Well, this doesn't happen very often...

**Dylan** · 01-26-2007, 02:09 AM

Ol' Dylan got his heart broken yesterday. Yep, true story.

I've been talking to a girl since September. Things were going pretty decently, considering she lives about 45 minutes away. Because of the distance, everytime we saw each other was something pretty special. We'd hang out at the mall, go see a movie, do some Christmas shopping, or watch my buddy get his lip pierced (He turned white as chalk.).

The one thing standing in the way was, of course, the distance. It's common knowledge that college students aren't exactly the wealthiest individuals, and with gas prices, driving out there every day/weekend during classes would really put a strain on my wallet. Still, I really wanted this girl.

Yesterday, I was walking in the hall and I bumped into a mutual friend of ours. We talked for a little bit, then out of nowhere I brought up the prospect of calling the girl later. Our friend gave me a look and asked me "You do know she has a boyfriend, right? They've been together since fall semester."

Red flag.

At first I thought she was joking around or lying (Another one of the girl's friends had lied to me before.). The more I started dwelling on it, though, the more pissed off/anxious I became. When classes were through, I called her up and asked about her boyfriend (Yeah Dylan, you're so clever.). She confirmed the details and played it off like she thought she'd already told me (You bitch, I would've noticed if you'd said something like that.). I told her I had to concentrate on the icy roads (Lie, although it was hard to see out my windshield.) and hung up.

When something like this happens, I don't cry. I just get very, very pissed. Eventually, I mellowed out a bit, but I still can't help but feel animosity towards her. Can you blame me? Who else has had something like this happen?

-Dylan

Yoshi Girl · 01-26-2007, 04:05 AM

Um, were you and this girl actually boyfriend and girlfriend? If not, I don't think she did anything wrong. It is possible to be just friends with someone of the opposite sex.

**Dylan** · 01-26-2007, 08:49 PM

She knew where the relationship was going and she knew what I expected of it. I wouldn't be so mad if she'd at least told me "Hey, I met someone else.", but instead I had to find out months later from her friends. She shouldn't have led me along like that; no matter how you sugarcoat it, that's wrong.

-Dylan

Super Murdero Bros. · 01-26-2007, 08:57 PM

Girls think differently than guys. A lot of girls, no matter how obvious it is, fail to realize that their best male friend is trying to make a move on them. Maybe that's the case.

But I doubt it. She probably didn't mean to break your heart, and I'm sure if you just tell her how you really felt and what you were trying to do with your relationship, she would understand. It's no good to stay mad at people. It'll only drive you further and further apart, and trust me, it's better to have a regular friend and no girlfriend than no friend at all. (God, I wish I had made better decisions.)

Yoshi Girl · 01-29-2007, 09:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Lord Wangsword

Girls think differently than guys. A lot of girls, no matter how obvious it is, fail to realize that their best male friend is trying to make a move on them. Maybe that's the case.

Uh, well I have something to say on this. Some guys think if a girl is nice to them, that she likes him more then a friend. I really don't know why some guys think that way...

I'm not saying it's always like that, because I know it's not, but I do know there are guys out there that think if a girl is nice to them, that she likes them. (But I think it's usually only when the guy is really shy)

Minister of Silly Walks · 01-30-2007, 09:48 PM

I'll be your rebound, Dyl.

**Dylan** · 01-31-2007, 09:32 AM

^ Thuper duper.

-Dylan

***ZeldaGirl*** · 01-31-2007, 07:44 PM

I'm really sorry for you Dylan. I don't really know what to say though. I'm sorry.

Kain Highwind · 01-31-2007, 08:54 PM

Well, Sorry. And it's rather misforturnated. But life goes on, ya know?

DJ Ryan · 01-31-2007, 09:31 PM

^^^^ I thought ZG was his rebound.

DELICIOUS POISON · 02-02-2007, 09:22 PM

That sucks, I'm sorry to hear about it, Dylan. Try not to hate her for it, though - it just means that she liked you enough to really want to be with you, but someone else came along and made her feel wanted all the same. Hell, the way she played it off, maybe she'd been trying to get with you all along, and just hasn't had the courage to break it off with the other guy. Try and honestly talk to her about it, and don't yell.

**Dylan** · 02-02-2007, 10:10 PM

I heard some more about the relationship today. According to my aunt, who works with the girl's mom, her parents know nothing about the relationship, though they have met the guy. Frankly, they think he's a bad influence (Like I'm not, heh.) and can't stand anything about him. I already knew her friends felt that way, but this just blows my mind.

I haven't talked to her, nor do I intend to. I don't think I hate her or anything, and I do take solice in the fact that she liked me enough to just hang out, but at the same time, I feel a little deceived. I even make a point to avoid her best friend; she blatantly lied to my face once, and the other day while I was having lunch with some friends she condescendingly asked "So, talked to [girl's name] lately?" as if it was some joke. Whatev, bitch. This table's full and we're tired of your shwag, so just move it along.

(Guilty pleasure time: ) Has anyone ever heard that old country song "Wish I Didn't Know Now" by Toby Keith? That's how I feel. All her friends knew about this relationship and assumed I did too because, hey, I'd be a fool not to know, right?

I don't have any intentions of going back to her, though. All I'm doing right now is picking up and moving on.

-Dylan

DELICIOUS POISON · 02-02-2007, 11:42 PM

Fair enough. There are a ton of people out there, and that would be a bumpy way to start it off, anyway.

MASALOBOTOMY · 02-04-2007, 10:05 AM

Shame to hear that man, but, plenty of fish in the sea, good choice not dwelling on it and just moving on.

01-26-2007, 02:09 AM	#1
Dylan Banned Mod Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Teenage Wasteland Gender: Posts: 6,389 Thanks: 1,019 Thanked 1,010 Times in 464 Posts Points: 39,032.25 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 39,032.26 Donate	Well, this doesn't happen very often... Ol' Dylan got his heart broken yesterday. Yep, true story. I've been talking to a girl since September. Things were going pretty decently, considering she lives about 45 minutes away. Because of the distance, everytime we saw each other was something pretty special. We'd hang out at the mall, go see a movie, do some Christmas shopping, or watch my buddy get his lip pierced (He turned white as chalk.). The one thing standing in the way was, of course, the distance. It's common knowledge that college students aren't exactly the wealthiest individuals, and with gas prices, driving out there every day/weekend during classes would really put a strain on my wallet. Still, I really wanted this girl. Yesterday, I was walking in the hall and I bumped into a mutual friend of ours. We talked for a little bit, then out of nowhere I brought up the prospect of calling the girl later. Our friend gave me a look and asked me "You do know she has a boyfriend, right? They've been together since fall semester." Red flag. At first I thought she was joking around or lying (Another one of the girl's friends had lied to me before.). The more I started dwelling on it, though, the more pissed off/anxious I became. When classes were through, I called her up and asked about her boyfriend (Yeah Dylan, you're so clever.). She confirmed the details and played it off like she thought she'd already told me (You bitch, I would've noticed if you'd said something like that.). I told her I had to concentrate on the icy roads (Lie, although it was hard to see out my windshield.) and hung up. When something like this happens, I don't cry. I just get very, very pissed. Eventually, I mellowed out a bit, but I still can't help but feel animosity towards her. Can you blame me? Who else has had something like this happen? -Dylan

01-26-2007, 04:05 AM	#2
Yoshi Girl Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Medford, OR, U.S.A. Gender: Posts: 2,716 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 2,484.18 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 2,484.18 Donate	Um, were you and this girl actually boyfriend and girlfriend? If not, I don't think she did anything wrong. It is possible to be just friends with someone of the opposite sex.

01-26-2007, 08:49 PM	#3
Dylan Banned Mod Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Teenage Wasteland Gender: Posts: 6,389 Thanks: 1,019 Thanked 1,010 Times in 464 Posts Points: 39,032.25 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 39,032.26 Donate	She knew where the relationship was going and she knew what I expected of it. I wouldn't be so mad if she'd at least told me "Hey, I met someone else.", but instead I had to find out months later from her friends. She shouldn't have led me along like that; no matter how you sugarcoat it, that's wrong. -Dylan

01-26-2007, 08:57 PM	#4
Super Murdero Bros. I'm-a gonna kill you! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Either UN's bed or Andre's bed. Gender: Posts: 13,528 Thanks: 914 Thanked 1,551 Times in 747 Posts Points: 34.42 Bank: 112,126.15 Total Points: 112,160.57 Donate	Girls think differently than guys. A lot of girls, no matter how obvious it is, fail to realize that their best male friend is trying to make a move on them. Maybe that's the case. But I doubt it. She probably didn't mean to break your heart, and I'm sure if you just tell her how you really felt and what you were trying to do with your relationship, she would understand. It's no good to stay mad at people. It'll only drive you further and further apart, and trust me, it's better to have a regular friend and no girlfriend than no friend at all. (God, I wish I had made better decisions.)

01-30-2007, 09:48 PM	#6
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01-31-2007, 09:32 AM	#7
Dylan Banned Mod Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Teenage Wasteland Gender: Posts: 6,389 Thanks: 1,019 Thanked 1,010 Times in 464 Posts Points: 39,032.25 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 39,032.26 Donate	^ Thuper duper. -Dylan

01-31-2007, 07:44 PM	#8
*ZeldaGirl* Venting SuperMod Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 12,401 Thanks: 551 Thanked 911 Times in 619 Posts Points: 36,003.93 Bank: 662,433.14 Total Points: 698,437.07 Donate	I'm really sorry for you Dylan. I don't really know what to say though. I'm sorry.

01-31-2007, 08:54 PM	#9
Kain Highwind Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Pending. Gender: Posts: 5,789 Thanks: 127 Thanked 117 Times in 82 Posts Points: 6,683.81 Bank: 47,139.19 Total Points: 53,823.00 Donate	Well, Sorry. And it's rather misforturnated. But life goes on, ya know?

01-31-2007, 09:31 PM	#10
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02-02-2007, 09:22 PM	#11
DELICIOUS POISON Retro Nintendo Supermod Art & Literature Mod Metroid Mod Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 16,601 Thanks: 556 Thanked 1,604 Times in 793 Posts Points: 7,979.84 Bank: 3,602,510.30 Total Points: 3,610,490.14 Donate	That sucks, I'm sorry to hear about it, Dylan. Try not to hate her for it, though - it just means that she liked you enough to really want to be with you, but someone else came along and made her feel wanted all the same. Hell, the way she played it off, maybe she'd been trying to get with you all along, and just hasn't had the courage to break it off with the other guy. Try and honestly talk to her about it, and don't yell.

02-02-2007, 10:10 PM	#12
Dylan Banned Mod Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Teenage Wasteland Gender: Posts: 6,389 Thanks: 1,019 Thanked 1,010 Times in 464 Posts Points: 39,032.25 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 39,032.26 Donate	I heard some more about the relationship today. According to my aunt, who works with the girl's mom, her parents know nothing about the relationship, though they have met the guy. Frankly, they think he's a bad influence (Like I'm not, heh.) and can't stand anything about him. I already knew her friends felt that way, but this just blows my mind. I haven't talked to her, nor do I intend to. I don't think I hate her or anything, and I do take solice in the fact that she liked me enough to just hang out, but at the same time, I feel a little deceived. I even make a point to avoid her best friend; she blatantly lied to my face once, and the other day while I was having lunch with some friends she condescendingly asked "So, talked to [girl's name] lately?" as if it was some joke. Whatev, bitch. This table's full and we're tired of your shwag, so just move it along. (Guilty pleasure time: ) Has anyone ever heard that old country song "Wish I Didn't Know Now" by Toby Keith? That's how I feel. All her friends knew about this relationship and assumed I did too because, hey, I'd be a fool not to know, right? I don't have any intentions of going back to her, though. All I'm doing right now is picking up and moving on. -Dylan

02-02-2007, 11:42 PM	#13
DELICIOUS POISON Retro Nintendo Supermod Art & Literature Mod Metroid Mod Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 16,601 Thanks: 556 Thanked 1,604 Times in 793 Posts Points: 7,979.84 Bank: 3,602,510.30 Total Points: 3,610,490.14 Donate	Fair enough. There are a ton of people out there, and that would be a bumpy way to start it off, anyway.

02-04-2007, 10:05 AM	#14
MASALOBOTOMY Anime & Cartoon Mod Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: In my pants Gender: Posts: 2,108 Thanks: 883 Thanked 226 Times in 146 Posts Points: 12,620.26 Bank: 12,704.24 Total Points: 25,324.50 Donate	Shame to hear that man, but, plenty of fish in the sea, good choice not dwelling on it and just moving on.