I need advice.

**Crazyswordsman** · 05-25-2011, 04:19 PM

There's this girl I was talking to online. I felt GREAT compatibility with her and I could tell she felt the same way about me. A few nights ago we played 20 questions. She asked me if I was a Republican or a Democrat. Obviously I answered Democrat, but I asked her not to judge because I always try to avoid politics for fear of turning off Republicans. But we ended the talk of politics there.

Then this afternoon we were texting again and she brought up how disappointed she was that I was a Democrat. She asked me if I voted for Obama; I said obviously. She then went on to say that Obama was a socialist and compared him to Hitler. While I have no problem with her views on Obama, for her to throw Hitler's name around like that is really insulting to me because Hitler was a mass murderer of Jews, among others, and I'm Jewish.

I felt we were so compatible and normally I would never try to judge a woman based on a single flaw. But this was so insensitive and offensive to me that I just have no idea what to say. I don't want to upset her but I feel really dejected right now. -CSM

**S1x** · 05-25-2011, 04:42 PM

What she thinks is less important here than why she thinks that way. Did you ask that?

Jere · 05-25-2011, 05:03 PM

did you bring up the subject about that obama probably haven't murdered 6 million people and he probably haven't supressed anyone, and tell that it came from one that lives in communist Sweden!

Bomby · 05-25-2011, 06:09 PM

I've known married couples (within my own extended family) with opposing political views that worked out fine. That being said, it's all a matter of how important politics are to the person. If she's comparing Obama to Hitler, I think this might become a major issue between the two of you.

If you really feel a connection to her otherwise, however, then why not just keep talking to her and see how it goes? It's not a life sentence.

**Deku Trii** · 05-25-2011, 06:33 PM

I dunno. She sounds kinda ignorant. No harm in seeing where it goes if you like her that much, though.

***Cosmonautical*** · 05-27-2011, 02:33 PM

I can't think of a single quality to use to compare the two. Except that Obama just ratified the Patriot Act renewal. That wasn't exactly a Dem agenda, though.

**X-3** · 05-27-2011, 05:36 PM

Well, I can.
Hitler
Obama
Their two last names share no letters, as you can see. This is extremely suspicious and not a coincidence: Obama is using his name to distance himself from Hitler. There is only one reason why he would do this: he is like Hitler.

If she keeps talking about Hitler and Obama I don't think things will work out between you two.

Vgfian · 05-27-2011, 06:47 PM

^That's bull. Political views and opinions of a person dont necesarily affect a relationships ability to thrive. That said, if it comes up again, dont argue, just tell her how you feel about it and then ask her to drop the subject. Hope that helps.

^_^

**X-3** · 05-27-2011, 07:43 PM

Well yeah, different views and opinions on things like politics is something to be expected. Relationships can work with that.

I think there would be a problem, however, if she continued to say things like the thing that CSM found offensive and injected politics into every discussion. Guess it's just a wait and see thing.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 05-27-2011, 07:57 PM

I know you are quite passionate about politics, CSM, so it will come down to how you think you can deal with someone making ignorant, blatantly wrong, and hateful remarks like that. There are people who can have a relationship without bringing their political stance into it (I don't personally know how, but others can). There are relationships that work even when the couple is on different ends of the scale. So can you leave politics at the door? If she says something really insensitive, can you just let it slide, or will it eat at you and cause lots of hurt feelings?

If you can honestly let it go, completely let it go, then there's nothing wrong with trying to pursue this girl.

But if you will be hurt any time she says the wrong thing about politics, you NEED to find out first if you can get her to agree to avoid talking about it entirely. Otherwise, you will just end up having a situation where we're stewing over some uninformed comment she's made and it will all turn to bad.

05-25-2011, 04:19 PM	#1
Crazyswordsman This key doesn't work. Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Booyaville (yeah!) Gender: Posts: 10,791 Thanks: 1,019 Thanked 686 Times in 467 Posts	I need advice. There's this girl I was talking to online. I felt GREAT compatibility with her and I could tell she felt the same way about me. A few nights ago we played 20 questions. She asked me if I was a Republican or a Democrat. Obviously I answered Democrat, but I asked her not to judge because I always try to avoid politics for fear of turning off Republicans. But we ended the talk of politics there. Then this afternoon we were texting again and she brought up how disappointed she was that I was a Democrat. She asked me if I voted for Obama; I said obviously. She then went on to say that Obama was a socialist and compared him to Hitler. While I have no problem with her views on Obama, for her to throw Hitler's name around like that is really insulting to me because Hitler was a mass murderer of Jews, among others, and I'm Jewish. I felt we were so compatible and normally I would never try to judge a woman based on a single flaw. But this was so insensitive and offensive to me that I just have no idea what to say. I don't want to upset her but I feel really dejected right now. -CSM

05-27-2011, 05:36 PM	#7
X-3 Useful as an Owl Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Posts: 15,947 Thanks: 753 Thanked 1,213 Times in 790 Posts Blog Entries: 10	but what do I know? Well, I can. Hitler Obama Their two last names share no letters, as you can see. This is extremely suspicious and not a coincidence: Obama is using his name to distance himself from Hitler. There is only one reason why he would do this: he is like Hitler. If she keeps talking about Hitler and Obama I don't think things will work out between you two.

05-25-2011, 04:42 PM	#2
S1x VGF RPG Mod Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Loading...... Gender: Posts: 7,289 Thanks: 26 Thanked 493 Times in 201 Posts Blog Entries: 1	What she thinks is less important here than why she thinks that way. Did you ask that?

05-25-2011, 05:03 PM	#3
Jere Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Sutme Gender: Posts: 3,648 Thanks: 404 Thanked 331 Times in 256 Posts Blog Entries: 3	did you bring up the subject about that obama probably haven't murdered 6 million people and he probably haven't supressed anyone, and tell that it came from one that lives in communist Sweden!

05-25-2011, 06:09 PM	#4
Bomby You just freaking blew Joe Biden's mind! Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: WHAT?house Gender: Posts: 19,491 Thanks: 513 Thanked 1,449 Times in 849 Posts Blog Entries: 5	I've known married couples (within my own extended family) with opposing political views that worked out fine. That being said, it's all a matter of how important politics are to the person. If she's comparing Obama to Hitler, I think this might become a major issue between the two of you. If you really feel a connection to her otherwise, however, then why not just keep talking to her and see how it goes? It's not a life sentence.

05-25-2011, 06:33 PM	#5
Deku Trii PP&R Mod Current Events Mod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Texas Gender: Posts: 9,031 Thanks: 521 Thanked 1,099 Times in 583 Posts	I dunno. She sounds kinda ignorant. No harm in seeing where it goes if you like her that much, though.

05-27-2011, 02:33 PM	#6
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,100 Thanks: 2,156 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	I can't think of a single quality to use to compare the two. Except that Obama just ratified the Patriot Act renewal. That wasn't exactly a Dem agenda, though.

05-27-2011, 06:47 PM	#8
Vgfian Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Listening to Seeking 7 Seven and giving out free hugs. :) Gender: Posts: 6,862 Thanks: 2,433 Thanked 398 Times in 311 Posts	^That's bull. Political views and opinions of a person dont necesarily affect a relationships ability to thrive. That said, if it comes up again, dont argue, just tell her how you feel about it and then ask her to drop the subject. Hope that helps. ^_^

05-27-2011, 07:43 PM	#9
X-3 Useful as an Owl Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Posts: 15,947 Thanks: 753 Thanked 1,213 Times in 790 Posts Blog Entries: 10	Well yeah, different views and opinions on things like politics is something to be expected. Relationships can work with that. I think there would be a problem, however, if she continued to say things like the thing that CSM found offensive and injected politics into every discussion. Guess it's just a wait and see thing.

05-27-2011, 07:57 PM	#10
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	I know you are quite passionate about politics, CSM, so it will come down to how you think you can deal with someone making ignorant, blatantly wrong, and hateful remarks like that. There are people who can have a relationship without bringing their political stance into it (I don't personally know how, but others can). There are relationships that work even when the couple is on different ends of the scale. So can you leave politics at the door? If she says something really insensitive, can you just let it slide, or will it eat at you and cause lots of hurt feelings? If you can honestly let it go, completely let it go, then there's nothing wrong with trying to pursue this girl. But if you will be hurt any time she says the wrong thing about politics, you NEED to find out first if you can get her to agree to avoid talking about it entirely. Otherwise, you will just end up having a situation where we're stewing over some uninformed comment she's made and it will all turn to bad.