Help on asking out a girl.

joe_brown · 08-08-2006, 01:47 PM

Hello, most of you probably don't know me, I haven't been on here for a while. Well, I have known this girl for about 2 years, but here in the past week or 2 we have started talking a lot. She is a year younger than me.

She is my best friend's sister.

This makes things a bit awkard, but we are both shy. I told her a couple days ago that I really like her a lot and i just realized it (this is true) and I can't decide on whether or not to ask her out.

We talk on MSN a lot, and I comment her on myspace all the time. I think she likes me because her brother asked her and she said yes.

I stayed the night with my friend the other night, and I talked to her, there in person, and we both smiled at each other a lot. The problem I have is, when I'm talking I can't really think of much to say. Just boring or stupid stuff.

So can anyone help me out? Tips on what to talk about with each other, and how to get her to like me more? Thanks, btw I'm 14 and she is 13.

Kain Highwind · 08-08-2006, 10:30 PM

This is just an awkward time for you. As a young person, your just starting to show...affection. It's just a sign of noticing the sexes sexually.

But if your friend doesn't mind, you can also spend time around his sister. After all, she's also in your friend's house, and be a polite guest.

Just take it slowly, and let time take it's place. Also, it's a good idea just to be friends, because at that age, I think that you all may need to explore who you are, and what you like and expect in a relationship (and learning from many different people...

)...That's what it's about.

Bomby · 08-08-2006, 11:20 PM

Think of what happened to Manolo.

What would your friend think? Would he still be cool with you if you dated his sister? What if you two break up? Would that jeopardize your friendship with him? Is it worth the risk?

I don't know your friend, but these are things to consider.

joe_brown · 08-09-2006, 03:32 PM

Update: I stayed the night at my friend's house last night. He left us alone in the living room for a while to talk, and watch TV together. We sure do smile a lot at each other.

@Malik: No, he is totally cool with me liking her. He actually tries to get her to like me more.

Well, I think things went pretty smooth, I asked her out and she said she will answer, but she must think about it. I dont really know what to say, I am waiting for an answer right now.

Alex · 08-09-2006, 05:43 PM

I was in that position once...sorta. Except I got over it in a day.

But anywayz, good luck to ya

Golden Ganon · 08-09-2006, 07:12 PM

I was bold enough to ask a girl out then she turned me down. Rejection is a terrible feeling.

The Joker · 08-09-2006, 07:16 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by king ganon

I was bold enough to ask a girl out then she turned me down. Rejection is a terrible feeling.

Some how this does not suprise me...

My only advice to you would be not to let her know that your Internet handle is Dukie....other than that you should be fine

***Ace Mercury*** · 08-09-2006, 07:32 PM

Do this: http://www.robandelliot.cycomics.com/archive.php?id=236

Swordmaster Link · 08-09-2006, 08:34 PM

Best friend's sister? Yikes. That's a no-no.

DJ Ryan · 08-09-2006, 08:55 PM

I wouldn't be turned down by the former statement. SML just sucks at talkin to da layyydeeez.

Anyways, Ithink the advice given by Tikal is advice enough, try not to jump into things thinkin that you need a relationship or whatnot. Trust me, it's a lot better to take things slow, listen to John Legend my friend.

Swordmaster Link · 08-09-2006, 09:09 PM

The word you're looking for is "previous"

joe_brown · 08-09-2006, 09:17 PM

Update: She said no. Here is the exact comment she said:

..Well idk ur my brothers best friend i think it'd be kinda weird if i went out with u. I just never really saw us dating..ur really ubbbberrrllly cool tho..just idk..i feel like being single for a while

Well, i am really sad right now, feel like i have a huge lump in my throat and i also feel like a retard. I reallllllllllllly like her, you guys don't understand. We are still gonna talk I think, but with a response like this, does it mean she feels sorry for me or does she really want to be single for a while? She just got out of a relationship with someone for about 3 months I believe.

What do i do now? :'(

Swordmaster Link · 08-09-2006, 09:23 PM

Yeah the whole rejection thing isn't very fun.

Don't do anything. Just relax, personally I'd say try to hang out with her slightly less frequently so you can let yourself move on but you're young and you didn't really start going out with her so I don't think it's a big thing.

***ZeldaGirl*** · 08-09-2006, 09:25 PM

You try to move on. Rejection hurts, but if you can't do anything about it, don't stress. The sooner you can move on, the better everything will be for you. And you never know... when the time is right, maybe things will work out for you.

DJ Ryan · 08-09-2006, 09:29 PM

Failure makes for bigger success.

Don't be agressive in trying to get her. This is a stage in life and relationships, it's how things work. [/End repetitive cliched love teachings]

Swordmaster Link · 08-09-2006, 09:31 PM

Yeah seriously, the three of us said the same thing.

joe_brown · 08-09-2006, 09:34 PM

Thanks for helping me u guys, i really appreciate it a lot, i sent her a message telling her that we will take things slow from now on, I don't plan on asking her back out for a while, but I really like her, and I hope that we will eventually get together. any tips?

Swordmaster Link · 08-09-2006, 09:35 PM

Yeah. Buy some Froot Loops.

joe_brown · 08-09-2006, 09:47 PM

When she says, i want to be single for a while, does this usually mean what it is, or is it just a way to say "Hell no"

Swordmaster Link · 08-09-2006, 09:49 PM

That's a legit reason some of the time. Either way if you want to get in her good graces, make her follow her nose to a bowl of Froot Loops. It always works.

08-08-2006, 01:47 PM	#1
joe_brown Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Gender: Posts: 1,644 Thanks: 11 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts Points: 7,721.39 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 7,721.39 Donate	Help on asking out a girl. Hello, most of you probably don't know me, I haven't been on here for a while. Well, I have known this girl for about 2 years, but here in the past week or 2 we have started talking a lot. She is a year younger than me. She is my best friend's sister. This makes things a bit awkard, but we are both shy. I told her a couple days ago that I really like her a lot and i just realized it (this is true) and I can't decide on whether or not to ask her out. We talk on MSN a lot, and I comment her on myspace all the time. I think she likes me because her brother asked her and she said yes. I stayed the night with my friend the other night, and I talked to her, there in person, and we both smiled at each other a lot. The problem I have is, when I'm talking I can't really think of much to say. Just boring or stupid stuff. So can anyone help me out? Tips on what to talk about with each other, and how to get her to like me more? Thanks, btw I'm 14 and she is 13.

08-09-2006, 07:32 PM	#8
*Ace Mercury* Marshmallow Knight ☆ Supermod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Southern Ontario Gender: Posts: 19,114 Thanks: 370 Thanked 1,579 Times in 817 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 110,051.09 Bank: 23,455,165.07 Total Points: 23,565,216.16 Donate	Just kidding. Don't do this. Do this: http://www.robandelliot.cycomics.com/archive.php?id=236

08-09-2006, 09:17 PM	#12
joe_brown Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Gender: Posts: 1,644 Thanks: 11 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts Points: 7,721.39 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 7,721.39 Donate	It's a no, Update: She said no. Here is the exact comment she said: ..Well idk ur my brothers best friend i think it'd be kinda weird if i went out with u. I just never really saw us dating..ur really ubbbberrrllly cool tho..just idk..i feel like being single for a while Well, i am really sad right now, feel like i have a huge lump in my throat and i also feel like a retard. I reallllllllllllly like her, you guys don't understand. We are still gonna talk I think, but with a response like this, does it mean she feels sorry for me or does she really want to be single for a while? She just got out of a relationship with someone for about 3 months I believe. What do i do now? :'(

08-08-2006, 10:30 PM	#2
Kain Highwind Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Pending. Gender: Posts: 5,789 Thanks: 127 Thanked 117 Times in 82 Posts Points: 6,683.81 Bank: 47,139.19 Total Points: 53,823.00 Donate	This is just an awkward time for you. As a young person, your just starting to show...affection. It's just a sign of noticing the sexes sexually. But if your friend doesn't mind, you can also spend time around his sister. After all, she's also in your friend's house, and be a polite guest. Just take it slowly, and let time take it's place. Also, it's a good idea just to be friends, because at that age, I think that you all may need to explore who you are, and what you like and expect in a relationship (and learning from many different people... )...That's what it's about.

08-08-2006, 11:20 PM	#3
Bomby Condescending Film Jerk Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Off the coast and I'm headed nowhere Gender: Posts: 15,394 Thanks: 231 Thanked 681 Times in 432 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 6,118.77 Bank: 3,894,426.26 Total Points: 3,900,545.04 Donate	Think of what happened to Manolo. What would your friend think? Would he still be cool with you if you dated his sister? What if you two break up? Would that jeopardize your friendship with him? Is it worth the risk? I don't know your friend, but these are things to consider.

08-09-2006, 03:32 PM	#4
joe_brown Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Gender: Posts: 1,644 Thanks: 11 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts Points: 7,721.39 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 7,721.39 Donate	Update: I stayed the night at my friend's house last night. He left us alone in the living room for a while to talk, and watch TV together. We sure do smile a lot at each other. @Malik: No, he is totally cool with me liking her. He actually tries to get her to like me more. Well, I think things went pretty smooth, I asked her out and she said she will answer, but she must think about it. I dont really know what to say, I am waiting for an answer right now.

08-09-2006, 05:43 PM	#5
Alex Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: In front of my computer with my games and my guitars. Gender: Posts: 2,611 Thanks: 108 Thanked 94 Times in 82 Posts Points: 53,312.02 Bank: 0.43 Total Points: 53,312.45 Donate	I was in that position once...sorta. Except I got over it in a day. But anywayz, good luck to ya

08-09-2006, 07:12 PM	#6
Golden Ganon Senior Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: North Dakota, U.S. Gender: Posts: 3,398 Thanks: 38 Thanked 67 Times in 60 Posts Points: 12,811.56 Bank: 105.10 Total Points: 12,916.66 Donate	I was bold enough to ask a girl out then she turned me down. Rejection is a terrible feeling.

08-09-2006, 08:34 PM	#9
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 30,896 Thanks: 234 Thanked 772 Times in 545 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 34.92 Bank: 2,121,302.31 Total Points: 2,121,337.23 Donate	Best friend's sister? Yikes. That's a no-no.

08-09-2006, 08:55 PM	#10
DJ Ryan http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/359805 Vote for your favorite songs Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Shhhh, it's a secret right now Gender: Posts: 13,440 Thanks: 1,075 Thanked 723 Times in 418 Posts Points: 39,608.58 Bank: 962,921.99 Total Points: 1,002,530.56 Donate	I wouldn't be turned down by the former statement. SML just sucks at talkin to da layyydeeez. Anyways, Ithink the advice given by Tikal is advice enough, try not to jump into things thinkin that you need a relationship or whatnot. Trust me, it's a lot better to take things slow, listen to John Legend my friend.

08-09-2006, 09:09 PM	#11
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 30,896 Thanks: 234 Thanked 772 Times in 545 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 34.92 Bank: 2,121,302.31 Total Points: 2,121,337.23 Donate	The word you're looking for is "previous"

08-09-2006, 09:23 PM	#13
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 30,896 Thanks: 234 Thanked 772 Times in 545 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 34.92 Bank: 2,121,302.31 Total Points: 2,121,337.23 Donate	Yeah the whole rejection thing isn't very fun. Don't do anything. Just relax, personally I'd say try to hang out with her slightly less frequently so you can let yourself move on but you're young and you didn't really start going out with her so I don't think it's a big thing.

08-09-2006, 09:25 PM	#14
*ZeldaGirl* Venting SuperMod Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 12,401 Thanks: 551 Thanked 911 Times in 619 Posts Points: 36,003.93 Bank: 662,433.14 Total Points: 698,437.07 Donate	You try to move on. Rejection hurts, but if you can't do anything about it, don't stress. The sooner you can move on, the better everything will be for you. And you never know... when the time is right, maybe things will work out for you.

08-09-2006, 09:29 PM	#15
DJ Ryan http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/359805 Vote for your favorite songs Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Shhhh, it's a secret right now Gender: Posts: 13,440 Thanks: 1,075 Thanked 723 Times in 418 Posts Points: 39,608.58 Bank: 962,921.99 Total Points: 1,002,530.56 Donate	Failure makes for bigger success. Don't be agressive in trying to get her. This is a stage in life and relationships, it's how things work. [/End repetitive cliched love teachings]

08-09-2006, 09:31 PM	#16
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 30,896 Thanks: 234 Thanked 772 Times in 545 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 34.92 Bank: 2,121,302.31 Total Points: 2,121,337.23 Donate	Yeah seriously, the three of us said the same thing.

08-09-2006, 09:34 PM	#17
joe_brown Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Gender: Posts: 1,644 Thanks: 11 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts Points: 7,721.39 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 7,721.39 Donate	Thanks for helping me u guys, i really appreciate it a lot, i sent her a message telling her that we will take things slow from now on, I don't plan on asking her back out for a while, but I really like her, and I hope that we will eventually get together. any tips?

08-09-2006, 09:35 PM	#18
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 30,896 Thanks: 234 Thanked 772 Times in 545 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 34.92 Bank: 2,121,302.31 Total Points: 2,121,337.23 Donate	Yeah. Buy some Froot Loops.

08-09-2006, 09:47 PM	#19
joe_brown Member Join Date: Nov 2002 Gender: Posts: 1,644 Thanks: 11 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts Points: 7,721.39 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 7,721.39 Donate	When she says, i want to be single for a while, does this usually mean what it is, or is it just a way to say "Hell no"

08-09-2006, 09:49 PM	#20
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 30,896 Thanks: 234 Thanked 772 Times in 545 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 34.92 Bank: 2,121,302.31 Total Points: 2,121,337.23 Donate	That's a legit reason some of the time. Either way if you want to get in her good graces, make her follow her nose to a bowl of Froot Loops. It always works.