Men Are JERKS

Pyropunk · 12-05-2007, 03:17 PM

I hate love. I hate relationships. I hate being screwed over. Three years with the greatest guy ever. Wonderful most amazing relationship I've ever had. He was so genuine, sincere, and loving, we were talking about getting married, a family, us going back to school and moving to MN together... so much... and than... one day... out of left field... *BAM* he just leaves.... he comes home after picking up his dad from the airport.... they had gotten a uhaul to hook up to OUR honda.... he took everything, wiped the bank account... and left... Just told me he couldn't do it anymore. He felt we weren't moving forward. That we were in the same place we were when we first met. This was Oct. 27th. the day after his birthday. Three years, 2 months, 1 day .... to the date that we were together.... He screwed me over. I have no car, and I am STILL on that loan. I traded in MY van and he traded in his car to get that friggin vehicle. THIS IS WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER EVER MERGE ANYTHING UNTIL AFTER YOUR MARRIED AND EVEN THEN?!? STILL BE CAREFUL. I'm so mad... I feel so messed up. After he left, we talked almost every other nite. Than we started talking every nite. Than for Thanksgiving he happened to be in the neighborhood at his sisters house in Prescott to celebrate the holiday with his family. Long story short, his sister bumped into me the day before at the grocery store, i didnt realize it was her and we talked about me having moved up blah blah blah, and yea, when she walked away i knew i was screwed cuz i realized who it was... she screwd over the thanksgiving. She told his family that i moved back to MN. I did this for me mind you, I needed to start over and florida was not the place for me to start over. I came to where I knew I could start over..... so anywho.... he called me and was like we're on our way over to get the registration and title so i can change the plates to MN... Him and his dad came over... gave him the info, and they left... than? He stops talking to me pretty much so. His family doesnt want us to even be friggin friends.... and he "can't talk to me and has to be cautious" .... grow some FRICKIN BALLS. I can't believe how i'm being fricked over and treated... PLEASE tell me there are SOME guys out there that are actually true and not out to screw people over? this is killing me.... I love him so much and i can't handle much more of his mind games.... I can't get a car, i need a cosigner because im on the other loan * i can't get off of it til he refinances and he refuses to * this is just... *headesk* WHY ARE PEOPLE SO SCREWED THE FRICK UP!?!?!? *vent over* k... back to the normal...

Adam West · 12-05-2007, 03:34 PM

I don't lie. I don't ever screw people over. Just not my style.

I think alot of things like this revert to Celebs and Media influences. (Which I'm not going to get into, since I don't have forever.)

Annnnyway...sorry to hear this Pyro. If he isn't man enough to talk to you, he isn't worth it. *hugs Pyro*

Rolls-Royce Man · 12-05-2007, 03:38 PM

Ahem....

WHY FORE YOU NO KICK HIS ASS YET?

Pyropunk · 12-05-2007, 03:44 PM

*hugs doc* thanks man...

I haven't kicked his ass yet because im a very peaceful person. I tried to do all this as calm as possible without going to extremes. Trust me. If things get to the point that I think they won't? I have his social memorized.... I can do A LOT to frick him over and damage him. But I dont want to see it get to that.... I'm done making an effort. If he WANTS the last few things of his i have IE his great grandfathers pocket watch and cuff links? he can man the frick up and call me. This "hiding from the parents" BS. I'm sorry???? Buttttttt UHM.... 24? GROW UP. You are NOT your parents and you DONT need them holding you everywhere you go. I just... don't get that. *sighs* I just want things to be right... and i'm working on myself... I need to get straight again, which, i've done a lot of, it's just... it's hard *shakes head*

**Dylan** · 12-05-2007, 03:44 PM

Sorry for all that, Pyro. He should've at least talked to you about it before just screwing you over like that.

-Dylan

Pyropunk · 12-05-2007, 03:47 PM

he stated he was too afraid to tell me the two weeks he knew he was leaving because i might have blown up... gee i wonder why? OR we could have talked about it? Yea... that was the best part... he acted like nothing was wrong for two weeks... i sensed something was up and was pissed cuz he wouldn't tell me.... wtf

Get a new Kirby today! · 12-05-2007, 04:46 PM

Very sorry to hear this.

*Gives Pyro an E-Hug*

Blake · 12-05-2007, 06:59 PM

My mom right now is in a similar situation. She told me that her boyfriend at first didn't want to marry her and what not in the beginning of the relationship. He owned 3 properties at the time before real estate went down.

Now that real estate is shot, he had to foreclose one of his properties and his credit is shot to hell. He has talked about getting married now apparently(though like my mom said, it could be because they know each other). But occasionally he'll talk about investing and says something like my mom can put it in her name and whatnot. So because of his bad credit, it would just be a liability my mom would have to look after.

My mom's previous boyfriend seemed loving and caring towards her as well, but may have also been after the money thing. Once they officially broke up, his place became real trashy and he eventually totaled his truck. Luckily my mom didn't have to suffer through that.

If you look at my venting topic "Do your relatives use you?" I talk about how my relatives have basically become involved in our lives once they need something.

And to update on that topic, my mom got the drill back in fine condition and my Aunt hasn't called her since!

Sorry for the long post that isn't relevant to your situation, but sadly there do seem to be a lot of needy people out there. It just is a real ****ty thing to just get involved in someone's life and leave abruptly with the cash.

Hope you cope well and get back what's rightfully yours.

Super Murdero Bros. · 12-05-2007, 07:09 PM

What the hell? This guy completely ****ed you over. I honestly don't know what to tell you...

I don't think it's too late to confront him about all this, why he left, why his took your car, why all this crap happened. Don't be afraid to tell him what you're really thinking or ask what you really want to know. If he's hurt you in this experience, don't hesitate to question him for it. *hugs Pyro*

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 12-05-2007, 07:29 PM

I'm really sorry to hear this. You probably shouldn't have given him the registration for the car. And what about this emptying the bank account? You can take him to a small claims court, if he's taken things you had equal right to.

I hope things get sorted out for you, at least a little bit. Good luck. *hug*

Pyropunk · 12-05-2007, 07:37 PM

well we both have our name on the car and i didnt want any issues.... he's suppose to call me tonight *suppose to* so we're going to talk about that... and the bank account was in his name i just put my paycheks in it cuz i had some bad bank issues when i was a teen and it's sill on my record -.- like i said, i just want to be peaceful about all this.... Anyone in MN wanna come chill?? lol i need to get out and do something... but yea... i have talked to him several times and I'm just.. I'm not able to get a clear answer on the why of things... it's just irritating. Whatever. He's an ass. Was a great guy... *shakes head*

***ZeldaGirl*** · 12-05-2007, 07:40 PM

^Still, I don't think he can take YOUR money - if you have a record of the transactions of putting YOUR paychecks into the account, I think you can claim that money. I mean, I don't know for sure or anything, so double check that.

* ZeldaGirl hugs Pyropunk

I hope it works out for you!

Pyropunk · 12-05-2007, 07:45 PM

yea seeing as the fact that we both had a signature on the checks, i've already tried, and talked to a few lawyers, its not court fightable -.- thanks guys for all the hugs and stuff... i really appreciate it <3 ****HUGE HUGS TO EVERYONE****

User Name · 12-05-2007, 09:06 PM

Aw, Pyro, this guy was a real jerk to you. He should have at least confronted you if he felt there was a problem. If he wanted things to move forward, talking to you about it would have solved that issue.

Getting away to MN was something you had to do to clear you head, I don't blame you. I think you're right for starting over. If he can't have a conversation to your face, it's probably not worth it.

I'm sorry that this happened to you. You obviously had huge feelings for him.

*hugs*

DELICIOUS POISON · 12-06-2007, 10:43 AM

Mhh. Some people need to bleed before they learn to treat others with respect.

I hope someone takes him for granted and screws him over so he can sing that Prozzak song that goes "I'm a bastard if it's true, if the thing she did to me is what I did to you, and I guess it's true."

Jigsaw · 12-06-2007, 05:36 PM

Bah, what an ass. He utterly screwed you. I've seen it happen, though. The part of him you loved may not have even been him, just an attempt to use you for his benefit.

I apologize for all of this, even if an apology from an outsider if useless. I think you'll find an honest person for you someday. After all, I can assure you that not all of us are greedy hate-****ers.

Hope everything works out.

*e-hug*

Speed · 12-06-2007, 05:50 PM

Tell us where he lives, and your E-homies will fry his ass.

Swiffer Sweeper Vac · 12-06-2007, 06:25 PM

Sorry about this whole ordeal.
This man sounds alot like my father and his side of the family.......
Again I'm sorry about this whole ordeal.
I agree with gale on the fact that we aren't all like that.

DELICIOUS POISON · 12-07-2007, 07:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by speed

Tell us where he lives, and your E-homies will fry his ass.

...Dude, who the hell are you? Really, who the **** talks like that?

DJ Ryan · 12-07-2007, 02:26 PM

That's seriously f***ed up Pyro, hopefully things workout in the end for you. Can't worry about that douche, at least you know never to bother with his ass again.

You'll find one that's right for you, there are plenty out there, just ask some of the women on this board (especially SD).

12-05-2007, 03:17 PM	#1
Pyropunk Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: a place that is a grove of cottages, MN Gender: Posts: 104 Thanks: 11 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 3,119.70 Bank: 627.97 Total Points: 3,747.67 Donate	Men Are JERKS I hate love. I hate relationships. I hate being screwed over. Three years with the greatest guy ever. Wonderful most amazing relationship I've ever had. He was so genuine, sincere, and loving, we were talking about getting married, a family, us going back to school and moving to MN together... so much... and than... one day... out of left field... BAM he just leaves.... he comes home after picking up his dad from the airport.... they had gotten a uhaul to hook up to OUR honda.... he took everything, wiped the bank account... and left... Just told me he couldn't do it anymore. He felt we weren't moving forward. That we were in the same place we were when we first met. This was Oct. 27th. the day after his birthday. Three years, 2 months, 1 day .... to the date that we were together.... He screwed me over. I have no car, and I am STILL on that loan. I traded in MY van and he traded in his car to get that friggin vehicle. THIS IS WHY YOU SHOULD NEVER EVER MERGE ANYTHING UNTIL AFTER YOUR MARRIED AND EVEN THEN?!? STILL BE CAREFUL. I'm so mad... I feel so messed up. After he left, we talked almost every other nite. Than we started talking every nite. Than for Thanksgiving he happened to be in the neighborhood at his sisters house in Prescott to celebrate the holiday with his family. Long story short, his sister bumped into me the day before at the grocery store, i didnt realize it was her and we talked about me having moved up blah blah blah, and yea, when she walked away i knew i was screwed cuz i realized who it was... she screwd over the thanksgiving. She told his family that i moved back to MN. I did this for me mind you, I needed to start over and florida was not the place for me to start over. I came to where I knew I could start over..... so anywho.... he called me and was like we're on our way over to get the registration and title so i can change the plates to MN... Him and his dad came over... gave him the info, and they left... than? He stops talking to me pretty much so. His family doesnt want us to even be friggin friends.... and he "can't talk to me and has to be cautious" .... grow some FRICKIN BALLS. I can't believe how i'm being fricked over and treated... PLEASE tell me there are SOME guys out there that are actually true and not out to screw people over? this is killing me.... I love him so much and i can't handle much more of his mind games.... I can't get a car, i need a cosigner because im on the other loan * i can't get off of it til he refinances and he refuses to * this is just... headesk WHY ARE PEOPLE SO SCREWED THE FRICK UP!?!?!? vent over k... back to the normal...

12-05-2007, 03:34 PM	#2
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12-05-2007, 03:38 PM	#3
Rolls-Royce Man Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: BE PREPARED FOR YOUR MISSION. Gender: Posts: 8,710 Thanks: 229 Thanked 482 Times in 365 Posts Blog Entries: 7 Points: 15,049.05 Bank: 53,315.07 Total Points: 68,364.12 Donate	Ahem.... WHY FORE YOU NO KICK HIS ASS YET?

12-05-2007, 03:44 PM	#4
Pyropunk Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: a place that is a grove of cottages, MN Gender: Posts: 104 Thanks: 11 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 3,119.70 Bank: 627.97 Total Points: 3,747.67 Donate	hugs doc thanks man... I haven't kicked his ass yet because im a very peaceful person. I tried to do all this as calm as possible without going to extremes. Trust me. If things get to the point that I think they won't? I have his social memorized.... I can do A LOT to frick him over and damage him. But I dont want to see it get to that.... I'm done making an effort. If he WANTS the last few things of his i have IE his great grandfathers pocket watch and cuff links? he can man the frick up and call me. This "hiding from the parents" BS. I'm sorry???? Buttttttt UHM.... 24? GROW UP. You are NOT your parents and you DONT need them holding you everywhere you go. I just... don't get that. sighs I just want things to be right... and i'm working on myself... I need to get straight again, which, i've done a lot of, it's just... it's hard shakes head

12-05-2007, 03:44 PM	#5
Dylan Banned Mod Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Teenage Wasteland Gender: Posts: 6,395 Thanks: 1,020 Thanked 1,011 Times in 465 Posts Points: 39,194.88 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 39,194.88 Donate	Sorry for all that, Pyro. He should've at least talked to you about it before just screwing you over like that. -Dylan

12-05-2007, 03:47 PM	#6
Pyropunk Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: a place that is a grove of cottages, MN Gender: Posts: 104 Thanks: 11 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 3,119.70 Bank: 627.97 Total Points: 3,747.67 Donate	he stated he was too afraid to tell me the two weeks he knew he was leaving because i might have blown up... gee i wonder why? OR we could have talked about it? Yea... that was the best part... he acted like nothing was wrong for two weeks... i sensed something was up and was pissed cuz he wouldn't tell me.... wtf

12-05-2007, 04:46 PM	#7
Get a new Kirby today! Senior Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Probably eating. Gender: Posts: 4,033 Thanks: 416 Thanked 122 Times in 86 Posts Blog Entries: 2 Points: 2,087.75 Bank: 6,146.68 Total Points: 8,234.43 Donate	Very sorry to hear this. *Gives Pyro an E-Hug*

12-05-2007, 06:59 PM	#8
Blake Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: A generic place such as a house Gender: Posts: 3,610 Thanks: 443 Thanked 118 Times in 91 Posts Points: 1,002.99 Bank: 31,480.33 Total Points: 32,483.32 Donate	My mom right now is in a similar situation. She told me that her boyfriend at first didn't want to marry her and what not in the beginning of the relationship. He owned 3 properties at the time before real estate went down. Now that real estate is shot, he had to foreclose one of his properties and his credit is shot to hell. He has talked about getting married now apparently(though like my mom said, it could be because they know each other). But occasionally he'll talk about investing and says something like my mom can put it in her name and whatnot. So because of his bad credit, it would just be a liability my mom would have to look after. My mom's previous boyfriend seemed loving and caring towards her as well, but may have also been after the money thing. Once they officially broke up, his place became real trashy and he eventually totaled his truck. Luckily my mom didn't have to suffer through that. If you look at my venting topic "Do your relatives use you?" I talk about how my relatives have basically become involved in our lives once they need something. And to update on that topic, my mom got the drill back in fine condition and my Aunt hasn't called her since! Sorry for the long post that isn't relevant to your situation, but sadly there do seem to be a lot of needy people out there. It just is a real ****ty thing to just get involved in someone's life and leave abruptly with the cash. Hope you cope well and get back what's rightfully yours.

12-05-2007, 07:09 PM	#9
Super Murdero Bros. I'm-a gonna kill you! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Either UN's bed or Andre's bed. Gender: Posts: 13,531 Thanks: 914 Thanked 1,554 Times in 749 Posts Points: 219.16 Bank: 112,126.15 Total Points: 112,345.31 Donate	What the hell? This guy completely ***ed you over. I honestly don't know what to tell you... I don't think it's too late to confront him about all this, why he left, why his took your car, why all this crap happened. Don't be afraid to tell him what you're really thinking or ask what you really want to know. If he's hurt you in this experience, don't hesitate to question him for it. hugs Pyro*

12-05-2007, 07:29 PM	#10
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 24,127 Thanks: 401 Thanked 601 Times in 410 Posts Points: 28,810.27 Bank: 246,820.53 Total Points: 275,630.81 Donate	I'm really sorry to hear this. You probably shouldn't have given him the registration for the car. And what about this emptying the bank account? You can take him to a small claims court, if he's taken things you had equal right to. I hope things get sorted out for you, at least a little bit. Good luck. hug

12-05-2007, 07:37 PM	#11
Pyropunk Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: a place that is a grove of cottages, MN Gender: Posts: 104 Thanks: 11 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 3,119.70 Bank: 627.97 Total Points: 3,747.67 Donate	well we both have our name on the car and i didnt want any issues.... he's suppose to call me tonight suppose to so we're going to talk about that... and the bank account was in his name i just put my paycheks in it cuz i had some bad bank issues when i was a teen and it's sill on my record -.- like i said, i just want to be peaceful about all this.... Anyone in MN wanna come chill?? lol i need to get out and do something... but yea... i have talked to him several times and I'm just.. I'm not able to get a clear answer on the why of things... it's just irritating. Whatever. He's an ass. Was a great guy... shakes head

12-05-2007, 07:40 PM	#12
*ZeldaGirl* Venting SuperMod Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 12,408 Thanks: 551 Thanked 911 Times in 619 Posts Points: 36,080.72 Bank: 662,433.14 Total Points: 698,513.86 Donate	^Still, I don't think he can take YOUR money - if you have a record of the transactions of putting YOUR paychecks into the account, I think you can claim that money. I mean, I don't know for sure or anything, so double check that. * ZeldaGirl hugs Pyropunk I hope it works out for you!

12-05-2007, 07:45 PM	#13
Pyropunk Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: a place that is a grove of cottages, MN Gender: Posts: 104 Thanks: 11 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts Points: 3,119.70 Bank: 627.97 Total Points: 3,747.67 Donate	yea seeing as the fact that we both had a signature on the checks, i've already tried, and talked to a few lawyers, its not court fightable -.- thanks guys for all the hugs and stuff... i really appreciate it <3 **HUGE HUGS TO EVERYONE**

12-05-2007, 09:06 PM	#14
User Name Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Some say hell, I say paradise. Gender: Posts: 6,310 Thanks: 236 Thanked 300 Times in 217 Posts Points: 3,574.73 Bank: 64,317.03 Total Points: 67,891.76 Donate	Aw, Pyro, this guy was a real jerk to you. He should have at least confronted you if he felt there was a problem. If he wanted things to move forward, talking to you about it would have solved that issue. Getting away to MN was something you had to do to clear you head, I don't blame you. I think you're right for starting over. If he can't have a conversation to your face, it's probably not worth it. I'm sorry that this happened to you. You obviously had huge feelings for him. hugs

12-06-2007, 10:43 AM	#15
DELICIOUS POISON Retro Nintendo Supermod Art & Literature Mod Metroid Mod Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 16,612 Thanks: 556 Thanked 1,604 Times in 793 Posts Points: 8,212.60 Bank: 3,674,560.50 Total Points: 3,682,773.10 Donate	Mhh. Some people need to bleed before they learn to treat others with respect. I hope someone takes him for granted and screws him over so he can sing that Prozzak song that goes "I'm a bastard if it's true, if the thing she did to me is what I did to you, and I guess it's true."

12-06-2007, 05:36 PM	#16
Jigsaw Hello, VGF. I want to play a game... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Ha ha ha ha ha... Gender: Posts: 6,050 Thanks: 742 Thanked 442 Times in 321 Posts Blog Entries: 3 Points: 2,807.05 Bank: 26,361.01 Total Points: 29,168.06 Donate	Bah, what an ass. He utterly screwed you. I've seen it happen, though. The part of him you loved may not have even been him, just an attempt to use you for his benefit. I apologize for all of this, even if an apology from an outsider if useless. I think you'll find an honest person for you someday. After all, I can assure you that not all of us are greedy hate-***ers. Hope everything works out. e-hug*

12-06-2007, 05:50 PM	#17
Speed Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Some boring place. Gender: Posts: 1,861 Thanks: 474 Thanked 129 Times in 107 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 2,905.48 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 2,905.48 Donate	Tell us where he lives, and your E-homies will fry his ass.

12-06-2007, 06:25 PM	#18
Swiffer Sweeper Vac Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: I'm Batman. Gender: Posts: 958 Thanks: 468 Thanked 29 Times in 27 Posts Points: 4,921.28 Bank: 1,653.63 Total Points: 6,574.91 Donate	Sorry about this whole ordeal. This man sounds alot like my father and his side of the family....... Again I'm sorry about this whole ordeal. I agree with gale on the fact that we aren't all like that.

12-07-2007, 02:26 PM	#20
DJ Ryan http://www.misterpoll.com/polls/359805 Vote for your favorite songs Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Shhhh, it's a secret right now Gender: Posts: 13,443 Thanks: 1,076 Thanked 723 Times in 418 Posts Points: 39,713.44 Bank: 962,921.99 Total Points: 1,002,635.42 Donate	That's seriously f***ed up Pyro, hopefully things workout in the end for you. Can't worry about that douche, at least you know never to bother with his ass again. You'll find one that's right for you, there are plenty out there, just ask some of the women on this board (especially SD).