Divorced parents new "others"

Pyropunk · 07-04-2009, 03:12 PM

Has anyone ever had to deal with your significant others parents who are divorced and THEIR significant others????

I'm REALLY trying.

Jer's parents have been fighting through a divorce. His dad lives in FL his mom in KY. SO my summer break approached. We both just met his dad's "other" woman a few months back, like, march? ish? anywho... The woman is CRAZY like ABSOLUTELY CRAZY!!! and today, she takes me out to get coffee and tells me I'm pregnant. (i'm not.) Flipping out on me telling me I look pregnant and I'm acting pregnant... ((I"M NOT... a. my entire family on teh female side has pudgy belly issue, i just haven't had time of late to work out and make it go POOF b. I'm under a LOT of stress of late c. um, woman stuff brings on tired stuff)). This woman would NOT let me explain or say anything I even asked her politely to back off several times and explained to her this is how it has been, this is what's going on, this is family genes, etc...

SO. The other thing is, she likes to kiss people on the lips. EVERYONE. mind you everytime she tries to me and Jer we turn our head to avert it. I just find it Disgusting.

She's also been really on him this week regarding his health, my health, and a lot of other stuff.

Anyone else have to deal with this ever? any advice on the sitch? I've talked to my sister and she's ready to come down here and beat the living **** out of the lady cuz she met her once and doesn't like her.

Me and my family kind of have a really sick we know when someones bad news, and this lady is JUST bad news...

Helps? advice? anything?

John Galt · 07-04-2009, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyropunk

Has anyone ever had to deal with your significant others parents who are divorced and THEIR significant others????

I'm REALLY trying.

Jer's parents have been fighting through a divorce. His dad lives in FL his mom in KY. SO my summer break approached. We both just met his dad's "other" woman a few months back, like, march? ish? anywho... The woman is CRAZY like ABSOLUTELY CRAZY!!! and today, she takes me out to get coffee and tells me I'm pregnant. (i'm not.) Flipping out on me telling me I look pregnant and I'm acting pregnant... ((I"M NOT... a. my entire family on teh female side has pudgy belly issue, i just haven't had time of late to work out and make it go POOF b. I'm under a LOT of stress of late c. um, woman stuff brings on tired stuff)). This woman would NOT let me explain or say anything I even asked her politely to back off several times and explained to her this is how it has been, this is what's going on, this is family genes, etc...

SO. The other thing is, she likes to kiss people on the lips. EVERYONE. mind you everytime she tries to me and Jer we turn our head to avert it. I just find it Disgusting.

She's also been really on him this week regarding his health, my health, and a lot of other stuff.

Anyone else have to deal with this ever? any advice on the sitch? I've talked to my sister and she's ready to come down here and beat the living **** out of the lady cuz she met her once and doesn't like her.

Me and my family kind of have a really sick we know when someones bad news, and this lady is JUST bad news...

Helps? advice? anything?

She sounds like the stereotypical psycho bitch from hell.

You could try to tell her to **** off, but she might go ape **** on you.

**Valigarmander** · 07-04-2009, 04:18 PM

Ask Jer to ask his dad what the hell he's doing.

***Cosmonautical*** · 07-05-2009, 05:56 AM

Heh, my parents had a hard enough time getting me to take them seriously. If they got together with someone psychotic, I'd get a restraining order against the both of them and be done with it. Both of my parents are adults and should be able to handle choosing appropriate partners, whether or not they could handle their first marriage.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 07-05-2009, 06:02 AM

Easy: ignore the woman. You don't have to live with her or anything. You don't even have to see her. Tell Jeremey's father that you feel extreme discomfort around his girlfriend and that's that. If she's going to be at holiday events you want to go to, etc, be polite but avoid her.

Oh, and tell her straight to her face that you do NOT want her kissing you on the lips, and you will consider it sexual assault if she tries to do it again (and legally, it is).

You can't make other people's choices for them. If Jer's dad likes the crazy, that's his own decision. Just do what you can to make yourself comfortable and happy. *shrug*

Kargath · 07-05-2009, 07:10 AM

"You're pregnant."
"Sorry, what?"
"The baby - it speaks to me. It speaks to my mind."

07-04-2009, 03:12 PM	#1
Pyropunk Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Orlando, FL Gender: Posts: 367 Thanks: 139 Thanked 26 Times in 25 Posts	Divorced parents new "others" Has anyone ever had to deal with your significant others parents who are divorced and THEIR significant others???? I'm REALLY trying. Jer's parents have been fighting through a divorce. His dad lives in FL his mom in KY. SO my summer break approached. We both just met his dad's "other" woman a few months back, like, march? ish? anywho... The woman is CRAZY like ABSOLUTELY CRAZY!!! and today, she takes me out to get coffee and tells me I'm pregnant. (i'm not.) Flipping out on me telling me I look pregnant and I'm acting pregnant... ((I"M NOT... a. my entire family on teh female side has pudgy belly issue, i just haven't had time of late to work out and make it go POOF b. I'm under a LOT of stress of late c. um, woman stuff brings on tired stuff)). This woman would NOT let me explain or say anything I even asked her politely to back off several times and explained to her this is how it has been, this is what's going on, this is family genes, etc... SO. The other thing is, she likes to kiss people on the lips. EVERYONE. mind you everytime she tries to me and Jer we turn our head to avert it. I just find it Disgusting. She's also been really on him this week regarding his health, my health, and a lot of other stuff. Anyone else have to deal with this ever? any advice on the sitch? I've talked to my sister and she's ready to come down here and beat the living **** out of the lady cuz she met her once and doesn't like her. Me and my family kind of have a really sick we know when someones bad news, and this lady is JUST bad news... Helps? advice? anything?

07-04-2009, 04:18 PM	#3
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	Ask Jer to ask his dad what the hell he's doing.

07-05-2009, 05:56 AM	#4
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,100 Thanks: 2,151 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	Heh, my parents had a hard enough time getting me to take them seriously. If they got together with someone psychotic, I'd get a restraining order against the both of them and be done with it. Both of my parents are adults and should be able to handle choosing appropriate partners, whether or not they could handle their first marriage.

07-05-2009, 06:02 AM	#5
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	Easy: ignore the woman. You don't have to live with her or anything. You don't even have to see her. Tell Jeremey's father that you feel extreme discomfort around his girlfriend and that's that. If she's going to be at holiday events you want to go to, etc, be polite but avoid her. Oh, and tell her straight to her face that you do NOT want her kissing you on the lips, and you will consider it sexual assault if she tries to do it again (and legally, it is). You can't make other people's choices for them. If Jer's dad likes the crazy, that's his own decision. Just do what you can to make yourself comfortable and happy. shrug

07-05-2009, 07:10 AM	#6
Kargath et in Arcadia ego Join Date: Jul 2001 Gender: Posts: 8,334 Thanks: 1,226 Thanked 780 Times in 488 Posts	"You're pregnant." "Sorry, what?" "The baby - it speaks to me. It speaks to my mind."