Taking a break from the dating game

Sean P Kelly · 09-08-2010, 12:48 PM

I've come to the realization that at my age (28) that most girls will probably not even consider seriously dating me until I get a job and/or move out on my own.

The last real connection I made through online dating said straight out that she probably wouldn't see me as more than a friend (though we still talk through MSN).

I have become very burned out from trying to find someone and I am taking a break from it for a couple months as I concentrate more on getting my life together. Who knows, maybe I'll luck out and meet someone the old fashioned way.

User Name · 09-08-2010, 06:52 PM

I think you're right in the sense that women will respect you more if you get a job and move out on your own, but not because it's sad or pathetic or anything, but because they'll see a man who is doing something with his life and cares about his life.

Listen to me when I say, it is SEXY when a man respects himself.

If you love your life, women will be attracted to you. My advice: concentrate on making your life the way you want it. Whether that means getting a job, moving out, starting a business, getting a hobby, joining a club, whatever...do it. If you're happy, you won't think about dating and women will be thinking about you and how great it is that you're confident in yourself. A man that is constantly looking for a woman and isn't happy without one is perceived as desperate and lonely.

What I'm trying to say is, good for you; I hope you keep this train of thought up.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 09-12-2010, 06:48 AM

UN has really got the right ideas there. Just do the things you love, and try new things, be confident and happy with yourself. It'll make finding someone less imperative when you're thinking about the other things in your life, and you never know where you'll meet someone you have a great connection with! Keep your chin up, Sean.

09-08-2010, 12:48 PM	#1
Sean P Kelly Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Toronto, ON, Canada Gender: Posts: 3,789 Thanks: 19 Thanked 58 Times in 46 Posts	Taking a break from the dating game I've come to the realization that at my age (28) that most girls will probably not even consider seriously dating me until I get a job and/or move out on my own. The last real connection I made through online dating said straight out that she probably wouldn't see me as more than a friend (though we still talk through MSN). I have become very burned out from trying to find someone and I am taking a break from it for a couple months as I concentrate more on getting my life together. Who knows, maybe I'll luck out and meet someone the old fashioned way.

09-08-2010, 06:52 PM	#2
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham City Gender: Posts: 7,209 Thanks: 701 Thanked 536 Times in 367 Posts	I think you're right in the sense that women will respect you more if you get a job and move out on your own, but not because it's sad or pathetic or anything, but because they'll see a man who is doing something with his life and cares about his life. Listen to me when I say, it is SEXY when a man respects himself. If you love your life, women will be attracted to you. My advice: concentrate on making your life the way you want it. Whether that means getting a job, moving out, starting a business, getting a hobby, joining a club, whatever...do it. If you're happy, you won't think about dating and women will be thinking about you and how great it is that you're confident in yourself. A man that is constantly looking for a woman and isn't happy without one is perceived as desperate and lonely. What I'm trying to say is, good for you; I hope you keep this train of thought up.

09-12-2010, 06:48 AM	#3
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	UN has really got the right ideas there. Just do the things you love, and try new things, be confident and happy with yourself. It'll make finding someone less imperative when you're thinking about the other things in your life, and you never know where you'll meet someone you have a great connection with! Keep your chin up, Sean.