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Chunky Kong12345 · 10-29-2006, 11:53 AM

I request any topic Sean makes regarding love advice be duly ignored/locked.

**Sean P Kelly** · 10-29-2006, 12:07 PM

You know, if you saw me in person and saw how shy a person I truly am, you probably wouldn't have such harsh words for me.

I also want to further emphasize that I WASN'T avoiding this girl. I wanted to see her everyday if possible. However, I stopped recieving replies to the text-messages I sent her and calling her was outside of my comfort zone (though I was all set to call her last week, but I ended up not needing to).

But, you know what? If I reveal my feelings without being sure that there's a chance they will be returned, it will probably destroy the friendship. If not on her part, definitely on mine, since I will be too embarassed/awkward to show my face around her again.

***ZeldaGirl*** · 10-29-2006, 12:22 PM

^ I can relate to you not wanting to tell her because you would think it would ruin the friendship. But, you claim that you care so much about this girl. Even if she doesn't return the feelings, if you care about her, you will still want to be her friend. It might take you some time to feel less embarrassed about it, but it will help you move on. It isn't healthy to constantly pine over someone else. I think you need to take that chance.

**Sean P Kelly** · 10-29-2006, 12:28 PM

Even if I do want to tell her, I can't just do it in idle conversation and with uncertain frequency that I see her, I'm not sure if I'll even get the chance.

***ZeldaGirl*** · 10-29-2006, 12:32 PM

Well, you could always just text her one day saying "I need to talk to you", and when you two finally do meet up say something like, "I value our friendship greatly, so I'm hesitant to tell you this, but I have to say it for my own sake..." She'll understand, I'm sure. And if she does not requite your feelings, you said so yourself that you two don't see each other extremely often, so that will give you time to compose yourself and heal before hanging out with her as friends again.

Chunky Kong12345 · 10-29-2006, 12:58 PM

ZG saves the day.

Or something.

Sean, I'm shy, too, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't express my feelings to someone I like.

I can't go very far, being 15, but whatever.

Smarmy Vent · 10-29-2006, 12:58 PM

For the love of God, Sean, and this is coming from someone who believes in no God, just TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL! You are at least friends with her, just walk up to her one day, tell her, "Can I talk to you alone for a minute?" then take her to some place nice and quiet, maybe in an empty hallway or behind a tree, then tell her, "I think I might be in love with you." I know what it's like to be painfully shy, to be depressed and alone, and I know how horrible it feels to just know you could have told the girl the way you feel yet you waited to long.

Sean, you are the mod of SMBHQ, a site I have been viewing since I was just a little boy. I admire you, and I really hope someone as high up as you would take some time to understand the advice of a lowbie like me. So please, just PLEASE, hear me out! If it doesn't work out, then that's just okay! If you're really friends she won't mind, you'll still be able to hang out and talk, and things will be just the way they used to be. Friends remain friends no matter what. If things turn out the way you hope, she'll understand you, and she'll be willing to give a relationship a chance. Sean, you HAVE to tell her how you feel. If you don't, you'll regret it now, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Just last week I was in the very same situation, I went up to the girl I liked, told her how I felt, and she understood, and now things are going okay. Remember, just take her to some place quiet, tell her how you feel, and the weight of the whole world will be taken off of your shoulders. Trust me.

***CaptHayfever*** · 10-29-2006, 01:35 PM

Alright, my two cents, Seanathan: If telling her does "destroy the friendship" for her, that is a very good sign not only that it wasn't meant to be, but also that the friendship wasn't really meant to be either; true friendship can survive a jolt like that. (And if it only destroys it for you because of shame, you need to just ignore the shame.)

I speak from experience, man. I told Lucky a long time ago how I felt about her, and she shot me down, but we're still close friends. What's more, she still knows that I still love her, but that never becomes an issue between us. In fact, I know EXACTLY what the answer would be if I brought it up again, because I've met her current boyfriend, but still it's not an issue between us....he's totally clueless, but he has no need to know.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

Bomby · 10-29-2006, 03:04 PM

Sean, look on the bright side:

AT LEAST YOU'RE NOT IN MY Shane rulesShane rulesShane rulesShane rulesING SITUATION.

That is all.

Smarmy Vent · 10-29-2006, 04:20 PM

What's your siteeation, Malik?

Bomby · 10-29-2006, 04:28 PM

^ I believe its on page 2. No use talking about it in here.

***Heroine of the Dragon*** · 10-29-2006, 05:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sean P Kelly

^ Who says I was avoiding her?

Hmmm I would hazard a guess you felt defensive and only read what you wanted of my post... otherwise you would have clearly understood I said it was "MY opinion and MY observation".

But to clarify; in your other thread, you had an opportunity to meet this girl, but you texted her saying you couldn't come because your class had been cancelled. You know, you could have gone regardless... but in my opinion, you used any excuse you could to avoid her.

And, on another occasion, you stated clearly that you didn't wish to call her in case she can't talk. Well, I hate to explain this, but you call anyway and if it's an inconvenient time, she'll tell you and you'll ask when it's better to call and then watch the clock until that time, instead of finding another excuse to avoid her.

I don't wish to make you feel bad. I'm offering you my help. Sometimes it takes others to point out things we don't want to see in ourselves... can you recognise that your past behaviour is not conducive to being a friend? I KNOW YOU ARE SHY. I empathise with that. (You don't know me in real life. Here at VGF, this is like being at home and I am sincerely comfortable here).

I'm sorry if you feel that we're not being sympathetic to you and not taking into consideration your qualities.

Anyway... Please answer this... did you enrol in the course that will help you deal with aspects of your shyness? If so, how's it going? If not, WHY?

Sean, I wish we could help you further... but, as you very well know (if you look inside yourself, you'll see the truth of this), this is now your decision. You have various options before you, as Jay was kind enough to write up.

I know this is all very difficult. I'm not speaking from inexperience. But you have to make a decision... and remaining undecisive is also in effect, making a decision, whether you want to agree with that or not. Whatever you choose, we'll be here no matter. You have friends online.. and by the number of replies, quite some!!

Good luck with your decision...

**Sean P Kelly** · 10-29-2006, 06:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Heroine of the Dragon

But to clarify; in your other thread, you had an opportunity to meet this girl, but you texted her saying you couldn't come because your class had been cancelled. You know, you could have gone regardless... but in my opinion, you used any excuse you could to avoid her.

I should say that the same thing happened last Wednesday, but I went anyway. So no, I was not avoiding her. I only didn't go that day because I had to write a paper, which required the watching of a DVD.

Bomby · 10-29-2006, 07:06 PM

Look at it like this:

If you do nothing, nothing happens.

If you do something, something might happen.

**S1x** · 10-29-2006, 08:22 PM

Bomby · 10-29-2006, 08:34 PM

I like your crayon drawings. Do you use crayola?

**Perrin Aybara** · 10-29-2006, 08:34 PM

Sean. You created this topic asking us for advice.

We have given you the ONLY advice that you could possibly get in your situation.

We have given you the ONLY choice you can make.

We have given you the ONLY option.

TALK TO HER.

And what do you do? You are rude to us. You give us excuses.

We are trying to help, and in response you are being defensive.

Well, I think I'm tired of it. I don't need for my advice to be stepped on any longer. I put a lot of thought and time into my advice. But it's obviously just a waste.

But I'm telling you, all I'm hearing from you are pathetic excuses. You're going to keep making excuses for your life until you just stop and do something.

I'm not trying to be mean. I'm being real.

Good luck, Sean. It's your life, not mine, so I don't have to worry about it any more. You do.-jay

**S1x** · 10-29-2006, 08:36 PM

They're colored pencils. But yeah, I think I gotta sharpen 'em. Wasn't as bright as I wanted.

Chunky Kong12345 · 10-29-2006, 09:02 PM

Yeah, you don't get that thin a line with crayons.

Bomby · 10-29-2006, 09:14 PM

^ Depends on the angle you're holding it at.

10-29-2006, 11:53 AM	#21
Chunky Kong12345 BEEP BEEP I'M A JEEP Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: ogmftwbqq Gender: Posts: 16,412 Thanks: 61 Thanked 209 Times in 152 Posts Points: 2,167.12 Bank: 80,535.77 Total Points: 82,702.89 Donate	I request any topic Sean makes regarding love advice be duly ignored/locked.

10-29-2006, 12:07 PM	#22
Sean P Kelly SMBHQ Mod Movies Mod Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Toronto, ON, Canada Gender: Posts: 3,238 Thanks: 9 Thanked 41 Times in 32 Posts Points: 176,726.61 Bank: 62,509.08 Total Points: 239,235.69 Donate	You know, if you saw me in person and saw how shy a person I truly am, you probably wouldn't have such harsh words for me. I also want to further emphasize that I WASN'T avoiding this girl. I wanted to see her everyday if possible. However, I stopped recieving replies to the text-messages I sent her and calling her was outside of my comfort zone (though I was all set to call her last week, but I ended up not needing to). But, you know what? If I reveal my feelings without being sure that there's a chance they will be returned, it will probably destroy the friendship. If not on her part, definitely on mine, since I will be too embarassed/awkward to show my face around her again.

10-29-2006, 12:22 PM	#23
*ZeldaGirl* Venting SuperMod Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 11,702 Thanks: 495 Thanked 720 Times in 487 Posts Points: 22,440.15 Bank: 306,009.81 Total Points: 328,449.96 Donate	^ I can relate to you not wanting to tell her because you would think it would ruin the friendship. But, you claim that you care so much about this girl. Even if she doesn't return the feelings, if you care about her, you will still want to be her friend. It might take you some time to feel less embarrassed about it, but it will help you move on. It isn't healthy to constantly pine over someone else. I think you need to take that chance.

10-29-2006, 12:28 PM	#24
Sean P Kelly SMBHQ Mod Movies Mod Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Toronto, ON, Canada Gender: Posts: 3,238 Thanks: 9 Thanked 41 Times in 32 Posts Points: 176,726.61 Bank: 62,509.08 Total Points: 239,235.69 Donate	Even if I do want to tell her, I can't just do it in idle conversation and with uncertain frequency that I see her, I'm not sure if I'll even get the chance.

10-29-2006, 12:32 PM	#25
*ZeldaGirl* Venting SuperMod Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 11,702 Thanks: 495 Thanked 720 Times in 487 Posts Points: 22,440.15 Bank: 306,009.81 Total Points: 328,449.96 Donate	Well, you could always just text her one day saying "I need to talk to you", and when you two finally do meet up say something like, "I value our friendship greatly, so I'm hesitant to tell you this, but I have to say it for my own sake..." She'll understand, I'm sure. And if she does not requite your feelings, you said so yourself that you two don't see each other extremely often, so that will give you time to compose yourself and heal before hanging out with her as friends again.

10-29-2006, 12:58 PM	#26
Chunky Kong12345 BEEP BEEP I'M A JEEP Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: ogmftwbqq Gender: Posts: 16,412 Thanks: 61 Thanked 209 Times in 152 Posts Points: 2,167.12 Bank: 80,535.77 Total Points: 82,702.89 Donate	ZG saves the day. Or something. Sean, I'm shy, too, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't express my feelings to someone I like. I can't go very far, being 15, but whatever.

10-29-2006, 12:58 PM	#27
Smarmy Vent The night is darkest just before the dawn. Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham Gender: Posts: 12,612 Thanks: 721 Thanked 1,133 Times in 597 Posts Points: 190.85 Bank: 115,103.15 Total Points: 115,294.00 Donate	For the love of God, Sean, and this is coming from someone who believes in no God, just TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL! You are at least friends with her, just walk up to her one day, tell her, "Can I talk to you alone for a minute?" then take her to some place nice and quiet, maybe in an empty hallway or behind a tree, then tell her, "I think I might be in love with you." I know what it's like to be painfully shy, to be depressed and alone, and I know how horrible it feels to just know you could have told the girl the way you feel yet you waited to long. Sean, you are the mod of SMBHQ, a site I have been viewing since I was just a little boy. I admire you, and I really hope someone as high up as you would take some time to understand the advice of a lowbie like me. So please, just PLEASE, hear me out! If it doesn't work out, then that's just okay! If you're really friends she won't mind, you'll still be able to hang out and talk, and things will be just the way they used to be. Friends remain friends no matter what. If things turn out the way you hope, she'll understand you, and she'll be willing to give a relationship a chance. Sean, you HAVE to tell her how you feel. If you don't, you'll regret it now, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Just last week I was in the very same situation, I went up to the girl I liked, told her how I felt, and she understood, and now things are going okay. Remember, just take her to some place quiet, tell her how you feel, and the weight of the whole world will be taken off of your shoulders. Trust me.

10-29-2006, 01:35 PM	#28
*CaptHayfever* Smash Supermod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 19,255 Thanks: 160 Thanked 729 Times in 471 Posts Points: 105,126.84 Bank: 905.68 Total Points: 106,032.52 Donate	Alright, my two cents, Seanathan: If telling her does "destroy the friendship" for her, that is a very good sign not only that it wasn't meant to be, but also that the friendship wasn't really meant to be either; true friendship can survive a jolt like that. (And if it only destroys it for you because of shame, you need to just ignore the shame.) I speak from experience, man. I told Lucky a long time ago how I felt about her, and she shot me down, but we're still close friends. What's more, she still knows that I still love her, but that never becomes an issue between us. In fact, I know EXACTLY what the answer would be if I brought it up again, because I've met her current boyfriend, but still it's not an issue between us....he's totally clueless, but he has no need to know. And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

10-29-2006, 03:04 PM	#29
Bomby Needle in the Hay Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: The People's Republic of Madison, WI Gender: Posts: 14,655 Thanks: 202 Thanked 442 Times in 310 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 3,085.53 Bank: 1,894,702.97 Total Points: 1,897,788.50 Donate	Sean, look on the bright side: AT LEAST YOU'RE NOT IN MY Shane rulesShane rulesShane rulesShane rulesING SITUATION. That is all.

10-29-2006, 04:20 PM	#30
Smarmy Vent The night is darkest just before the dawn. Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham Gender: Posts: 12,612 Thanks: 721 Thanked 1,133 Times in 597 Posts Points: 190.85 Bank: 115,103.15 Total Points: 115,294.00 Donate	What's your siteeation, Malik?

10-29-2006, 04:28 PM	#31
Bomby Needle in the Hay Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: The People's Republic of Madison, WI Gender: Posts: 14,655 Thanks: 202 Thanked 442 Times in 310 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 3,085.53 Bank: 1,894,702.97 Total Points: 1,897,788.50 Donate	^ I believe its on page 2. No use talking about it in here.

10-29-2006, 07:06 PM	#34
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10-29-2006, 08:22 PM	#35
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10-29-2006, 08:34 PM	#36
Bomby Needle in the Hay Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: The People's Republic of Madison, WI Gender: Posts: 14,655 Thanks: 202 Thanked 442 Times in 310 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 3,085.53 Bank: 1,894,702.97 Total Points: 1,897,788.50 Donate	I like your crayon drawings. Do you use crayola?

10-29-2006, 08:34 PM	#37
Perrin Aybara LLLUUUCCCCCCAAA!!! Ban HotD Join Date: Apr 1999 Location: Alone....so terribly alone... Some... where... out... there... dies Gender: Posts: 11,766 Thanks: 169 Thanked 325 Times in 174 Posts Points: 60,973.65 Bank: 137,056.02 Total Points: 198,029.67 Donate	Sean. You created this topic asking us for advice. We have given you the ONLY advice that you could possibly get in your situation. We have given you the ONLY choice you can make. We have given you the ONLY option. TALK TO HER. And what do you do? You are rude to us. You give us excuses. We are trying to help, and in response you are being defensive. Well, I think I'm tired of it. I don't need for my advice to be stepped on any longer. I put a lot of thought and time into my advice. But it's obviously just a waste. But I'm telling you, all I'm hearing from you are pathetic excuses. You're going to keep making excuses for your life until you just stop and do something. I'm not trying to be mean. I'm being real. Good luck, Sean. It's your life, not mine, so I don't have to worry about it any more. You do.-jay

10-29-2006, 08:36 PM	#38
S1x VGF RPG Mod Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Either over there or right here Gender: Posts: 4,748 Thanks: 14 Thanked 174 Times in 55 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 46,030.95 Bank: 26,433.52 Total Points: 72,464.47 Donate	They're colored pencils. But yeah, I think I gotta sharpen 'em. Wasn't as bright as I wanted.

10-29-2006, 09:02 PM	#39
Chunky Kong12345 BEEP BEEP I'M A JEEP Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: ogmftwbqq Gender: Posts: 16,412 Thanks: 61 Thanked 209 Times in 152 Posts Points: 2,167.12 Bank: 80,535.77 Total Points: 82,702.89 Donate	Yeah, you don't get that thin a line with crayons.

10-29-2006, 09:14 PM	#40
Bomby Needle in the Hay Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: The People's Republic of Madison, WI Gender: Posts: 14,655 Thanks: 202 Thanked 442 Times in 310 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 3,085.53 Bank: 1,894,702.97 Total Points: 1,897,788.50 Donate	^ Depends on the angle you're holding it at.