Things just don't get easy for Bomby. Ever.

Bomby · 12-01-2007, 03:43 PM

She just doesn't want to be in a serious relationship with me. She was interested before, but not anymore. At least she gave me a chance, I guess. No matter what I say or do, her feelings for me aren't going to change. I've worked myself onto the "just a friend" side. Permanently.

I still want to be a friend to her, I guess, but it looks like I'm just going to have to spend some time away from her.

The Doctor · 12-01-2007, 05:00 PM

At least you can find single women.

Brandon2390 · 12-01-2007, 05:10 PM

Yea, for most women there's an amount of time when you meet them where they're still interested and you have to make the move. When you pass that time, you're pretty much ****ed. It sucks, but that's how it is. Unfortunately sometimes it takes us men a little while after that time that we realize that we could have actually gotten with that particular girl.

Kil'jaeden · 12-01-2007, 11:13 PM

If only they would make up their minds.

Bomby · 12-02-2007, 12:24 AM

Well, she was kind of interested, but not as interested as I was in her.

***ZeldaGirl*** · 12-02-2007, 12:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Doctor

At least you can find single women.

On the flip side of that: I seem to only be able to find gay men. >_>

Bomby · 12-02-2007, 12:33 AM

I want to meet someone new relatively quickly, with of course my reasons being that I need to get over this girl. Probably not a good idea. It might help, but with my luck I'll probably either:

A. Not feel as strongly about new girl as I feel about old girl but try to force myself into doing so.
B. Look for old girl-like qualities in new girl and constantly compare the two, or even worse, try to make the new girl pick up old girl-like qualities.
C. End up getting my heart broken again when new girl also isn't as interested in me as I am in her.
D. All of the above.

**L007 is Undecided** · 12-02-2007, 09:43 AM

It... really isn't a good idea to try to find another girl. Just consider yourself lucky that you can stay friends. Seeing relationships die so badly that there can't be even friendship left is rather lame.

User Name · 12-02-2007, 01:36 PM

^^Those options are really not fair for the new girl. That in itself is setting you up for another hurt. If you must fall in love right away, at least really be in love with the girl for her, not your old love.

"Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."

Swordmaster Link · 12-02-2007, 01:54 PM

Brandon summed up my thoughts fairly well.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 12-03-2007, 09:49 PM

What I don't get is why it's so important to have a girlfriend at all? Trying for it will only make friendships strained... not everyone is a prospective partner, because even if you're friends, they might not really click, you know?

I do hope the best for you, Bomby. Just take it easy. Being happy with yourself will make any future relationship much easier, instead of pushing yourself to be dating someone because you can.

Bomby · 12-04-2007, 02:36 AM

The fact that she is now actively pursuing someone else isn't helping. I wasn't ready for this yet.

The problem herein, SD, is that I love this girl oh so dearly yet stand no chance of ever having my feelings fully requited. Honestly, I wish I just had someone else right now to keep her off my mind.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 12-05-2007, 07:04 PM

*hugs Bomby* Wish there was something we could say to make it better.

Pyropunk · 12-05-2007, 07:44 PM

trust me, i totally understand what you are going through hun *hugs* btw.... mad city? madison? O_o

Bomby · 12-06-2007, 12:31 AM

I do find comfort in the fact that she has absolutely no chemistry with this guy whatsoever, and according to one of his good friends she has no chance in hell with him.

He gives her butterflies, but me & her had chemistry. You tell me what builds a relationship.

Swordmaster Link · 12-06-2007, 02:01 AM

SD is wise.

Seriously though, I think it's important, especially at this time in your life, to try to be as happy as you can...because that type of feeling rubs off on other people. If they see that you're a happy, confident person, opportunity will present itself sooner than you think. It seems like your mood from day-to-day is entirely dependent on the latest news concerning this girl you are interested in, and that isn't entirely conducive to any consistent happiness. I agree with SD, I think in this case trying to push something (not just with this girl but in general) will make things worse than they need to/should be, just try to go with the flow for now and allow yourself to be open to other people.

12-01-2007, 03:43 PM	#1
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Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,404 Thanks: 6 Thanked 21 Times in 17 Posts Points: 40,267.42 Bank: 1,126.10 Total Points: 41,393.52 Donate	Yea, for most women there's an amount of time when you meet them where they're still interested and you have to make the move. When you pass that time, you're pretty much ****ed. It sucks, but that's how it is. Unfortunately sometimes it takes us men a little while after that time that we realize that we could have actually gotten with that particular girl.

12-01-2007, 11:13 PM	#4
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 1,473 Thanks: 19 Thanked 40 Times in 31 Posts Points: 10,530.78 Bank: 1,148.62 Total Points: 11,679.40 Donate	If only they would make up their minds.

12-02-2007, 12:24 AM	#5
Bomby The Man Who Sold the World Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Off the coast and I'm headed nowhere Gender: Posts: 15,263 Thanks: 215 Thanked 628 Times in 408 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 12,809.45 Bank: 2,822,947.69 Total Points: 2,835,757.14 Donate	Well, she was kind of interested, but not as interested as I was in her.

12-02-2007, 12:33 AM	#7
Bomby The Man Who Sold the World Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Off the coast and I'm headed nowhere Gender: Posts: 15,263 Thanks: 215 Thanked 628 Times in 408 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 12,809.45 Bank: 2,822,947.69 Total Points: 2,835,757.14 Donate	I want to meet someone new relatively quickly, with of course my reasons being that I need to get over this girl. Probably not a good idea. It might help, but with my luck I'll probably either: A. Not feel as strongly about new girl as I feel about old girl but try to force myself into doing so. B. Look for old girl-like qualities in new girl and constantly compare the two, or even worse, try to make the new girl pick up old girl-like qualities. C. End up getting my heart broken again when new girl also isn't as interested in me as I am in her. D. All of the above.

12-02-2007, 01:36 PM	#9
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Some say hell, I say paradise. Gender: Posts: 6,266 Thanks: 224 Thanked 288 Times in 205 Posts Points: 2,178.70 Bank: 45,932.82 Total Points: 48,111.51 Donate	^^Those options are really not fair for the new girl. That in itself is setting you up for another hurt. If you must fall in love right away, at least really be in love with the girl for her, not your old love. "Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all."

12-02-2007, 01:54 PM	#10
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 30,675 Thanks: 229 Thanked 740 Times in 524 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 33.55 Bank: 1,571,802.51 Total Points: 1,571,836.06 Donate	Brandon summed up my thoughts fairly well.

12-03-2007, 09:49 PM	#11
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 23,814 Thanks: 290 Thanked 523 Times in 367 Posts Points: 26,808.90 Bank: 169,425.21 Total Points: 196,234.11 Donate	What I don't get is why it's so important to have a girlfriend at all? Trying for it will only make friendships strained... not everyone is a prospective partner, because even if you're friends, they might not really click, you know? I do hope the best for you, Bomby. Just take it easy. Being happy with yourself will make any future relationship much easier, instead of pushing yourself to be dating someone because you can.

12-04-2007, 02:36 AM	#12
Bomby The Man Who Sold the World Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Off the coast and I'm headed nowhere Gender: Posts: 15,263 Thanks: 215 Thanked 628 Times in 408 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 12,809.45 Bank: 2,822,947.69 Total Points: 2,835,757.14 Donate	The fact that she is now actively pursuing someone else isn't helping. I wasn't ready for this yet. The problem herein, SD, is that I love this girl oh so dearly yet stand no chance of ever having my feelings fully requited. Honestly, I wish I just had someone else right now to keep her off my mind.

12-05-2007, 07:04 PM	#13
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 23,814 Thanks: 290 Thanked 523 Times in 367 Posts Points: 26,808.90 Bank: 169,425.21 Total Points: 196,234.11 Donate	hugs Bomby Wish there was something we could say to make it better.

12-05-2007, 07:44 PM	#14
Pyropunk Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: a place that is a grove of cottages, MN Gender: Posts: 104 Thanks: 11 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 2,915.70 Bank: 627.97 Total Points: 3,543.67 Donate	trust me, i totally understand what you are going through hun hugs btw.... mad city? madison? O_o

12-06-2007, 12:31 AM	#15
Bomby The Man Who Sold the World Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Off the coast and I'm headed nowhere Gender: Posts: 15,263 Thanks: 215 Thanked 628 Times in 408 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 12,809.45 Bank: 2,822,947.69 Total Points: 2,835,757.14 Donate	I do find comfort in the fact that she has absolutely no chemistry with this guy whatsoever, and according to one of his good friends she has no chance in hell with him. He gives her butterflies, but me & her had chemistry. You tell me what builds a relationship.

12-06-2007, 02:01 AM	#16
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 30,675 Thanks: 229 Thanked 740 Times in 524 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 33.55 Bank: 1,571,802.51 Total Points: 1,571,836.06 Donate	SD is wise. Seriously though, I think it's important, especially at this time in your life, to try to be as happy as you can...because that type of feeling rubs off on other people. If they see that you're a happy, confident person, opportunity will present itself sooner than you think. It seems like your mood from day-to-day is entirely dependent on the latest news concerning this girl you are interested in, and that isn't entirely conducive to any consistent happiness. I agree with SD, I think in this case trying to push something (not just with this girl but in general) will make things worse than they need to/should be, just try to go with the flow for now and allow yourself to be open to other people.