Hmmmmmm

[Aydzz12]

Hmmmmm.... you people ever try to get some one to notice you that you were willing to make a complete dumbass out of yourself? Well thats what I was doing at one point this year, but you know, I kinda stopped cause friends of mine told me she wasn't worth it, well I thought she was, but I didn't start to listen until about 3 days ago., It started out as any other day, Luis'es "crew" did there daily **** talk to me saying that he will get me one day blah blah, same old lol.
Until lunch time, I'm there with some friends talking about whatever, kickingback, enjoying life. Then I head to the ROTC building and I see one of my closest friends there ( shes a girl) there. She asks me if she can talk to me privately outside, at first I thought she had a prob or something. She openly tells me that she had a crush on me, and i got the reaction every guy gets on his face when you have a friend thats a girl that you are just friends and not trying to hook up or anything. I was like " What the ****......, all this time I thought you looked at me as just a friend". I mean come on, all this time, I was trying to hook up with another chick, and she tells me she has a thing for me? I was like wow......

This is where my dumbassness comes into play. I qas wondering, who do I ask to be my Valentine? A friend that I have known for like 3 years that admited to me that she has a crush on me, or a girl that I have known for over 1 year, has been one of the closest friends I ever had, prolly even closer than my best friend, and you know, I was gonna ask the other one to be my Valentine.

Today, the one that opened up to me, I hardly talked to her today, cause I chose the other girl, but I had a feeling, I went to ask the other girl, but you know, I didn't. I got close to her, started a convo, And I was about to ask her, but I stopped. I just stopped in the middle of the convo, and I told her I had to run w/o any explanation, I kept running till I could find the other girl, but I haven't seen her since.

Now, I think I made on of the dumbest mistakes of my life, She won't return my calls, reply to my texts or nothing, now I feel bad and miserable again..... damnit.

Thank you for listening.

[User Name]

Wow, I know exactly how this feels. One of my good friends now has a crush on me. A big one. I thought he was just my friend and he acted like he was, but then he started buying me things and a few other things. I don't know how to tell him that we're nothing more than friends and we could never be anything else. Everything I say in my head seems harsh. I don't want to completely ignore him, but at the same time, talking to him is awkward.

Anyway, it's nice to see you again. I hope everything works out for the best. Just keep being a friend to her and see how she takes it. She probably needs time. I know what you're going through, and it's really tough. *hug*

[Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds]

I don't know what to say besides explaining that you hold their friendship in the highest regard, that they're like a brother/sister to you, and you'll be devastated if your friendship is ruined because you can't return their love. *shrug* When I've had friends show interest in me, I've either kind of just freaked out quietly and gone cold towards them (great way to handle it, yeeeaaaaahhhhhhh turned out okay in both instances, though) or told them that I was seeing someone else.

UN, with the gifts thing, I would guess you also need to explain that you cannot accept them with good conscience, since you don't want to hurt/take advantage of/lead him on, whatever, you know? :/

I hope things work out between you and your friend and lady, Bartman.

And I hope the best for you too, UN.

I'm sorry you both got stuck in this difficult situation. *hugs!*

[The Missing Link]

I have to chime in with SD here. I've had something that vaguely rhymes with this happen to be once before, and there's unfortunately not a lot of leeway you have in your actions here. Attempting to keep the friendship is the wisest move you both have, but it's also practically your only move. (Forcing love doesn't work.) The rough thing is that the real decision to keep the friendship going is more theirs than yours. The best you both can do is be there for your friend and do what you can for them.

[Blake]

Wow I think I can actually relate to this:

There were two girls at one point in my senior year of high school. A really hot blonde chick and a pretty girl. Well anyway I sat next to the hot blonde chick in one of my classes. I began to be myself in this class cause of other people I knew and one day she was beginning to flirt with me. In the meantime, I was actually flirting with the pretty girl in school during our lunch session.

So what did I do? I decided to choose the hot blonde chick. Well turns out she said she liked my butt or something to another girl in class and she was like "EWW!!" Basically to make that story short, her friend basically convinced her otherwise I'm not good enough, etc. in the background I'm sure. Not that I care, it would never work out anyway. She was the 'needy' type if you will that needed a boyfriend. She broke up with her boyfriend or vice-versa during this time and they got together soon. Even if I was on her level, she would take the old guy back I know just cause that's the way things play.

As for the pretty girl I stopped flirting with her during this time and then I lost the opportunity.

So it was two girls down with one stone I guess or something. I doubt I would have anything near balls to ask either one out, but maybe I would ask out pretty girl I don't know.

But overall, I think it's best to go with the one with a better personality with or the one with a more compatible personality.

I wish you luck with this. I would like to see things go well for you.

[Brandon2390]

Moral being: If you decide you want one of these girls, def. go for it. Cause if you don't, you will just be stuck with nothing.