There's A Girl... - Page 2 - VGF

CuccoLady · 01-26-2007, 11:25 PM

Go for it!!!

You'll doubtlessly get very nervous when asking her, but let me tell you that if you keep your cool and be yourself rather than being all uptight, she'll be more likely to say yes. I say this from experience. When guys go up to me trembly and stiff when they ask, it kinda gives a bad impression.

So good luck... and try to stay calm.

Valentine · 01-27-2007, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Swordmaster Link

Whenever I sense awkward silences, I say something stupid. It sounds socially destructive, but you'd be surprised at the kinds of conversations I've started in my day.

SML's on the right track here. Whenever you're talking with someone you've just met or you're getting to know someone better, it's always better to say something, anything, than nothing at all.

Valigarmander · 01-31-2007, 07:34 PM

I asked her out today!

But she said her parents wouldn't let her go.

Well, that was just one try. I'm not giving up now, I'll find a way to be with her.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 02-02-2007, 09:11 PM

It might sound awkward and a little crazy, but you can suggest having either her or your parent/s accompany you to the movies. Hell, get both sets to come along, they can have a coffee and a chat afterwards while you wander the mall or whatever, you know? Parents have a funny thing about being scared for their children (no matter what age they are, either

), so if your lady friend thinks they won't allow it, just put the suggestion forward and see if you have a better outcome. Failing that, you can always ask her to simply spend some time (alone) with you during lunch or any other free time at or after school, find somewhere nice to sit, just build a closer bond with her by talking and having fun. Good luck.

Valigarmander · 02-02-2007, 11:13 PM

Well, I've talked to her again today. The thing is, I want to spend some time with her. But we don't share any lunches, and we only have one class together (not really the time to socialize the way I'd like to). The only time we get to see each other is after school. I asked a friend and this friend told me

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GET OVER IT! THAT'S WHAT YOU SHOULD DO!

Bad day, or maybe I'm somehow responsible. But I don't really have anyone to ask for help anymore, except you poor bastards. What should I do? Is there any alternative to going out on a date that I could consider?

Things I have thought about:

Skipping class together! (I doubt she's the kind of girl who would skip class with a boy she hardly knows. Or skip class period.)

Send notes in class! (Not really the best way to get a person to like you, plus I'm not sure if she'd like passing notes.)

Have a friend of mine arrange something! (Oh, wait, I have no friends.)

So... I want to ask her if there's anything we could do after school together... But what? And what if she says she can't? Then what do I do? I want to have something planned for Monday. Help?

Serial Miller · 02-02-2007, 11:50 PM

Best solution is to stop asking so many questions and just give one of your own ideas a shot. She doesn't want to be charmed by an internet message board, I'll tell you that much. If she's interested, she's interested. Don't send the message that you don't want to be close - it's not the truth, and that's not what you really want, anyway. Just try to be friendly and ask her about herself. What other advice can anyone give you? This isn't going to be one of those cartoon episodes where we hide in the potted plant with a walkie-talkie and smooth-talk your date

Valigarmander · 02-03-2007, 01:02 AM

^ ...I could use some help like that.

Valigarmander · 02-07-2007, 11:41 PM

Apologies for the double post, but...

Okay, so I've learned today that there is going to be a school dance at the end of March, right before Spring Break. I was thinking of asking this girl out. This will be harder than hell for me, seeing how I've never successfully asked a girl out, I've never gone to a dance, and I'm already nervous as hell. But it's going to happen. However, that's a good month-and-a-half away. So, what should I do until then? I talk to her almost every day. I think she likes me, or at least she isn't repelled by me. She seems to enjoy talking with me, and now whenever we pass each other between classes we stop to say hi. I like getting to talk to her at the end of each day, but the problem is we only get about five minutes together. That isn't much time to get to know each other. Like I said before, we don't have any lunches together, and the one class we share we wouldn't have any chance to talk. If I want to talk to her more, what should I do? Also, what should I talk about? These conversations I have with her are often filled with long, awkward pauses. I'd like a bit more ammunition before I start shooting, so it'd be nice if you could tell me things I could say or ask. That's all for now, and wish me luck with this relationship...

ferrari dudeman · 02-08-2007, 07:24 AM

um..ok..
she said her parents wouldnt let her go, people can and will lie sometimes.

but my advice is, just be funny...thats wot i do

Demonicus Prime · 02-08-2007, 10:10 AM

If you can't talk to her, that's why Bell was born.

United FACE · 02-08-2007, 04:21 PM

^I have to agree. Calling her on the phone tells her that she's special and that you like talking to her. You said she's not repelled by you, so what's to lose? At the end of your 5 minute session of talking to her, get her home phone number, or better yet, cell number.

Hey, if anything, why not an AIM screenname or e-mail address? This gets your communication in. By the time the dance rolls around, you'll have been in contact with her and it should be an easy decision to ask her to the dance. Even though talking through the computer can be...distant for lack of a better word, you'll have time to think between replies. Plus, there's a backspace key.

Maybe you two could meet after school and do homework together or something. It's not a date and it's productive, so her parents might let you.

Demonicus Prime · 02-08-2007, 04:45 PM

If only the backspace key could erase everything.....

I think that keeping contact using email or AIM (or something other) is perfectly fine. But, you need to talk to her, whether it's over the phone or not. You ask her out over the internet, you get broken up with over the internet. It's happened to me twice. And you seem like way too much of a nice person to let that happen to you. Use the phone (or like, talking to her <.< >.>) as a primary, and the internet to just keep in contact.

**L007 is Undecided** · 02-08-2007, 05:11 PM

Quite honestly, I like to stick to actual person-to-person talking. That's essentially why my phone's main charges are from game downloads. >_>

Still, phone calls are, in my opinion, a bit better than Instant Messaging/Email, unless you're the type that gets a twisted tongue easily.

Valigarmander · 02-08-2007, 09:43 PM

I've been thinking about asking her for her number... But she doesn't really seem like the kind of person who gets asked that very often. I mean, if someone asked me for my number, I'd be surprised and would probably give it to them, regardless of whether or not I wanted them calling me. I don't want her feeling obligated to talk to me if I call her.

But that's just the "oh im tehs afraid" part of me talking. I'm going to ask her for her number, in some way or another. Hell, she has a computer, maybe she'll have an e-mail. And there's always the school e-mail accounts we could use to talk...

ferrari dudeman · 02-09-2007, 05:46 AM

meh..text messaging MSN, thats what does it for me all the time

United FACE · 02-09-2007, 06:41 AM

Just do me a favor and don't ask her out over the internet and don't break up with her over the internet. That's very lame and in most girls' eyes, you lose points. Trust me.

The only reason I suggested phone and internet was because you said you needed to talk to her more often.

If she doesn't want to talk to you over the phone, there will be long pauses and then she'll finally say something like, "Oops, my mom needs me, I got to go." But if she's interested maybe she'll say, "It was nice talking to you, but my mom's calling me. I'll see you at school tomorrow." There's subtle ways you can tell. Although, she could be just shy and that just ruins everything.

I hope this works out for you. You just have to remember to be bold. Girls really like that. It gives the message of strength and persistance. Just keep trying. Who knows? Maybe she's just waiting for you to say something.

ferrari dudeman · 02-10-2007, 11:16 AM

^ yeah, just ask or whatever. whats the worst that could happen?

Valigarmander · 02-12-2007, 12:02 AM

I've been thinking about making an excuse like "after school on Wednesday I have to stay here to make up some work, and it's really boring alone, so maybe if you'd like to hang out with me for half an hour," or something like that. I'm working on it. But I plan on asking her tomorrow.

I don't really have to stay, but she doesn't need to know.

It'll give us ample time to get to know each other.

(I picked Wednesday because it's the only day I have open this week, and fancy that, it's Valentines day.

)

Valigarmander · 02-14-2007, 07:51 PM

Double post.

Okay, I've asked her (via note) to go to the Spring Dance with me. I might hear from her tomorrow, but I have an appointment with my psychiatrist, so maybe not. So, chances are I'll be talking to her again on Friday. *shaking with anticipation* What will she say, what will she say...

Link CDLVI · 02-14-2007, 08:12 PM

Good luck, my friend.

02-08-2007, 05:11 PM	#33
L007 is Undecided Axe Shreddin' Mod Join Date: May 2001 Location: Farmerland. Gender: Posts: 7,297 Thanks: 90 Thanked 285 Times in 166 Posts Points: 79.12 Bank: 13,620.99 Total Points: 13,700.11 Donate	Quite honestly, I like to stick to actual person-to-person talking. That's essentially why my phone's main charges are from game downloads. >_> Still, phone calls are, in my opinion, a bit better than Instant Messaging/Email, unless you're the type that gets a twisted tongue easily. __________________ Can I has signature?

01-26-2007, 11:25 PM	#21
CuccoLady Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: insert something awkward here Gender: Posts: 4,001 Thanks: 888 Thanked 222 Times in 180 Posts Points: 11,310.74 Bank: 7.67 Total Points: 11,318.41 Donate	Go for it!!! You'll doubtlessly get very nervous when asking her, but let me tell you that if you keep your cool and be yourself rather than being all uptight, she'll be more likely to say yes. I say this from experience. When guys go up to me trembly and stiff when they ask, it kinda gives a bad impression. So good luck... and try to stay calm.

01-31-2007, 07:34 PM	#23
Valigarmander RADDA RADDA RADDA! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Radda, radda. Gender: Posts: 12,436 Thanks: 694 Thanked 1,071 Times in 570 Posts Points: 30.01 Bank: 130,219.39 Total Points: 130,249.40 Donate	I asked her out today! But she said her parents wouldn't let her go. Well, that was just one try. I'm not giving up now, I'll find a way to be with her.

02-02-2007, 09:11 PM	#24
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 23,123 Thanks: 199 Thanked 279 Times in 173 Posts Points: 59,224.88 Bank: 97,313.53 Total Points: 156,538.41 Donate	It might sound awkward and a little crazy, but you can suggest having either her or your parent/s accompany you to the movies. Hell, get both sets to come along, they can have a coffee and a chat afterwards while you wander the mall or whatever, you know? Parents have a funny thing about being scared for their children (no matter what age they are, either ), so if your lady friend thinks they won't allow it, just put the suggestion forward and see if you have a better outcome. Failing that, you can always ask her to simply spend some time (alone) with you during lunch or any other free time at or after school, find somewhere nice to sit, just build a closer bond with her by talking and having fun. Good luck.

02-02-2007, 11:50 PM	#26
Serial Miller Retro Nintendo Supermod Art & Literature Mod Metroid Mod Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 15,679 Thanks: 416 Thanked 1,046 Times in 585 Posts Points: 14,124.59 Bank: 1,556,398.07 Total Points: 1,570,522.65 Donate	Best solution is to stop asking so many questions and just give one of your own ideas a shot. She doesn't want to be charmed by an internet message board, I'll tell you that much. If she's interested, she's interested. Don't send the message that you don't want to be close - it's not the truth, and that's not what you really want, anyway. Just try to be friendly and ask her about herself. What other advice can anyone give you? This isn't going to be one of those cartoon episodes where we hide in the potted plant with a walkie-talkie and smooth-talk your date

02-03-2007, 01:02 AM	#27
Valigarmander RADDA RADDA RADDA! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Radda, radda. Gender: Posts: 12,436 Thanks: 694 Thanked 1,071 Times in 570 Posts Points: 30.01 Bank: 130,219.39 Total Points: 130,249.40 Donate	^ ...I could use some help like that.

02-07-2007, 11:41 PM	#28
Valigarmander RADDA RADDA RADDA! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Radda, radda. Gender: Posts: 12,436 Thanks: 694 Thanked 1,071 Times in 570 Posts Points: 30.01 Bank: 130,219.39 Total Points: 130,249.40 Donate	Apologies for the double post, but... Okay, so I've learned today that there is going to be a school dance at the end of March, right before Spring Break. I was thinking of asking this girl out. This will be harder than hell for me, seeing how I've never successfully asked a girl out, I've never gone to a dance, and I'm already nervous as hell. But it's going to happen. However, that's a good month-and-a-half away. So, what should I do until then? I talk to her almost every day. I think she likes me, or at least she isn't repelled by me. She seems to enjoy talking with me, and now whenever we pass each other between classes we stop to say hi. I like getting to talk to her at the end of each day, but the problem is we only get about five minutes together. That isn't much time to get to know each other. Like I said before, we don't have any lunches together, and the one class we share we wouldn't have any chance to talk. If I want to talk to her more, what should I do? Also, what should I talk about? These conversations I have with her are often filled with long, awkward pauses. I'd like a bit more ammunition before I start shooting, so it'd be nice if you could tell me things I could say or ask. That's all for now, and wish me luck with this relationship...

02-08-2007, 07:24 AM	#29
ferrari dudeman Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: ya bum Gender: Posts: 125 Thanks: 2 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Points: 473.23 Bank: 4,537.70 Total Points: 5,010.93 Donate	um..ok.. she said her parents wouldnt let her go, people can and will lie sometimes. but my advice is, just be funny...thats wot i do

02-08-2007, 10:10 AM	#30
Demonicus Prime Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: I Pity The Fool Who Confuses Me With Someone Other Than YoshiFreak. Gender: Posts: 2,884 Thanks: 552 Thanked 93 Times in 67 Posts Points: 9,566.42 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 9,566.42 Donate	If you can't talk to her, that's why Bell was born.

02-08-2007, 04:21 PM	#31
United FACE Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Some say hell, I say paradise. Gender: Posts: 6,111 Thanks: 179 Thanked 242 Times in 181 Posts Points: 250.72 Bank: 12,217.55 Total Points: 12,468.27 Donate	^I have to agree. Calling her on the phone tells her that she's special and that you like talking to her. You said she's not repelled by you, so what's to lose? At the end of your 5 minute session of talking to her, get her home phone number, or better yet, cell number. Hey, if anything, why not an AIM screenname or e-mail address? This gets your communication in. By the time the dance rolls around, you'll have been in contact with her and it should be an easy decision to ask her to the dance. Even though talking through the computer can be...distant for lack of a better word, you'll have time to think between replies. Plus, there's a backspace key. Maybe you two could meet after school and do homework together or something. It's not a date and it's productive, so her parents might let you.

02-08-2007, 04:45 PM	#32
Demonicus Prime Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: I Pity The Fool Who Confuses Me With Someone Other Than YoshiFreak. Gender: Posts: 2,884 Thanks: 552 Thanked 93 Times in 67 Posts Points: 9,566.42 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 9,566.42 Donate	If only the backspace key could erase everything..... I think that keeping contact using email or AIM (or something other) is perfectly fine. But, you need to talk to her, whether it's over the phone or not. You ask her out over the internet, you get broken up with over the internet. It's happened to me twice. And you seem like way too much of a nice person to let that happen to you. Use the phone (or like, talking to her <.< >.>) as a primary, and the internet to just keep in contact.

02-08-2007, 09:43 PM	#34
Valigarmander RADDA RADDA RADDA! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Radda, radda. Gender: Posts: 12,436 Thanks: 694 Thanked 1,071 Times in 570 Posts Points: 30.01 Bank: 130,219.39 Total Points: 130,249.40 Donate	I've been thinking about asking her for her number... But she doesn't really seem like the kind of person who gets asked that very often. I mean, if someone asked me for my number, I'd be surprised and would probably give it to them, regardless of whether or not I wanted them calling me. I don't want her feeling obligated to talk to me if I call her. But that's just the "oh im tehs afraid" part of me talking. I'm going to ask her for her number, in some way or another. Hell, she has a computer, maybe she'll have an e-mail. And there's always the school e-mail accounts we could use to talk...

02-09-2007, 05:46 AM	#35
ferrari dudeman Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: ya bum Gender: Posts: 125 Thanks: 2 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Points: 473.23 Bank: 4,537.70 Total Points: 5,010.93 Donate	meh..text messaging MSN, thats what does it for me all the time

02-09-2007, 06:41 AM	#36
United FACE Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Some say hell, I say paradise. Gender: Posts: 6,111 Thanks: 179 Thanked 242 Times in 181 Posts Points: 250.72 Bank: 12,217.55 Total Points: 12,468.27 Donate	Just do me a favor and don't ask her out over the internet and don't break up with her over the internet. That's very lame and in most girls' eyes, you lose points. Trust me. The only reason I suggested phone and internet was because you said you needed to talk to her more often. If she doesn't want to talk to you over the phone, there will be long pauses and then she'll finally say something like, "Oops, my mom needs me, I got to go." But if she's interested maybe she'll say, "It was nice talking to you, but my mom's calling me. I'll see you at school tomorrow." There's subtle ways you can tell. Although, she could be just shy and that just ruins everything. I hope this works out for you. You just have to remember to be bold. Girls really like that. It gives the message of strength and persistance. Just keep trying. Who knows? Maybe she's just waiting for you to say something.

02-10-2007, 11:16 AM	#37
ferrari dudeman Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: ya bum Gender: Posts: 125 Thanks: 2 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post Points: 473.23 Bank: 4,537.70 Total Points: 5,010.93 Donate	^ yeah, just ask or whatever. whats the worst that could happen?

02-12-2007, 12:02 AM	#38
Valigarmander RADDA RADDA RADDA! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Radda, radda. Gender: Posts: 12,436 Thanks: 694 Thanked 1,071 Times in 570 Posts Points: 30.01 Bank: 130,219.39 Total Points: 130,249.40 Donate	I've been thinking about making an excuse like "after school on Wednesday I have to stay here to make up some work, and it's really boring alone, so maybe if you'd like to hang out with me for half an hour," or something like that. I'm working on it. But I plan on asking her tomorrow. I don't really have to stay, but she doesn't need to know. It'll give us ample time to get to know each other. (I picked Wednesday because it's the only day I have open this week, and fancy that, it's Valentines day. )

02-14-2007, 07:51 PM	#39
Valigarmander RADDA RADDA RADDA! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Radda, radda. Gender: Posts: 12,436 Thanks: 694 Thanked 1,071 Times in 570 Posts Points: 30.01 Bank: 130,219.39 Total Points: 130,249.40 Donate	Double post. Okay, I've asked her (via note) to go to the Spring Dance with me. I might hear from her tomorrow, but I have an appointment with my psychiatrist, so maybe not. So, chances are I'll be talking to her again on Friday. shaking with anticipation What will she say, what will she say...

02-14-2007, 08:12 PM	#40
Link CDLVI Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: a box under the stairs in the corner of the basement a block down the street from Jerry's Bait Shop Gender: Posts: 1,214 Thanks: 13 Thanked 13 Times in 12 Posts Points: 7,022.63 Bank: 0.01 Total Points: 7,022.64 Donate	Good luck, my friend.