Lovers' tiff!! - VGF

Kevrosini · 05-11-2008, 10:13 AM

Ironic isn't it, chicks get all sensitive when guys mock their hobby's and interests. I mean Jesus christ all I said she needs to grow up and stop filling "my" house with weird ****! Why on earth would ladys collect skulls, dragons, and bloody gargoyles is behond me

Personally I wouldn't mind if she kept them in her bedroom display cabinet, but no, thats not good enough for her taste. Filling my entire house is so ridiculous... It's driving me nuts!

God, I wish she would just understand my feelings, I don't find it funny when i'm still mourning the loss of my brother

It's so hard getting our relationship back on track when I feel emotionally lost.
I hope she forgives me because I do love her, even if she is into weird ****,
she's my sugar bunny afterall!

But I guess we guys say things without thinking, and then quite suddenly find ourselves on the receiving end

Please someone...Anyone, HELP!!!

The Doctor · 05-11-2008, 11:08 AM

Have you told her that you feel unhappy with all them about while still mourning the loss of my brother. I mean don't tell her to out right ban of all of them, but just to hold back while you're still upset.

Although that's my idea of heaven is having a girlfriend who's into skulls, dragons, and bloody gargoyles.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 05-11-2008, 11:35 AM

No, that's not ironic, that's a perfectly normal reaction to a person being rude. It's pretty insensitive to say or suggest your girlfriend's interests are just weird or stupid to you. If she told you that your collection or interests were weird, you'd be pretty miffed, too. Telling someone to grow up is a surefire way to hurt their feelings, too. No one wants their significant-other to tell them they're being immature, just for liking things you don't.

Many women, including myself, are very interested in skulls, dragons, gargoyles and other such things. Whether or not you can fathom that is irrelevant. If you care for your girlfriend, you should be supportive of her interests, instead of thinking it's all fine if you mock her.

I'm sorry you're going through a hard time, trying to deal with your grief. The best thing for you to do is sit down with your girlfriend and have a talk with her. Explain how you're feeling. About your loss, about the house, about anything that's bothering you. Make sure you talk about how YOU feel. Don't accuse her of things. People don't listen if you start saying, "you do this", "you said that"; rather, you need to say, "I feel", "I think", make it an expression about yourself.

You say you wish she would understand. Have you tried explaining how you feel without insulting her? Have you told your girlfriend that you want her to keep the things you don't like (ie, the skulls, etc) in her own space? But especially, have you told her this WITHOUT saying they're immature and ridiculous? No one is going to be understanding if you're just seen to be attacking them. Neither can she read your mind. She's also dealing with your grief (and perhaps her own), because she cares about you. It hurts when someone you love is hurting.

If your girlfriend presents reasons she wants her dragons and other things in your house, try to be open and listen. If she's living with you, she has a right to add some decorations of her own. If she just stays the night, then you can explain, very politely and calmly, that you need the sense of security that controlling "your house" gives, during this difficult time.

Most importantly, keep communication open. Be understanding yourself. Tell her how you feel (because she won't know unless you do). Tell her, nicely, what you want or need. Listen when she expresses herself in return.

...And learn to think before you speak (since you said that yourself). Being a guy doesn't absolve you of that duty in a relationship.

**Perrin Aybara** · 05-11-2008, 04:15 PM

Dump her and start dating her sister.-jay

Kevrosini · 05-11-2008, 05:33 PM

^Dump her....NEVER!!! She is my sugar bunny I would not do such a thing. Anyway Doctor and Saria thanks for the support, yes, you are both right. I shouldn't mock her interests in life, afterall who am I to judge. And yes, I was kinda rude with my vile insults.

I will apologize from the heart... And of course, she can stick her bloody gargoyles were ever she likes

! Thats me banging up a few extra shelves for some new editions... Well anyway, thank you both for a good kick up the jacksie. I needed it!!

Sir Delicious Rightfoot · 05-11-2008, 08:11 PM

Well now you know

And knowing is half the battle.

[Wait for it...]

**Perrin Aybara** · 05-11-2008, 08:35 PM

G. I. Joe.

-jay

***Heroine of the Dragon*** · 05-11-2008, 09:15 PM

It takes a lot of courage to accept advice like that... you should be very happy with yourself!!!

I do hope you find the time to talk with your girl about your loss and how much it hurts you. It's important. For you. For her.

I wish you much happiness in the coming days!!!

ANNND, I don't believe I got to greet you in the Newbie forum?? I shall rectify that now. WELCOME!!! Tis only a place of madness that you have stumbled upon...

*gives you marshmallows*

Kevrosini · 05-12-2008, 05:23 PM

I, Heroine it does, but tis fair to listen and accept the truth...

Thanks for the "faerie" wish, and marshmallow... Indeed very kind!!!

Tis my sincere pleasure to make your acquaintance.

*Gives Heroine a "golden" Manticore, Angels' glory and an alluring rose*

GRENTLEMEN · 05-16-2008, 08:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kevrosini

my vile insults

I lolled.

Kevrosini · 05-16-2008, 05:58 PM

^Yes well, I wasn't loling when she trashed me electric guitar...

Grrrrrrr.

She's pure evil, she's satan's bloody daughter... I like evil women, kinda turn's me on..

But still, vengeance shall be mine!!! Since the death of my brother, i've lost all emotions. My heart is hollow, I don't feel love, just pain... Those dragons are gonna feel my primal fury....And, I will feel great pleasure swinging me baseball bat, too.

Swordmaster Link · 05-16-2008, 11:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds

...And learn to think before you speak. Being a guy doesn't absolve you of that duty in a relationship.

SD smells like poo poo

Kevrosini · 05-17-2008, 12:38 PM

Meh, SD doesn't stink like poo poo. Never through eternity have I encountered an unclean dragon!!! I've always found dragons to be extremely hygienic creatures, wise and majestic, too..

She was just offering some constructive criticism, and I respect that!!!

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 05-18-2008, 12:52 AM

SML eats boogers.

Kevrosini · 05-18-2008, 05:17 AM

^Oh, good heaven's, good grief no... Tis not true. Surely you're joking...Right?

What manner of man would eat his own slimey goodness from one's nose.

Hmmm, intriguing, i'm quite taken aback!!!

05-11-2008, 10:13 AM	#1
Kevrosini Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: In my Castle. Somewhere in england Gender: Posts: 670 Thanks: 19 Thanked 27 Times in 25 Posts Points: 3,563.50 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 3,563.50 Donate	Lovers' tiff!! Ironic isn't it, chicks get all sensitive when guys mock their hobby's and interests. I mean Jesus christ all I said she needs to grow up and stop filling "my" house with weird **! Why on earth would ladys collect skulls, dragons, and bloody gargoyles is behond me Personally I wouldn't mind if she kept them in her bedroom display cabinet, but no, thats not good enough for her taste. Filling my entire house is so ridiculous... It's driving me nuts! God, I wish she would just understand my feelings, I don't find it funny when i'm still mourning the loss of my brother It's so hard getting our relationship back on track when I feel emotionally lost. I hope she forgives me because I do love her, even if she is into weird **, she's my sugar bunny afterall! But I guess we guys say things without thinking, and then quite suddenly find ourselves on the receiving end Please someone...Anyone, HELP!!!

05-11-2008, 08:11 PM	#6
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05-11-2008, 11:08 AM	#2
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05-11-2008, 11:35 AM	#3
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 23,328 Thanks: 223 Thanked 318 Times in 196 Posts Points: 61,672.85 Bank: 118,624.65 Total Points: 180,297.50 Donate	No, that's not ironic, that's a perfectly normal reaction to a person being rude. It's pretty insensitive to say or suggest your girlfriend's interests are just weird or stupid to you. If she told you that your collection or interests were weird, you'd be pretty miffed, too. Telling someone to grow up is a surefire way to hurt their feelings, too. No one wants their significant-other to tell them they're being immature, just for liking things you don't. Many women, including myself, are very interested in skulls, dragons, gargoyles and other such things. Whether or not you can fathom that is irrelevant. If you care for your girlfriend, you should be supportive of her interests, instead of thinking it's all fine if you mock her. I'm sorry you're going through a hard time, trying to deal with your grief. The best thing for you to do is sit down with your girlfriend and have a talk with her. Explain how you're feeling. About your loss, about the house, about anything that's bothering you. Make sure you talk about how YOU feel. Don't accuse her of things. People don't listen if you start saying, "you do this", "you said that"; rather, you need to say, "I feel", "I think", make it an expression about yourself. You say you wish she would understand. Have you tried explaining how you feel without insulting her? Have you told your girlfriend that you want her to keep the things you don't like (ie, the skulls, etc) in her own space? But especially, have you told her this WITHOUT saying they're immature and ridiculous? No one is going to be understanding if you're just seen to be attacking them. Neither can she read your mind. She's also dealing with your grief (and perhaps her own), because she cares about you. It hurts when someone you love is hurting. If your girlfriend presents reasons she wants her dragons and other things in your house, try to be open and listen. If she's living with you, she has a right to add some decorations of her own. If she just stays the night, then you can explain, very politely and calmly, that you need the sense of security that controlling "your house" gives, during this difficult time. Most importantly, keep communication open. Be understanding yourself. Tell her how you feel (because she won't know unless you do). Tell her, nicely, what you want or need. Listen when she expresses herself in return. ...And learn to think before you speak (since you said that yourself). Being a guy doesn't absolve you of that duty in a relationship.

05-11-2008, 04:15 PM	#4
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05-11-2008, 05:33 PM	#5
Kevrosini Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: In my Castle. Somewhere in england Gender: Posts: 670 Thanks: 19 Thanked 27 Times in 25 Posts Points: 3,563.50 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 3,563.50 Donate	^Dump her....NEVER!!! She is my sugar bunny I would not do such a thing. Anyway Doctor and Saria thanks for the support, yes, you are both right. I shouldn't mock her interests in life, afterall who am I to judge. And yes, I was kinda rude with my vile insults. I will apologize from the heart... And of course, she can stick her bloody gargoyles were ever she likes ! Thats me banging up a few extra shelves for some new editions... Well anyway, thank you both for a good kick up the jacksie. I needed it!!

05-11-2008, 08:35 PM	#7
Perrin Aybara LLLUUUCCCCCCAAA!!! Ban HotD Join Date: Apr 1999 Location: Alone....so terribly alone... Some... where... out... there... dies Gender: Posts: 11,770 Thanks: 169 Thanked 325 Times in 174 Posts Points: 61,361.67 Bank: 139,797.14 Total Points: 201,158.81 Donate	G. I. Joe. -jay

05-11-2008, 09:15 PM	#8
*Heroine of the Dragon* The Grinnie Fool! ♥ VGFCodes Staff Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: In a pretty place surrounded by sparkly faerie dust!! Gender: Posts: 27,550 Thanks: 241 Thanked 258 Times in 190 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 17,662.00 Bank: 1,906,558.86 Total Points: 1,924,220.86 Donate	It takes a lot of courage to accept advice like that... you should be very happy with yourself!!! I do hope you find the time to talk with your girl about your loss and how much it hurts you. It's important. For you. For her. I wish you much happiness in the coming days!!! ANNND, I don't believe I got to greet you in the Newbie forum?? I shall rectify that now. WELCOME!!! Tis only a place of madness that you have stumbled upon... gives you marshmallows

05-12-2008, 05:23 PM	#9
Kevrosini Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: In my Castle. Somewhere in england Gender: Posts: 670 Thanks: 19 Thanked 27 Times in 25 Posts Points: 3,563.50 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 3,563.50 Donate	I, Heroine it does, but tis fair to listen and accept the truth... Thanks for the "faerie" wish, and marshmallow... Indeed very kind!!! Tis my sincere pleasure to make your acquaintance. Gives Heroine a "golden" Manticore, Angels' glory and an alluring rose

05-16-2008, 05:58 PM	#11
Kevrosini Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: In my Castle. Somewhere in england Gender: Posts: 670 Thanks: 19 Thanked 27 Times in 25 Posts Points: 3,563.50 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 3,563.50 Donate	^Yes well, I wasn't loling when she trashed me electric guitar... Grrrrrrr. She's pure evil, she's satan's bloody daughter... I like evil women, kinda turn's me on.. But still, vengeance shall be mine!!! Since the death of my brother, i've lost all emotions. My heart is hollow, I don't feel love, just pain... Those dragons are gonna feel my primal fury....And, I will feel great pleasure swinging me baseball bat, too.

05-17-2008, 12:38 PM	#13
Kevrosini Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: In my Castle. Somewhere in england Gender: Posts: 670 Thanks: 19 Thanked 27 Times in 25 Posts Points: 3,563.50 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 3,563.50 Donate	Meh, SD doesn't stink like poo poo. Never through eternity have I encountered an unclean dragon!!! I've always found dragons to be extremely hygienic creatures, wise and majestic, too.. She was just offering some constructive criticism, and I respect that!!!

05-18-2008, 12:52 AM	#14
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 23,328 Thanks: 223 Thanked 318 Times in 196 Posts Points: 61,672.85 Bank: 118,624.65 Total Points: 180,297.50 Donate	SML eats boogers.

05-18-2008, 05:17 AM	#15
Kevrosini Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: In my Castle. Somewhere in england Gender: Posts: 670 Thanks: 19 Thanked 27 Times in 25 Posts Points: 3,563.50 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 3,563.50 Donate	^Oh, good heaven's, good grief no... Tis not true. Surely you're joking...Right? What manner of man would eat his own slimey goodness from one's nose. Hmmm, intriguing, i'm quite taken aback!!!