Insert Bittersweet Optimistic Wong Kar Wai Ending Here

Bomby · 05-18-2008, 12:23 AM

As some of you might be aware of, I was recently in hot pursuit of a Korean cutie-pie who lived on my floor. I was just curious about her for a while, as she was just a mysterious shy figure lurking throughout the hallways, who wouldn't really talk much to other people. With a tiny little bit of help from her roommate (whom I'm good friends with), I started to get to know her. As I got to know her, I grew fond of her beyond just her outer beauty. The only problem was, 'twas the end of the year, and not only was there not much time to start a relationship, but there was a lot of studying for the both of us to do for finals (we both have insanely bad sleep habits which cause accidental lecture-skipping, and apparently she has the same procrastination habit I have, though not as bad).

As time goes by, I just get more and more nervous attempting to establish a romantic connection. Finally, I got the opportunity to ask her to dinner. She said she had plans. It didn't matter whether or not to me she actually had plans, because I've dealt with women enough to know that this is a major sign of indifference and disinterest. She would've tried to reschedule if she was interested. Surely by then she must've picked up on my signals that I liked her...

I tried not to mope around. I actually felt fine for the first 24 hours. I didn't run into her at all or see her the next day, as I had two exams, and stayed up late the next night watching Wong Kar Wai's Fallen Angels (a brilliant movie, btw). It was Wednesday, the day I had no finals, that it really hit me. I spent most of the day holed up in my room, attempting to study but browsing the internet instead, occasionally visiting my friends in the den, trying to hide the disappointment felt inside.

Wednesday night, I ran into her a few times while she was in the process of moving some of her belongings to a friend's apartment. Interactions between the two of us were normal. It was then, I decided not to take what had I had decided was a dismissal at face value.

My main objective was to secure her number in my cell phone, so I could possibly drop in on her a few times and see how she was doing. Deep inside, I hoped that she would at least mention me asking her out to dinner if we were to have a conversation. Maybe she'd be open for dinner Thursday night? As it turns out, I didn't see her at all Thursday, so I knew I'd have to drop in on her on Friday.

Since I knew I had to leave on Friday, I figured it would be an opportune time to get her number. The conversation would be easy: "Hey, I'm leaving today, so I figured I'd drop in on you one more time." blah blah blah conversation etc. etc. etc. "By the way, I don't think I have your number."

I came knocking on the door at 1:15 PM. No answer. I figured I'd try back in a half hour.

1:45 PM - No Answer
2:15 PM - No Answer

Packed up my stuff into my mom's car so we could go home. Decided to make one last round on my floor saying "goodbye" to as many people as possible.

3:45 PM - No Answer

I handed in my key and left Witte hall, using all the strength in my neck to hold my head high as I walked out the back doors to the backyard where my mom's car was parked. I got in the car and she drove away. I figured I might not ever see her again, at least not much since she would be living in an apartment next year and I'd still be stuck in the dorms. I decided to leave a goodbye message for her on Facebook. Lame, I know, but it was the only way I had of contacting her.

"Hey, didn't get to see you before I left, but have a good summer & remember to come visit Witte in the fall."

Simple enough, right? As sure as I was that she might eventually see it, I was also sure she wouldn't respond to it. She doesn't check her Facebook very often, and never leaves messages on her friends' walls. Once again, the whole concept of me not seeing her because she's not interested in visiting me sunk into my mind as the greatest likelihood of future events with this girl.

Then, tonight I saw the following message on my wall:

hey-
we never got to have a lunch together!
well.. hope u have a great summer-
i'll definitely visit witte next semester lol-

I'm not going to put too much thought into what her intent was on leaving this message (the first and so far only message she's ever written on anybody's wall on Facebook). All I know is that just seeing her respond to me makes me happy. I've been interested in a lot of women, and the ones that I've acted upon have always rejected me initially, only for our friendships to get worse. This is by far the most optimistic thing that has ever happened to me in love.

"If my memory of her has an expiration date, let it be 10,000 years..."

Kil'jaeden · 05-18-2008, 09:16 AM

I'm not sure if I'd be really pissed or really happy in that situation.

Kevrosini · 05-18-2008, 08:02 PM

Given the choice, I would be pissed! Although her intentions may be creditable. She may also be deceiving you, some women just love to pull a man's heart to shreds!!!

I guess saying that doesn't qualify me for a prize with the fair maidens, but tis the TRUTH!

Unfortunately, that's like saying a good guff to the face is refreshing because technically it's a warm breeze...

Brandon2390 · 05-18-2008, 08:39 PM

Not to discourage, but I've got tons of messages in that type of way with girls that ended up not being interested in me at all. In a lot of ways I think that's the type of message that adds closure and says "For now, this isn't going any further, and so you won't ask for my number I'll just tell you I'll see you next year." But who knows, each girl is different, and maybe there's next year for the lunch.

Your best bet is to forget about her for the moment, and just focus on someone else. Use the summer to do some other things, have a little fun, and then maybe go back after it when you go back to school or whatever.

Swordmaster Link · 05-18-2008, 09:55 PM

Er, yeah....I mean, it's just a facebook wall post, to be honest. That's not the type of thing I would take very seriously.

Bomby · 05-21-2008, 09:38 PM

Hm... I should've specified what I was optimistic about. Even if she was interested in me, I wouldn't expect her to stay that way throughout the entire summer. It's just nice to try to get with a girl and not have the entire relationship go to complete **** for once.

**Booyakasha** · 05-21-2008, 11:26 PM

Good luck, mac.

Sir Delicious Rightfoot · 05-22-2008, 12:02 AM

That's was quite a jolt Freak!

**Perrin Aybara** · 05-22-2008, 04:20 PM

Dump her and start dating her sister.-jay

05-18-2008, 12:23 AM	#1
Bomby I saved Latin! What did you ever do? Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: The People's Republic of Madison, WI Gender: Posts: 14,989 Thanks: 202 Thanked 518 Times in 347 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 7,907.84 Bank: 2,225,874.99 Total Points: 2,233,782.83 Donate	Insert Bittersweet Optimistic Wong Kar Wai Ending Here As some of you might be aware of, I was recently in hot pursuit of a Korean cutie-pie who lived on my floor. I was just curious about her for a while, as she was just a mysterious shy figure lurking throughout the hallways, who wouldn't really talk much to other people. With a tiny little bit of help from her roommate (whom I'm good friends with), I started to get to know her. As I got to know her, I grew fond of her beyond just her outer beauty. The only problem was, 'twas the end of the year, and not only was there not much time to start a relationship, but there was a lot of studying for the both of us to do for finals (we both have insanely bad sleep habits which cause accidental lecture-skipping, and apparently she has the same procrastination habit I have, though not as bad). As time goes by, I just get more and more nervous attempting to establish a romantic connection. Finally, I got the opportunity to ask her to dinner. She said she had plans. It didn't matter whether or not to me she actually had plans, because I've dealt with women enough to know that this is a major sign of indifference and disinterest. She would've tried to reschedule if she was interested. Surely by then she must've picked up on my signals that I liked her... I tried not to mope around. I actually felt fine for the first 24 hours. I didn't run into her at all or see her the next day, as I had two exams, and stayed up late the next night watching Wong Kar Wai's Fallen Angels (a brilliant movie, btw). It was Wednesday, the day I had no finals, that it really hit me. I spent most of the day holed up in my room, attempting to study but browsing the internet instead, occasionally visiting my friends in the den, trying to hide the disappointment felt inside. Wednesday night, I ran into her a few times while she was in the process of moving some of her belongings to a friend's apartment. Interactions between the two of us were normal. It was then, I decided not to take what had I had decided was a dismissal at face value. My main objective was to secure her number in my cell phone, so I could possibly drop in on her a few times and see how she was doing. Deep inside, I hoped that she would at least mention me asking her out to dinner if we were to have a conversation. Maybe she'd be open for dinner Thursday night? As it turns out, I didn't see her at all Thursday, so I knew I'd have to drop in on her on Friday. Since I knew I had to leave on Friday, I figured it would be an opportune time to get her number. The conversation would be easy: "Hey, I'm leaving today, so I figured I'd drop in on you one more time." blah blah blah conversation etc. etc. etc. "By the way, I don't think I have your number." I came knocking on the door at 1:15 PM. No answer. I figured I'd try back in a half hour. 1:45 PM - No Answer 2:15 PM - No Answer Packed up my stuff into my mom's car so we could go home. Decided to make one last round on my floor saying "goodbye" to as many people as possible. 3:45 PM - No Answer I handed in my key and left Witte hall, using all the strength in my neck to hold my head high as I walked out the back doors to the backyard where my mom's car was parked. I got in the car and she drove away. I figured I might not ever see her again, at least not much since she would be living in an apartment next year and I'd still be stuck in the dorms. I decided to leave a goodbye message for her on Facebook. Lame, I know, but it was the only way I had of contacting her. "Hey, didn't get to see you before I left, but have a good summer & remember to come visit Witte in the fall." Simple enough, right? As sure as I was that she might eventually see it, I was also sure she wouldn't respond to it. She doesn't check her Facebook very often, and never leaves messages on her friends' walls. Once again, the whole concept of me not seeing her because she's not interested in visiting me sunk into my mind as the greatest likelihood of future events with this girl. Then, tonight I saw the following message on my wall: hey- we never got to have a lunch together! well.. hope u have a great summer- i'll definitely visit witte next semester lol- I'm not going to put too much thought into what her intent was on leaving this message (the first and so far only message she's ever written on anybody's wall on Facebook). All I know is that just seeing her respond to me makes me happy. I've been interested in a lot of women, and the ones that I've acted upon have always rejected me initially, only for our friendships to get worse. This is by far the most optimistic thing that has ever happened to me in love. "If my memory of her has an expiration date, let it be 10,000 years..."

05-21-2008, 11:26 PM	#7
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05-22-2008, 12:02 AM	#8
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05-18-2008, 09:16 AM	#2
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 1,453 Thanks: 19 Thanked 38 Times in 29 Posts Points: 9,856.88 Bank: 905.68 Total Points: 10,762.56 Donate	I'm not sure if I'd be really pissed or really happy in that situation.

05-18-2008, 08:02 PM	#3
Kevrosini Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: In my Castle. Somewhere in england Gender: Posts: 785 Thanks: 25 Thanked 38 Times in 34 Posts Points: 5,521.23 Bank: 0.00 Total Points: 5,521.23 Donate	Given the choice, I would be pissed! Although her intentions may be creditable. She may also be deceiving you, some women just love to pull a man's heart to shreds!!! I guess saying that doesn't qualify me for a prize with the fair maidens, but tis the TRUTH! Unfortunately, that's like saying a good guff to the face is refreshing because technically it's a warm breeze...

05-18-2008, 08:39 PM	#4
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,394 Thanks: 6 Thanked 21 Times in 17 Posts Points: 38,816.04 Bank: 961.12 Total Points: 39,777.16 Donate	Not to discourage, but I've got tons of messages in that type of way with girls that ended up not being interested in me at all. In a lot of ways I think that's the type of message that adds closure and says "For now, this isn't going any further, and so you won't ask for my number I'll just tell you I'll see you next year." But who knows, each girl is different, and maybe there's next year for the lunch. Your best bet is to forget about her for the moment, and just focus on someone else. Use the summer to do some other things, have a little fun, and then maybe go back after it when you go back to school or whatever.

05-18-2008, 09:55 PM	#5
Swordmaster Link Super Bodyguard & King of the Arcade Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: Wherever you want me to be Gender: Posts: 30,315 Thanks: 225 Thanked 606 Times in 401 Posts Blog Entries: 1 Points: 781.11 Bank: 1,284,075.44 Total Points: 1,284,856.55 Donate	Er, yeah....I mean, it's just a facebook wall post, to be honest. That's not the type of thing I would take very seriously.

05-21-2008, 09:38 PM	#6
Bomby I saved Latin! What did you ever do? Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: The People's Republic of Madison, WI Gender: Posts: 14,989 Thanks: 202 Thanked 518 Times in 347 Posts Blog Entries: 4 Points: 7,907.84 Bank: 2,225,874.99 Total Points: 2,233,782.83 Donate	Hm... I should've specified what I was optimistic about. Even if she was interested in me, I wouldn't expect her to stay that way throughout the entire summer. It's just nice to try to get with a girl and not have the entire relationship go to complete **** for once.

05-22-2008, 04:20 PM	#9
Perrin Aybara LLLUUUCCCCCCAAA!!! Ban HotD Join Date: Apr 1999 Location: Alone....so terribly alone... Some... where... out... there... dies Gender: Posts: 11,795 Thanks: 184 Thanked 357 Times in 178 Posts Points: 62,658.84 Bank: 151,320.92 Total Points: 213,979.76 Donate	Dump her and start dating her sister.-jay