My Situation: Update - VGF

Super_Mario_1987 · 02-14-2005, 07:45 PM

Well, I thought I would give all of you VGF members here a little look into my love life, but only because I need some advice from my fellow pals.

On Valentines Day 2004, our school had a Winter Formal dance and I met this girl there that came with someone else (they went as friends) and we started talking and dancing and eventually in about a week we started dating. (Yeah, we kinda rushed it) Anyway we dated for about 6 months and then broke up in August.

But now here comes the twist, around Christmas time, we started talking again and on New Years Eve we hooked back up. Our Winter Formal dance was February 12th and I planned on taking my, at the time, girlfriend. Well, I found out a week before the dance she was cheating on me so I broke up with her. A day later, I talked to a good friend of mine and I decided to ask her to go as friends and so we did, and we had an awesome time. We went to a nice restaurant and had dinner with my best friend and his girlfriend and had a FUN time. The dance was amazingly awesomely fun and one of the greatest nights of my life. Goes to show you how you have more fun with your good friends at a dance than a girlfriend. (Well at least I think so anyway)

But... this story has nothing to do with my ex girlfriend. It has to do with Bri, my good friend I took to the dance. Now, we've been friends forever and i've never "like liked" her. Last night, I asked her to go prom with me and she said yes so that's obviously exciting too. However, I have a feeling that I may like her. I look at it like this... I'm happy either way with her. If we remain good friends, then that's cool and i'd still be happy. If we went out, i'd be happy too. But if we broke up and lost our friendship i'd be really disappointed. She's a really cool girl. I just don't know if I should risk it, or rush it. My thought is to wait awhile and see how things go. Because.. she moves on pretty fast with guys. She's not a "slut" or anything but she just moves on fast. And supposedly she's cheated on a guy before, but that's not 100% true, more of a rumor. The same person informed me that a bunch of sophomore girls including her (shes a sophomore by the way) would be trying to do ANYTHING to go to prom. I talked to a good friend of mine and shes a good friend of hers too and we know she's not like that, because Saturday night i was thinking of asking her to prom anyway.

So what do you guys think I should do... go after her and see what happens? Wait awhile and not rush it? Wait till prom to ask her out? Be her good friend? Idk... tell me what you guys think.

Update...

I've discovered some girls in her class, well, girls in general are not fond of her. Supposedly Bri talks a lot behind peoples backs and girls hate her for it. Some girls have been coming up to me and saying you're such a good guy why are you taking her to Prom? she's going to ditch you for other guys and blah blah blah.. and so i ended up talking to Bri about it, I mean you never know she could lie and say oh it'll be okay don't worry I won't do that, and end up doing it. I know Bri more than some girls think they do and Bri wouldn't do that. She didn't do it at Winter Formal so why would she do it at Prom? I think girls need to stop talking trash and stay out of our business personally. But i'm still going to take it slow and see where we're at in a month or 2 before I make a move. What do you guys think?

[ February 17, 2005, 04:05 PM: Message edited by: Sir Mr. Mario 87' ]

**S1x** · 02-14-2005, 07:50 PM

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This applies to both your situation and Monopoly. But in all seriousness, think about what has already happened, and what could happen. Personally, I'd just stay friends, but then again, I don't know your odds.

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Sen. Brak Obama (FACE) · 02-14-2005, 10:40 PM

Try it, but in a relationship, you gotta be EXTRA careful.

Like Chris Rock said:
Women are like the police, they have every piece of evidence, they just want the confession.

In other words, if you hook up, don't do anything stupid that'll end both relationships.

The Missing Link · 02-15-2005, 12:49 AM

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SilverWind · 02-15-2005, 02:30 AM

It's funny how everyone gives very different, but essentially the same, advice. ^_^

What do I have to say? Don't rush it. You seem content at the spot you are right now, being friends and possibly being more, and you also seem unsure on proceeding. Therefore, take your time. Don't let rumours and gossip push you to action, especially when you're still not quite positive you like her. If she likes you, she'll like you for who you are. Maintain being a good friend, and it may develop into something more once Prom rolls around. When you know, you'll know for sure.

Super_Mario_1987 · 02-15-2005, 11:02 PM

Scroll up for an update at the bottom.

[ February 17, 2005, 04:06 PM: Message edited by: Sir Mr. Mario 87' ]

SilverWind · 02-18-2005, 05:17 AM

^_^

Once again, judge Bri by her actions alone, not by the gossipy words of others. Since you say you know her better than other people do --and certainly, I'm thinking you'd know better than gossipy girls, sure-- there's no reason to listen to their words unless you find they are actually valid based on what you personally see. Aside from that, avoid the rumour mills as best as you can (just a personal suggestion--I hate such things), or at least try to prevent it from clouding your own thoughts. The only thought that I suggest you ponder on in regards to the gossip talk is to try and find a reason as to why girls are telling you such things-- are the gossiping girls earnestly concerned about you, or do they seem like they want to hurt you instead?

The Missing Link · 02-18-2005, 09:09 AM

It sounds as if you're doing the right thing, my friend. I don't have any better advice that I could give you.

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Super_Mario_1987 · 02-19-2005, 05:22 PM

Yeah I have to agree with both of you. ^ & ^^.

Recently I was talking to a friend and she informed me that tonight that Bri and her friend, well and my good buddy too, Nick would be hanging out. My friend warned me, even though I'm not going to make any moves soon with Bri, just because moving fast would be really bad. She said that Nick may be after her. Let me give you a little background info. on Nick... Nick is a good friend of mine, Senior in high school, and leads girls on. I mean I hate to say that about him because he's a good friend but wow.. he does. He hurt 2 girls this school year alone and if it happens to Bri i'll be disappointed. But.. i'm just going to stand back and not force anything to happen.

[sage] · 02-26-2005, 12:22 AM

Stay friends. Don't ruin a good friendship. There's a million other girls you can date while still remain friends with her.

02-14-2005, 10:40 PM	#3
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02-14-2005, 07:45 PM	#1
Super_Mario_1987 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Iowa Gender: Posts: 6,560 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 6,253.04 Bank: 500.00 Total Points: 6,753.04 Donate	Well, I thought I would give all of you VGF members here a little look into my love life, but only because I need some advice from my fellow pals. On Valentines Day 2004, our school had a Winter Formal dance and I met this girl there that came with someone else (they went as friends) and we started talking and dancing and eventually in about a week we started dating. (Yeah, we kinda rushed it) Anyway we dated for about 6 months and then broke up in August. But now here comes the twist, around Christmas time, we started talking again and on New Years Eve we hooked back up. Our Winter Formal dance was February 12th and I planned on taking my, at the time, girlfriend. Well, I found out a week before the dance she was cheating on me so I broke up with her. A day later, I talked to a good friend of mine and I decided to ask her to go as friends and so we did, and we had an awesome time. We went to a nice restaurant and had dinner with my best friend and his girlfriend and had a FUN time. The dance was amazingly awesomely fun and one of the greatest nights of my life. Goes to show you how you have more fun with your good friends at a dance than a girlfriend. (Well at least I think so anyway) But... this story has nothing to do with my ex girlfriend. It has to do with Bri, my good friend I took to the dance. Now, we've been friends forever and i've never "like liked" her. Last night, I asked her to go prom with me and she said yes so that's obviously exciting too. However, I have a feeling that I may like her. I look at it like this... I'm happy either way with her. If we remain good friends, then that's cool and i'd still be happy. If we went out, i'd be happy too. But if we broke up and lost our friendship i'd be really disappointed. She's a really cool girl. I just don't know if I should risk it, or rush it. My thought is to wait awhile and see how things go. Because.. she moves on pretty fast with guys. She's not a "slut" or anything but she just moves on fast. And supposedly she's cheated on a guy before, but that's not 100% true, more of a rumor. The same person informed me that a bunch of sophomore girls including her (shes a sophomore by the way) would be trying to do ANYTHING to go to prom. I talked to a good friend of mine and shes a good friend of hers too and we know she's not like that, because Saturday night i was thinking of asking her to prom anyway. So what do you guys think I should do... go after her and see what happens? Wait awhile and not rush it? Wait till prom to ask her out? Be her good friend? Idk... tell me what you guys think. Update... I've discovered some girls in her class, well, girls in general are not fond of her. Supposedly Bri talks a lot behind peoples backs and girls hate her for it. Some girls have been coming up to me and saying you're such a good guy why are you taking her to Prom? she's going to ditch you for other guys and blah blah blah.. and so i ended up talking to Bri about it, I mean you never know she could lie and say oh it'll be okay don't worry I won't do that, and end up doing it. I know Bri more than some girls think they do and Bri wouldn't do that. She didn't do it at Winter Formal so why would she do it at Prom? I think girls need to stop talking trash and stay out of our business personally. But i'm still going to take it slow and see where we're at in a month or 2 before I make a move. What do you guys think? [ February 17, 2005, 04:05 PM: Message edited by: Sir Mr. Mario 87' ]

02-14-2005, 07:50 PM	#2
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02-15-2005, 12:49 AM	#4
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02-15-2005, 02:30 AM	#5
SilverWind Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Looking up at the stars... Posts: 8,225 Thanks: 2 Thanked 5 Times in 3 Posts Points: 12,296.24 Bank: 500.00 Total Points: 12,796.24 Donate	It's funny how everyone gives very different, but essentially the same, advice. ^_^ What do I have to say? Don't rush it. You seem content at the spot you are right now, being friends and possibly being more, and you also seem unsure on proceeding. Therefore, take your time. Don't let rumours and gossip push you to action, especially when you're still not quite positive you like her. If she likes you, she'll like you for who you are. Maintain being a good friend, and it may develop into something more once Prom rolls around. When you know, you'll know for sure.

02-15-2005, 11:02 PM	#6
Super_Mario_1987 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Iowa Gender: Posts: 6,560 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 6,253.04 Bank: 500.00 Total Points: 6,753.04 Donate	Scroll up for an update at the bottom. [ February 17, 2005, 04:06 PM: Message edited by: Sir Mr. Mario 87' ]

02-18-2005, 05:17 AM	#7
SilverWind Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Looking up at the stars... Posts: 8,225 Thanks: 2 Thanked 5 Times in 3 Posts Points: 12,296.24 Bank: 500.00 Total Points: 12,796.24 Donate	^_^ Once again, judge Bri by her actions alone, not by the gossipy words of others. Since you say you know her better than other people do --and certainly, I'm thinking you'd know better than gossipy girls, sure-- there's no reason to listen to their words unless you find they are actually valid based on what you personally see. Aside from that, avoid the rumour mills as best as you can (just a personal suggestion--I hate such things), or at least try to prevent it from clouding your own thoughts. The only thought that I suggest you ponder on in regards to the gossip talk is to try and find a reason as to why girls are telling you such things-- are the gossiping girls earnestly concerned about you, or do they seem like they want to hurt you instead?

02-18-2005, 09:09 AM	#8
The Missing Link Professional Lurker Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: New Hyrule, Washington, US Gender: Posts: 15,573 Thanks: 80 Thanked 183 Times in 110 Posts Points: 5,511.15 Bank: 51,115.11 Total Points: 56,626.26 Donate	It sounds as if you're doing the right thing, my friend. I don't have any better advice that I could give you. "There are some who call me... Link?" "Carpe Gaium Domesticum!" (Seize the Cucco!) Zelda: The Grand Adventures \| Triforce MUCK ザ行方不明リンク悪いユウモアの賢人

02-19-2005, 05:22 PM	#9
Super_Mario_1987 Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Iowa Gender: Posts: 6,560 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 6,253.04 Bank: 500.00 Total Points: 6,753.04 Donate	Yeah I have to agree with both of you. ^ & ^^. Recently I was talking to a friend and she informed me that tonight that Bri and her friend, well and my good buddy too, Nick would be hanging out. My friend warned me, even though I'm not going to make any moves soon with Bri, just because moving fast would be really bad. She said that Nick may be after her. Let me give you a little background info. on Nick... Nick is a good friend of mine, Senior in high school, and leads girls on. I mean I hate to say that about him because he's a good friend but wow.. he does. He hurt 2 girls this school year alone and if it happens to Bri i'll be disappointed. But.. i'm just going to stand back and not force anything to happen.

02-26-2005, 12:22 AM	#10
[sage] Veteran Member Join Date: Dec 2000 Location: Florida Gender: Posts: 18,021 Thanks: 1 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts Points: 29,462.75 Bank: 510.00 Total Points: 29,972.75 Donate	Stay friends. Don't ruin a good friendship. There's a million other girls you can date while still remain friends with her.