My mother's nine-year struggle with cancer is coming to an end

**Valigarmander** · 11-23-2011, 07:39 PM

For those of you who don't know, my mom has been fighting cancer since 2002. I haven't mentioned the latest news to most of you, but my mom's health took a serious drop in September and she's been bedridden ever since. She's been in hospice this whole time. On Monday night, things got worse again and now she's comatose. The hospice nurses visited on Tuesday and said she had a few hours at least, and probably a few days at most before it's over. Yesterday I went into her room and held her hand, talked to her a bit (though I don't know if she could even hear me), and hugged and kissed her goodbye. All the family came and visited to do the same.

I've been doing as well as I can. Try not to worry about me too much. I won't be posting as frequently as usual for a while, but I'll try to make some time to drop by and check the forum every now and then until this is all over.

Eagle Eye · 11-23-2011, 07:51 PM

Val, your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Be strong man, you also know where to contact me if you need to blow off some steam and problems

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 11-23-2011, 08:01 PM

I'm so, so sorry, Val. You have my love and prayers. We're all here for you, no matter what you need. *hugs*

Panfan · 11-23-2011, 08:04 PM

Love you, man. Praying for you.

***CaptHayfever*** · 11-23-2011, 08:29 PM

*offers hug*

And remember,...

***Heroine of the Dragon*** · 11-23-2011, 08:39 PM

*hugs you tight* I am so sorry, Val. I know how hard it is to lose a parent and you are all in my prayers and thoughts.

Bomby · 11-23-2011, 09:23 PM

Damn, son. Having a family member on hospice is relentlessly heartbreaking. You're definitely in my thougths.

***Marilink*** · 11-23-2011, 09:42 PM

My condolences, Val. Be strong, buddy, you and your family will be in my prayers.

SephirothKirby · 11-23-2011, 10:34 PM

I know this is a really difficult time, and you'll be in my thoughts.
I wish I could offer more than "I'm sorry," but unfortunately that's all I can.

Stay strong, brother.

**Galefore** · 11-23-2011, 11:27 PM

My deepest condolences, bro. You're in my prayers and my thoughts, and I mean that, man. Much love. *hugs*

monstrman · 11-23-2011, 11:43 PM

Dislike... I really wish I could say something that would make you feel better, but all that comes to mind are monkeys and chocolate cake. I'm fairly certain neither would do the job.

Do what everyone else said, and stay strong. Your mom would want you to...

***Cosmonautical*** · 11-23-2011, 11:52 PM

Val, you're a good guy. Everyone here thinks that. I hope you can deal with this all well. If there's anything I personally can do for you, let me know and I'll try and make it happen.

**Deku Trii** · 11-24-2011, 12:25 AM

I'm really sorry, Val. It sucks that a good guy like you has to go through this. I'll pray for you and your family.

Blake · 11-24-2011, 12:50 AM

I'm sorry you have to deal with a loss of a parent at such a young age. I know I would be devastated if I suffered through a similar situation. It's sad it seems good people suffer so much more frequently. I wish you and your family the strength to get through this struggle over the coming years.

Antisocial · 11-24-2011, 01:06 AM

There were two outcomes that came to mind reading the title of this thread and I was sorry to see that it wasn't the cancer going away.

Much love and peace.

Jere · 11-24-2011, 02:49 AM

I hoped for the best when i read the title of the thread to bad it wasn't what i hoped for.

You and everyone around you have really been through the fire, in my eyes you are awesome to cope with it so well.

If you need some support, well i think you see for yourself that that the greater part of the forums have said so me included as from now.

Be strong man!

**Valigarmander** · 11-24-2011, 03:26 AM

Thanks, everyone.

She passed away last night around 10:30. At the very least I'm glad her struggle's finally over. It's gonna be a tough holiday, for sure, but we'll be having Thanksgiving later today with her side of the family like we always do, because we know it's what she would've wanted.

***Heroine of the Dragon*** · 11-24-2011, 05:21 AM

Oh Val, my deepest sympathies. *hugs you again* I'll be sure to look for her star in the sky later tonight.

User Name · 11-24-2011, 07:24 AM

Oh Vally, you are the strongest man I know. I praying for your family in this tough time. As always, my door is always open if you need to talk. I think it's very sweet that you're having Thanksgiving with her family and I'm sure they appreciate it immensely. Love you, man.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 11-24-2011, 07:28 AM

I won't have the pleasure of knowing your mother, but she is part of what made you a kind, funny, generous man. I'm grateful to her for being there for you, so that we could have a wonderful friend. If there is anything we can do, truly, let us know.

So if I should go before thee,
break not a flower, nor engrave a stone.
Do not speak in reserved voices,
but be the good selves I have known.
For I preside in the Otherworld,
where the sun dost not rise nor set.
So if thou wilt, remember,
and if thou wilt, forget.
Traci Harding

11-23-2011, 07:39 PM	#1
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,701 Times in 2,581 Posts Blog Entries: 20	My mother's nine-year struggle with cancer is coming to an end For those of you who don't know, my mom has been fighting cancer since 2002. I haven't mentioned the latest news to most of you, but my mom's health took a serious drop in September and she's been bedridden ever since. She's been in hospice this whole time. On Monday night, things got worse again and now she's comatose. The hospice nurses visited on Tuesday and said she had a few hours at least, and probably a few days at most before it's over. Yesterday I went into her room and held her hand, talked to her a bit (though I don't know if she could even hear me), and hugged and kissed her goodbye. All the family came and visited to do the same. I've been doing as well as I can. Try not to worry about me too much. I won't be posting as frequently as usual for a while, but I'll try to make some time to drop by and check the forum every now and then until this is all over.

11-24-2011, 02:49 AM	#16
Jere Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Sutme Gender: Posts: 3,648 Thanks: 404 Thanked 331 Times in 256 Posts Blog Entries: 3	I hoped for the best when i read the title of the thread to bad it wasn't what i hoped for. You and everyone around you have really been through the fire, in my eyes you are awesome to cope with it so well. If you need some support, well i think you see for yourself that that the greater part of the forums have said so me included as from now. Be strong man! __________________ From where it counts: Lapland

11-23-2011, 07:51 PM	#2
Eagle Eye Diddy bops Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Birmingham, AL Gender: Posts: 15,014 Thanks: 1,616 Thanked 1,084 Times in 597 Posts	Val, your family is in my thoughts and prayers. Be strong man, you also know where to contact me if you need to blow off some steam and problems

11-23-2011, 08:01 PM	#3
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	I'm so, so sorry, Val. You have my love and prayers. We're all here for you, no matter what you need. hugs

11-23-2011, 08:04 PM	#4
Panfan AND HE PRAYS Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Grayskull Gender: Posts: 18,806 Thanks: 1,405 Thanked 2,251 Times in 1,339 Posts Blog Entries: 15	Love you, man. Praying for you.

11-23-2011, 08:29 PM	#5
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,661 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	offers hug And remember,...

11-23-2011, 08:39 PM	#6
*Heroine of the Dragon* The Grinnie Fool! ♥♥♥ VGFCodes Staff Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Twinklebutton Wintersprout Gender: Posts: 31,454 Thanks: 864 Thanked 851 Times in 632 Posts Blog Entries: 1	hugs you tight I am so sorry, Val. I know how hard it is to lose a parent and you are all in my prayers and thoughts.

11-23-2011, 09:23 PM	#7
Bomby You just freaking blew Joe Biden's mind! Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: WHAT?house Gender: Posts: 19,491 Thanks: 513 Thanked 1,449 Times in 849 Posts Blog Entries: 5	Damn, son. Having a family member on hospice is relentlessly heartbreaking. You're definitely in my thougths.

11-23-2011, 09:42 PM	#8
*Marilink* Gotta catch 'em all! Supermod! Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Location, Location. Gender: Posts: 29,118 Thanks: 2,535 Thanked 1,823 Times in 1,008 Posts	My condolences, Val. Be strong, buddy, you and your family will be in my prayers.

11-23-2011, 10:34 PM	#9
SephirothKirby Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Those who criticize our generation forget who raised it. Gender: Posts: 7,213 Thanks: 373 Thanked 760 Times in 447 Posts	I know this is a really difficult time, and you'll be in my thoughts. I wish I could offer more than "I'm sorry," but unfortunately that's all I can. Stay strong, brother.

11-23-2011, 11:27 PM	#10
Galefore EXPLOSION GOD OF MUSIC Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Some studio somewhere Gender: Posts: 8,275 Thanks: 1,361 Thanked 826 Times in 535 Posts Blog Entries: 5	My deepest condolences, bro. You're in my prayers and my thoughts, and I mean that, man. Much love. hugs

11-23-2011, 11:43 PM	#11
monstrman Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: LET'S SAAAAAVE THE WOOOORLD. Gender: Posts: 1,035 Thanks: 87 Thanked 53 Times in 42 Posts Blog Entries: 5	Dislike... I really wish I could say something that would make you feel better, but all that comes to mind are monkeys and chocolate cake. I'm fairly certain neither would do the job. Do what everyone else said, and stay strong. Your mom would want you to...

11-23-2011, 11:52 PM	#12
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,100 Thanks: 2,156 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	Val, you're a good guy. Everyone here thinks that. I hope you can deal with this all well. If there's anything I personally can do for you, let me know and I'll try and make it happen.

11-24-2011, 12:25 AM	#13
Deku Trii PP&R Mod Current Events Mod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Texas Gender: Posts: 9,031 Thanks: 521 Thanked 1,099 Times in 583 Posts	I'm really sorry, Val. It sucks that a good guy like you has to go through this. I'll pray for you and your family.

11-24-2011, 12:50 AM	#14
Blake Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: A generic place such as a house Gender: Posts: 4,628 Thanks: 1,489 Thanked 206 Times in 148 Posts	I'm sorry you have to deal with a loss of a parent at such a young age. I know I would be devastated if I suffered through a similar situation. It's sad it seems good people suffer so much more frequently. I wish you and your family the strength to get through this struggle over the coming years.

11-24-2011, 01:06 AM	#15
Antisocial Janitor Join Date: May 2000 Gender: Posts: 11,471 Thanks: 14 Thanked 1,296 Times in 536 Posts	There were two outcomes that came to mind reading the title of this thread and I was sorry to see that it wasn't the cancer going away. Much love and peace.

11-24-2011, 03:26 AM	#17
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,701 Times in 2,581 Posts Blog Entries: 20	Thanks, everyone. She passed away last night around 10:30. At the very least I'm glad her struggle's finally over. It's gonna be a tough holiday, for sure, but we'll be having Thanksgiving later today with her side of the family like we always do, because we know it's what she would've wanted.

11-24-2011, 05:21 AM	#18
*Heroine of the Dragon* The Grinnie Fool! ♥♥♥ VGFCodes Staff Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Twinklebutton Wintersprout Gender: Posts: 31,454 Thanks: 864 Thanked 851 Times in 632 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Oh Val, my deepest sympathies. hugs you again I'll be sure to look for her star in the sky later tonight.

11-24-2011, 07:24 AM	#19
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham City Gender: Posts: 7,209 Thanks: 701 Thanked 536 Times in 367 Posts	Oh Vally, you are the strongest man I know. I praying for your family in this tough time. As always, my door is always open if you need to talk. I think it's very sweet that you're having Thanksgiving with her family and I'm sure they appreciate it immensely. Love you, man.

11-24-2011, 07:28 AM	#20
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	I won't have the pleasure of knowing your mother, but she is part of what made you a kind, funny, generous man. I'm grateful to her for being there for you, so that we could have a wonderful friend. If there is anything we can do, truly, let us know. So if I should go before thee, break not a flower, nor engrave a stone. Do not speak in reserved voices, but be the good selves I have known. For I preside in the Otherworld, where the sun dost not rise nor set. So if thou wilt, remember, and if thou wilt, forget. Traci Harding