Girl trouble. - VGF

Curly Brace · 01-12-2008, 09:34 AM

This one girl that I knew for a month or so...she's such a nerd, she plays WoW, quirky, shy, a bookworm, but damn isn't she the fiesty woman I ever met. One day, James introduce me to her. We three were talking to each other (since James is friends with her), and I kept telling her how pretty she looked, and she got suspicious of me, saying why I keep telling her that. She doesn't know me yet, and I like to be her friend but I also know I cannot form a deep relationship with her. How can I get over myself?

(btw, in b4 "tikal r u gay?")

Smarmy Vent · 01-12-2008, 11:07 AM

OMG ITS TIKAL

TIKAL R U GAY?

Anyhoo, if you want to get closer as a friend to her, try finding things that you both have an interest in and use those as an excuse to get friendlier with her. I'm not sure how you would "get over yourself" other than to take your mind off it and do something else, but if I were you I might try to pursue a friendship with this girl.

The Doctor · 01-12-2008, 12:23 PM

I agree with Val really. (Wow, I'd never thought I say those words). Mainly on the first line, and the Last bit.

But yeah, find a interest that you both like.

CuccoLady · 01-12-2008, 12:24 PM

I'm going to be frank and say that most girls (well, me anyway) feel kind of awkward when people compliment us when we don't know them that well. It's weird, we should accept the compliment and be flattered, but we DON'T.

I suggest just talking to her and getting to know her, then after awhile, when you feel you're closer, compliment her again.

We feel more comfortable being flattered by someone we already know and feel close to.

This applies mostly to shy types (when it comes to boys, anywayz), so I suggest giving this a whirl before giving up entirely.

FIND TEH COMMON INTERESTT
...

YAY STEREOTYPING

***Ace Mercury*** · 01-12-2008, 04:04 PM

The way to get fall out of love with someone is to not see them and see other people. As far as I know. =/

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 01-12-2008, 08:48 PM

If the situation occurs again, just shrug and tell her you behave that way when you enjoy someone's company. Ask her if it's making her uncomfortable, and if it is, you should tone it down. Nothing wrong with giving someone compliments, but not everyone actually likes them.

You're much better off just talking normally to her and chatting about things you both like instead of forcing the attention to her. Ask her questions and have a good time.

Nice to see you again, Tikal

Good luck!

Benito Mussolini · 02-06-2008, 04:17 AM

how good looking would you say she is scale of 1-10

if she's at least above the 7 mark i dont know why you should bother with the physical appearance compliments

hot girls have heard it all before and just think its a borefest what you should do is just talk to her and have an interesting conversation and let her talk about herself obv since all girls want to babble about themselves and then you compliment their personality or traits don't compliment their looks

if she's average looking or below then it's ok

01-12-2008, 09:34 AM	#1
Curly Brace THE ALL AROUND YUMMIEST. Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Maryland Gender: Posts: 5,772 Thanks: 127 Thanked 116 Times in 82 Posts Points: 16,020.93 Bank: 37,251.94 Total Points: 53,272.88 Donate	Girl trouble. This one girl that I knew for a month or so...she's such a nerd, she plays WoW, quirky, shy, a bookworm, but damn isn't she the fiesty woman I ever met. One day, James introduce me to her. We three were talking to each other (since James is friends with her), and I kept telling her how pretty she looked, and she got suspicious of me, saying why I keep telling her that. She doesn't know me yet, and I like to be her friend but I also know I cannot form a deep relationship with her. How can I get over myself? (btw, in b4 "tikal r u gay?") __________________ WHAT HAS SCIENCE DONE?!

01-12-2008, 12:24 PM	#4
CuccoLady Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: insert something awkward here Gender: Posts: 4,041 Thanks: 950 Thanked 230 Times in 186 Posts Points: 14,527.21 Bank: 8.30 Total Points: 14,535.51 Donate	OMG TIKAL R U GAY????!!!1!11 I'm going to be frank and say that most girls (well, me anyway) feel kind of awkward when people compliment us when we don't know them that well. It's weird, we should accept the compliment and be flattered, but we DON'T. I suggest just talking to her and getting to know her, then after awhile, when you feel you're closer, compliment her again. We feel more comfortable being flattered by someone we already know and feel close to. This applies mostly to shy types (when it comes to boys, anywayz), so I suggest giving this a whirl before giving up entirely. FIND TEH COMMON INTERESTT ... YAY STEREOTYPING

01-12-2008, 11:07 AM	#2
Smarmy Vent The night is darkest just before the dawn. Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Gotham Gender: Posts: 12,671 Thanks: 728 Thanked 1,147 Times in 606 Posts Points: 149.42 Bank: 117,545.15 Total Points: 117,694.57 Donate	OMG ITS TIKAL TIKAL R U GAY? Anyhoo, if you want to get closer as a friend to her, try finding things that you both have an interest in and use those as an excuse to get friendlier with her. I'm not sure how you would "get over yourself" other than to take your mind off it and do something else, but if I were you I might try to pursue a friendship with this girl.

01-12-2008, 12:23 PM	#3
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01-12-2008, 04:04 PM	#5
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01-12-2008, 08:48 PM	#6
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02-06-2008, 04:17 AM	#7
Benito Mussolini Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Gender: Posts: 65 Thanks: 0 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts Points: 1,967.82 Bank: 510.00 Total Points: 2,477.82 Donate	how good looking would you say she is scale of 1-10 if she's at least above the 7 mark i dont know why you should bother with the physical appearance compliments hot girls have heard it all before and just think its a borefest what you should do is just talk to her and have an interesting conversation and let her talk about herself obv since all girls want to babble about themselves and then you compliment their personality or traits don't compliment their looks if she's average looking or below then it's ok