh, depends.

In any case it's usually not a good idea to just run up and go "o hai, let's date". I mean for some flirting right off the bat works, for others, establishing some kind of acquaintance or relationship is the best step. I tend to not become best of friends with girls I want to date because it could become awkward. I actually just started taking a relationship with a friend to the next level before it became too, well, casual I guess.

It depends on what works for you, and only you know what works for you. Some can take a rejection and move on to the next person immediately, some take a little time. There's nothing wrong with it.

Perrin Aybara · 05-28-2008, 11:57 PM

Dump her and start dating her sister.-jay

**Galefore** · 05-29-2008, 01:04 AM

Ah, no wonder the IRON CHEF thing cheered you up.

Well, at any rate, this is why I've been completely girl-free for 16 years: because that way I never get rejected. Sure, it gets lonely here by myself in the man-brain, sort of wishing a girl would come along, but I have nerdism to keep me happy. And music. Music is my bitch. I **** music.

...I'm not helping, am I?

Okay, so real advice time. I feel for you, man. After all, this type of event is crushing. The best thing to do is never let it get you down. IF she's sleazy enough to cozy up to a ****ing loser like the prick you've been describing, no way she's right for you. Keep looking. Find that hidden treasure with the sweet personality as opposed to the overbearing shebeast with the model body.

**Marchie** · 05-29-2008, 05:12 AM

^^Her sisters aren't really all that appealing either, haha, I'm just good friends with one of them.

1-up Salesman · 05-29-2008, 10:37 AM

man, I'm really sorry, bud. But if that girl is going to like that loser that you talked about instead of you, then she can't be right.
I think that you should get to know a girl before you ask her out, so you can know if she has the right personality and stuff. But I'm really sorry, man.
If you ever wanna talk, then it's okay with me- 1-up

Panfan · 05-29-2008, 02:42 PM

^^^ I **** music too, but I do like girls as well. :P

Thanks for all the advice and whatnot guys, I've been putting my mind on other things as of late, such as IRON CHEF BATTLE, Brawl, Guitar Hero, music (of course), and I plan to start RPing again with friends (hell, maybe I'll do a Gunjin battle). I'm not feeling really bad about this anymore, and I'm realizing that she's been a pretty big bitch as of late.

^^ Oh God, just imagine me and (insert name of her oldest sister), we would be the weirdest couple ever.

(And for the record, we were friends for about two years. Not best friends, but just friends.)

***Cosmonautical*** · 06-11-2008, 10:50 AM

Dude, you're going about this all wrong. If that signature of yours is anything to go by, you just need to show them your dancing skills, and they'll fall all over you.

Anytime an awkward lull in conversation is starting to set in, I bust out a headspin. Works every time.

Panfan · 06-14-2008, 01:08 PM

I didn't notice the new post in this topic.

Thanks, AI. I'll keep that in mind. Right now I'm learning some mad MC Hammer dance skillz.

05-26-2008, 05:31 PM	#1
Panfan AND HE PRAYS Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Grayskull Gender: Posts: 18,806 Thanks: 1,405 Thanked 2,247 Times in 1,337 Posts Blog Entries: 15	Panfan asked a girl out. She said "I don't know" and I told her to think about it. I thought that it could be a sign of rejection, but I had hope. Later, she sent me an IM. " if you mean something like girlfriend........ then first of all i dont like you in that way, sorry.. and second of all im moving so yea but if you want to do something later i dont want it to be one on one.." I don't think it's the rejection that's making me feel bad as much as it was the fact that she had to send me an IM to tell me no.

05-26-2008, 06:22 PM	#4
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 32,132 Thanks: 253 Thanked 951 Times in 640 Posts Blog Entries: 2	Look on the bright side I forgot to mention, at least she respects you enough to be honest with you. She just as easily could have said something like "Oh I'm going to be busy a lot because I'm moving soon, sorry" without mentioning that she doesn't like you.

05-26-2008, 06:13 PM	#2
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 32,132 Thanks: 253 Thanked 951 Times in 640 Posts Blog Entries: 2	Yeah IMs are a huge copout...keep your head up though, by trying you learn from the experience.

05-26-2008, 06:17 PM	#3
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	pats on back Don't worry about it, bud. You asked her, and that's what important. And if she had to respond through IM, then she isn't worth the trouble.

05-26-2008, 06:37 PM	#5
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham City Gender: Posts: 7,209 Thanks: 701 Thanked 536 Times in 367 Posts	Hey, Panfan, don't be too down. It's only one rejection. Like SML said, take it and learn from it. You'll be okay, just stay cheerful. If you need to talk, you know that my door is always open for you.

05-26-2008, 06:42 PM	#6
Seeking Attention Banned Join Date: Jul 2006 Gender: Posts: 0 Thanks: 489 Thanked 185 Times in 153 Posts	Man that sucks. She could have at least told you face to face.

05-26-2008, 07:48 PM	#7
Vapor Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: WHERE IT'S AT Gender: Posts: 5,211 Thanks: 314 Thanked 413 Times in 249 Posts	EXPERIENCE, man. learn from it, if you can.

05-26-2008, 08:47 PM	#8
Marchie Pokeman Master since 1999 Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wiscaaaaaaaaaaansin/Michigan Gender: Posts: 16,647 Thanks: 1,442 Thanked 680 Times in 477 Posts	IM > MySpace, remember that, haha

05-26-2008, 09:29 PM	#9
Blake Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: A generic place such as a house Gender: Posts: 4,628 Thanks: 1,489 Thanked 206 Times in 148 Posts	Hmm, upon re-reading it is sounds prick'ish from the way the sentences were structured, but I'm still leaning more on her being flat out blunt. I think it's good that you have the precise answer to your question and know not to proceed any further. However, it does give off the vibe that she dislikes you as well and doesn't want to be bothered with you anymore (IMO at least). I would say just leave things as they are and just move on. At least she'll be out of your hair after she moves.

05-26-2008, 10:03 PM	#10
Crazyswordsman This key doesn't work. Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Booyaville (yeah!) Gender: Posts: 10,791 Thanks: 1,019 Thanked 686 Times in 467 Posts	I hope it goes for the best. As someone who knows rejection first hand, I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to. -CSM

05-28-2008, 03:40 PM	#11
Panfan AND HE PRAYS Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Grayskull Gender: Posts: 18,806 Thanks: 1,405 Thanked 2,247 Times in 1,337 Posts Blog Entries: 15	Yesterday was really awkward, so today I try to break the awkwardness and talk to her. (I still wanted to be friends) But she's bee avoiding me. And I'm pretty sure that she's now got a thing with the jackass from my Venting Forum topics (who has told me on more than one occasion, one being last Thursday, that he is not interested in her). But I saw them hug each other every five minutes, and according to three people, they were cuddling together during a trip to Chicago on Friday. I have since been uninvited to band get-together on Saturday for being too awkward, and do not plan to go to end of school pool party.

05-28-2008, 09:03 PM	#12
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,519 Thanks: 7 Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts	As you get older you learn that you cant just go up to a girl and ask her out. I dont exactly know what the situation is, but small talk with a little bit of humor is always the way to go. Go up to her and start talking with her, mix in some of the type of sarcastic humor you use on here, then move it up to AIM/Phone, then from there you can ask her out. There's basically a bunch of steps to it.

05-28-2008, 11:54 PM	#13
Eagle Eye Diddy bops Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Birmingham, AL Gender: Posts: 15,014 Thanks: 1,616 Thanked 1,084 Times in 597 Posts	Eh, depends. In any case it's usually not a good idea to just run up and go "o hai, let's date". I mean for some flirting right off the bat works, for others, establishing some kind of acquaintance or relationship is the best step. I tend to not become best of friends with girls I want to date because it could become awkward. I actually just started taking a relationship with a friend to the next level before it became too, well, casual I guess. It depends on what works for you, and only you know what works for you. Some can take a rejection and move on to the next person immediately, some take a little time. There's nothing wrong with it.

05-28-2008, 11:57 PM	#14
Perrin Aybara Veteran Member Join Date: Apr 1999 Location: Alone....so terribly alone... Some... where... out... there... dies Gender: Posts: 12,760 Thanks: 194 Thanked 504 Times in 235 Posts	Dump her and start dating her sister.-jay

05-29-2008, 01:04 AM	#15
Galefore EXPLOSION GOD OF MUSIC Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Some studio somewhere Gender: Posts: 8,275 Thanks: 1,361 Thanked 826 Times in 535 Posts Blog Entries: 5	Ah, no wonder the IRON CHEF thing cheered you up. Well, at any rate, this is why I've been completely girl-free for 16 years: because that way I never get rejected. Sure, it gets lonely here by myself in the man-brain, sort of wishing a girl would come along, but I have nerdism to keep me happy. And music. Music is my bitch. I **** music. ...I'm not helping, am I? Okay, so real advice time. I feel for you, man. After all, this type of event is crushing. The best thing to do is never let it get you down. IF she's sleazy enough to cozy up to a ***ing loser like the prick you've been describing, no way* she's right for you. Keep looking. Find that hidden treasure with the sweet personality as opposed to the overbearing shebeast with the model body.

05-29-2008, 05:12 AM	#16
Marchie Pokeman Master since 1999 Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Wiscaaaaaaaaaaansin/Michigan Gender: Posts: 16,647 Thanks: 1,442 Thanked 680 Times in 477 Posts	^^Her sisters aren't really all that appealing either, haha, I'm just good friends with one of them.

05-29-2008, 10:37 AM	#17
1-up Salesman Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Letting you guys know that I'm planning on continuing Attack of the Spammers soon. Gender: Posts: 4,095 Thanks: 2,162 Thanked 250 Times in 194 Posts Blog Entries: 9	man, I'm really sorry, bud. But if that girl is going to like that loser that you talked about instead of you, then she can't be right. I think that you should get to know a girl before you ask her out, so you can know if she has the right personality and stuff. But I'm really sorry, man. If you ever wanna talk, then it's okay with me- 1-up

05-29-2008, 02:42 PM	#18
Panfan AND HE PRAYS Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Grayskull Gender: Posts: 18,806 Thanks: 1,405 Thanked 2,247 Times in 1,337 Posts Blog Entries: 15	^^^ I **** music too, but I do like girls as well. :P Thanks for all the advice and whatnot guys, I've been putting my mind on other things as of late, such as IRON CHEF BATTLE, Brawl, Guitar Hero, music (of course), and I plan to start RPing again with friends (hell, maybe I'll do a Gunjin battle). I'm not feeling really bad about this anymore, and I'm realizing that she's been a pretty big bitch as of late. ^^ Oh God, just imagine me and (insert name of her oldest sister), we would be the weirdest couple ever. (And for the record, we were friends for about two years. Not best friends, but just friends.)

06-11-2008, 10:50 AM	#19
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,100 Thanks: 2,151 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	Dude, you're going about this all wrong. If that signature of yours is anything to go by, you just need to show them your dancing skills, and they'll fall all over you. Anytime an awkward lull in conversation is starting to set in, I bust out a headspin. Works every time.

06-14-2008, 01:08 PM	#20
Panfan AND HE PRAYS Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Grayskull Gender: Posts: 18,806 Thanks: 1,405 Thanked 2,247 Times in 1,337 Posts Blog Entries: 15	I didn't notice the new post in this topic. Thanks, AI. I'll keep that in mind. Right now I'm learning some mad MC Hammer dance skillz.