I hate love.

Eric · 05-07-2010, 11:02 PM

I've been friends with this girl for a while now. She laughs at everything I say. She even says she loves being around me and she misses me when I'm not in school. And recently, she hugged me... but I'm still not sure if she likes me. She laughs at everyone else, and hugs them all the time, when I only got one hug. I think I may be in love with her.

But if she doesn't work out I have 2 other girls that may like me...

What do I do?

Oh and the same thing for other girls expect those girls don't hug guys.

I can't tell if they love me or not...

**Valigarmander** · 05-07-2010, 11:58 PM

Does she tell others that she loves being around them and misses them when they're not at school?

I'd say go for it. Try finding ways to spend more time with her (during lunch, after school, online, etc.), and see what kind of interests you have in common. Maybe if things seem to be going well, you could ask her out to a movie or something.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 05-08-2010, 07:14 AM

What do you do? Depends what you want. Being all, "oh, there are those other girls in backup" doesn't really signify any amount of "love" from your side. Not being mean, dude, just straight honest with you: if you're just going to go with whoever agrees, you're not in love with any of them and you should approach it from a realistic perspective.

Basically, you have a crush on a girl, and you find her signals confusing because you would like her attention to be something special just for you, but you think she might just be a really affectionate, cheerful person. So be honest with her, too. Ask her out on a date if that's what you want. If the confusion is just getting to you, tell her that you appreciate her affection but you want to make sure you're on the same page and that it does or doesn't mean "something more".

Maybe she has a crush on you, or maybe you're just a really great friend who puts her at ease and makes every day a bit more fun for her. Concepts like love can't be thrown around as simply as "someone likes someone", so just let yourself relax about it. It can turn into love, if you work at a relationship with one of these girls.

Eric · 05-08-2010, 08:09 PM

I not saying, "Oh, if this doesn't work on to the next girl." I'm just saying that if she doesn't like me, there is other fish in the sea.

**Galefore** · 05-08-2010, 09:45 PM

^See, not to sound like an *******, but that's not love, per se. Speaking from the viewpoint I have (and considering my own experience), when you're in love you have trouble coming to terms with the idea of there being "other fish in the sea". You're dead set on one "fish" (I hate that metaphor, btw). You do, however, have a classic crush... So yeah, SD's advice is best here. Just take a chance, ask her out. After all, since you believe you have other girls out there you would want to start a relationship with, taking a chance can't be too bad of a thing.

Good luck, maaaaang.

Eric · 05-08-2010, 09:50 PM

^ I hate using that metaphor too.

Thanks for the advice, guys. I'm nervous, but what's the worse that could happen?

**X-3** · 05-09-2010, 12:00 AM

You could get turned down, and then shunned by your peers.

Also, you probably don't truly hate love, but I guess I can understand what you're feeling right now, I guess maybe hopefully perhaps.

CodenameV · 05-19-2010, 10:32 PM

And you know what they say. There may be other fish in the sea, but most of them are Magikarp.

CuccoLady · 05-20-2010, 01:00 AM

I'm gonna say that if you feel you're really crushing on her [you know, fluttery feeling when she walks by, you love just talking to her, want to be around her, blah blah et cetera] then just go for it. Trust me.

Not saying anything will just lead you to wonder about whether or not she really likes you and could have you pass up some seriously awesome opportunities. For example, about two years ago I posted a thread about a crush I had. I never acted on it. Recently, I discovered that he was totally into me and we probably could've dated if I'd just got up the guts. So if you feel like you want to get to know her, just go ahead and ask her, that way you will know for SURE how she feels.

05-07-2010, 11:02 PM	#1
Eric Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Up your arse and around the corner. Gender: Posts: 1,343 Thanks: 236 Thanked 65 Times in 51 Posts	I hate love. I've been friends with this girl for a while now. She laughs at everything I say. She even says she loves being around me and she misses me when I'm not in school. And recently, she hugged me... but I'm still not sure if she likes me. She laughs at everyone else, and hugs them all the time, when I only got one hug. I think I may be in love with her. But if she doesn't work out I have 2 other girls that may like me... What do I do? Oh and the same thing for other girls expect those girls don't hug guys. I can't tell if they love me or not... Last edited by Eric; 05-08-2010 at 08:09 PM. Reason: TYPOS FTW

05-08-2010, 08:09 PM	#4
Eric Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Up your arse and around the corner. Gender: Posts: 1,343 Thanks: 236 Thanked 65 Times in 51 Posts	I not saying, "Oh, if this doesn't work on to the next girl." I'm just saying that if she doesn't like me, there is other fish in the sea. Last edited by Eric; 05-08-2010 at 09:10 PM. Reason: TYPO

05-07-2010, 11:58 PM	#2
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,700 Times in 2,580 Posts Blog Entries: 20	Does she tell others that she loves being around them and misses them when they're not at school? I'd say go for it. Try finding ways to spend more time with her (during lunch, after school, online, etc.), and see what kind of interests you have in common. Maybe if things seem to be going well, you could ask her out to a movie or something.

05-08-2010, 07:14 AM	#3
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	What do you do? Depends what you want. Being all, "oh, there are those other girls in backup" doesn't really signify any amount of "love" from your side. Not being mean, dude, just straight honest with you: if you're just going to go with whoever agrees, you're not in love with any of them and you should approach it from a realistic perspective. Basically, you have a crush on a girl, and you find her signals confusing because you would like her attention to be something special just for you, but you think she might just be a really affectionate, cheerful person. So be honest with her, too. Ask her out on a date if that's what you want. If the confusion is just getting to you, tell her that you appreciate her affection but you want to make sure you're on the same page and that it does or doesn't mean "something more". Maybe she has a crush on you, or maybe you're just a really great friend who puts her at ease and makes every day a bit more fun for her. Concepts like love can't be thrown around as simply as "someone likes someone", so just let yourself relax about it. It can turn into love, if you work at a relationship with one of these girls.

05-08-2010, 09:45 PM	#5
Galefore EXPLOSION GOD OF MUSIC Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Some studio somewhere Gender: Posts: 8,275 Thanks: 1,361 Thanked 826 Times in 535 Posts Blog Entries: 5	^See, not to sound like an ******, but that's not love,* per se. Speaking from the viewpoint I have (and considering my own experience), when you're in love you have trouble coming to terms with the idea of there being "other fish in the sea". You're dead set on one "fish" (I hate that metaphor, btw). You do, however, have a classic crush... So yeah, SD's advice is best here. Just take a chance, ask her out. After all, since you believe you have other girls out there you would want to start a relationship with, taking a chance can't be too bad of a thing. Good luck, maaaaang.

05-08-2010, 09:50 PM	#6
Eric Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Up your arse and around the corner. Gender: Posts: 1,343 Thanks: 236 Thanked 65 Times in 51 Posts	^ I hate using that metaphor too. Thanks for the advice, guys. I'm nervous, but what's the worse that could happen?

05-09-2010, 12:00 AM	#7
X-3 Useful as an Owl Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Posts: 15,943 Thanks: 753 Thanked 1,213 Times in 790 Posts Blog Entries: 10	You could get turned down, and then shunned by your peers. Also, you probably don't truly hate love, but I guess I can understand what you're feeling right now, I guess maybe hopefully perhaps.

05-19-2010, 10:32 PM	#8
CodenameV Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mudkipland, CA Gender: Posts: 215 Thanks: 43 Thanked 6 Times in 6 Posts	And you know what they say. There may be other fish in the sea, but most of them are Magikarp.

05-20-2010, 01:00 AM	#9
CuccoLady Anime and Cartoons Mod Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: THIS LOCATION REMINDS ME OF A PUZZLE, LUKE Gender: Posts: 9,077 Thanks: 2,825 Thanked 1,222 Times in 822 Posts	I'm gonna say that if you feel you're really crushing on her [you know, fluttery feeling when she walks by, you love just talking to her, want to be around her, blah blah et cetera] then just go for it. Trust me. Not saying anything will just lead you to wonder about whether or not she really likes you and could have you pass up some seriously awesome opportunities. For example, about two years ago I posted a thread about a crush I had. I never acted on it. Recently, I discovered that he was totally into me and we probably could've dated if I'd just got up the guts. So if you feel like you want to get to know her, just go ahead and ask her, that way you will know for SURE how she feels.