An Awkward Situation

User Name · 11-30-2011, 12:19 AM

So one of my old best friends started sleeping with a girl whose parents are friends with my mom. He came home from school and told me. He also told me how clingy she's getting and how he wasn't interested in her as anything more than a good time. She told him she was alright with that, but now she's acting like she's not...of course, because she's normal and no strings attached isn't a plausible thing.

She lulled me into his bathroom when we were all over watching a show. She asked me if he was interested in her and what he thinks of their relationship. I didn't want to say anything bad about my friend, but I didn't want to lie because I think he's being a mega-jerk to this girl. So, I told her that he's just immature and can't keep a steady girlfriend and he's probably just looking to have a good time.

Now they're still sleeping together, but he's being mean to her and she doesn't understand it. I feel like I'm in the middle of this somehow. She constantly messages me on Facebook now even though we never really talked before. Oh, and she's best friends with my friend's sister, so it's not like she can just...go away. Anyway, just had to vent. I want to just stop talking to her, but then I'd feel insensitive just like my friend is being. UUUUGHHH. This is why you have to establish ground-rules before sleeping with someone...or just know them longer than two weeks. Good rule.

Dizzy · 11-30-2011, 12:22 AM

Have you tried punching the guy? That seems to solve everything.

Rainbow Dash · 11-30-2011, 12:23 AM

talk to the guy, not the girl

he's the problem

***CaptHayfever*** · 11-30-2011, 12:54 AM

He's the problem, but if he does finally leave her alone, she's still going to need a solution.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

Random User · 11-30-2011, 01:03 AM

As stated above, the guy is the problem here. Talk to him about this.

User Name · 11-30-2011, 04:31 PM

Yeah, see, this guy is one that even if I told him what I thought, he wouldn't understand. Or he would make fun of her more if I told him what she was thinking. It would be easy to just talk to him, but the consequences of that would make it worse. He's kind of a pig and has this ideal girl who will have sex with him without opening her mouth.

Random User · 11-30-2011, 08:30 PM

Hm... The only thing I can think of at this point would be telling this girl what you think about their relationship if you continue to be in the middle of it. I've been stuck in a similar situation where one of my friends was in a crummy relationship with another friend, but I ended up losing a couple friends for standing up for the other.

Bomby · 11-30-2011, 09:58 PM

There's nothing wrong with ****ing around for a while if both parties involved have an understanding but once feelings occur on one side, the side without feelings should have the sense to break it off. So tell him he needs to either commit or break it off.

***CaptHayfever*** · 11-30-2011, 10:03 PM

If he won't understand what's wrong with what he's doing, then just telling to crap or get off the pot won't help either.

Random's got it. If you need to do something, it'll have to be helping her, not chastising him.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

Kil'jaeden · 12-02-2011, 12:09 PM

If she was told the terms at the beggining and agreed to them, then he has made no breach of contract. But, it is also not a breach for the dissatisfied party to back out, so I would suggest that and probably legal counsel.

11-30-2011, 12:19 AM	#1
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham City Gender: Posts: 7,209 Thanks: 701 Thanked 536 Times in 367 Posts	An Awkward Situation So one of my old best friends started sleeping with a girl whose parents are friends with my mom. He came home from school and told me. He also told me how clingy she's getting and how he wasn't interested in her as anything more than a good time. She told him she was alright with that, but now she's acting like she's not...of course, because she's normal and no strings attached isn't a plausible thing. She lulled me into his bathroom when we were all over watching a show. She asked me if he was interested in her and what he thinks of their relationship. I didn't want to say anything bad about my friend, but I didn't want to lie because I think he's being a mega-jerk to this girl. So, I told her that he's just immature and can't keep a steady girlfriend and he's probably just looking to have a good time. Now they're still sleeping together, but he's being mean to her and she doesn't understand it. I feel like I'm in the middle of this somehow. She constantly messages me on Facebook now even though we never really talked before. Oh, and she's best friends with my friend's sister, so it's not like she can just...go away. Anyway, just had to vent. I want to just stop talking to her, but then I'd feel insensitive just like my friend is being. UUUUGHHH. This is why you have to establish ground-rules before sleeping with someone...or just know them longer than two weeks. Good rule.

11-30-2011, 12:22 AM	#2
Dizzy Podiaphobe Join Date: Oct 2007 Gender: Posts: 19,359 Thanks: 1,764 Thanked 1,161 Times in 804 Posts Blog Entries: 116	Have you tried punching the guy? That seems to solve everything.

11-30-2011, 12:23 AM	#3
Rainbow Dash been dreamin', i've been waitin' Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: a bomb-ass cloud house bachelorette pad Gender: Posts: 24,402 Thanks: 173 Thanked 1,179 Times in 716 Posts	talk to the guy, not the girl he's the problem

11-30-2011, 12:54 AM	#4
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,661 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	He's the problem, but if he does finally leave her alone, she's still going to need a solution. And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

11-30-2011, 01:03 AM	#5
Random User Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Equestrian Republic of Spanglidesh Gender: Posts: 3,562 Thanks: 321 Thanked 195 Times in 143 Posts Blog Entries: 4	As stated above, the guy is the problem here. Talk to him about this.

11-30-2011, 04:31 PM	#6
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham City Gender: Posts: 7,209 Thanks: 701 Thanked 536 Times in 367 Posts	Yeah, see, this guy is one that even if I told him what I thought, he wouldn't understand. Or he would make fun of her more if I told him what she was thinking. It would be easy to just talk to him, but the consequences of that would make it worse. He's kind of a pig and has this ideal girl who will have sex with him without opening her mouth.

11-30-2011, 08:30 PM	#7
Random User Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Equestrian Republic of Spanglidesh Gender: Posts: 3,562 Thanks: 321 Thanked 195 Times in 143 Posts Blog Entries: 4	Hm... The only thing I can think of at this point would be telling this girl what you think about their relationship if you continue to be in the middle of it. I've been stuck in a similar situation where one of my friends was in a crummy relationship with another friend, but I ended up losing a couple friends for standing up for the other.

11-30-2011, 09:58 PM	#8
Bomby You just freaking blew Joe Biden's mind! Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: WHAT?house Gender: Posts: 19,491 Thanks: 513 Thanked 1,449 Times in 849 Posts Blog Entries: 5	There's nothing wrong with ****ing around for a while if both parties involved have an understanding but once feelings occur on one side, the side without feelings should have the sense to break it off. So tell him he needs to either commit or break it off.

11-30-2011, 10:03 PM	#9
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,661 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	If he won't understand what's wrong with what he's doing, then just telling to crap or get off the pot won't help either. Random's got it. If you need to do something, it'll have to be helping her, not chastising him. And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

12-02-2011, 12:09 PM	#10
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 2,132 Thanks: 21 Thanked 146 Times in 99 Posts	If she was told the terms at the beggining and agreed to them, then he has made no breach of contract. But, it is also not a breach for the dissatisfied party to back out, so I would suggest that and probably legal counsel.