How Do I Get Middle School Kids To Like Me?

Hannah · 07-01-2007, 07:58 PM

Last year in school I wasn't very popular. Seeing as this next year will be my last in middle school I want people to like me. But most of all, I want a boyfriend. What can I do?

Chocolate Ninja · 07-01-2007, 08:46 PM

Well... that's a pretty open-ended one. Why don't you think kids like you now? Do you want to be friends with all of them, or just have some friends (I remember most kids in middle school being jerks)? Also, for the boyfriend part, do you have someone in mind, or is it because you feel it'll bring more social acceptance? Think about what you want, and if you yourself truly want it. Popularity might come at the price of hiding your true self.

Sim Kid · 07-01-2007, 11:22 PM

1) Most people in middle school are conformists trying to be like the "Cool crowd".
2) It's not always a bad thing, but generally the "Cool crowd" won't let anyone else in because they think "oh, he's just pretending so he'll be cool".
3) Drugs and sex get you instant popularity. Who cares if you're expelled or are ruining your body, screw my body I'm popular!

Bomby · 07-02-2007, 10:36 AM

In general, you're best sticking to isolation during middle school. I suggest not talking to any of your classmates until high school.

Kil'jaeden · 07-02-2007, 01:21 PM

^^ Really? I don't remember seeing any rules like that.

***Ace Mercury*** · 07-02-2007, 02:31 PM

Learn how to hold a conversation. You will have to talk with people during school.

I can't really give much help, because I am antisocial.

Chocolate Ninja · 07-02-2007, 03:57 PM

Aren't all of us?

Metal Man · 07-02-2007, 04:52 PM

I found an easy way to get popular was to defend other kids from bullies and fight back when bullies attacked me.

However I evaded having to do that in Middle School by switching out to independent study. Mainly, it would have eventually progressed to knives and guns, and I wanted to learn, not learn how to fight people.

Although I still remember my old tactics.

Rainbow Dash · 07-02-2007, 05:56 PM

Kick them in the groin and run?

Metal Man · 07-02-2007, 09:37 PM

No. Become so angry I'd lose my mind and go The Hulk on them. All I know is that I definately didn't feel pain very much in that state, and I chased one bully around the playground for all of Recess. Heh heh heh. I scared him good. Jerk. Nobody throws Milk on the Metal Man.

Sim Kid · 07-02-2007, 10:14 PM

Your middle school had recess? Lucky bastard.

...but then again, my Jr. High made up for it by allowing classmate torment/stupidity to happen every time during school hours. Hey, unless someone did something, you wouldn't get in trouble for harassing. Not like they emphasized "Anti-harassment laws" every year.

Brandon2390 · 07-03-2007, 12:27 AM

1. Make sure your hygiene game is on lock. No offense to you, but kids dont want to be around somebody smelly. If this is good, you can just skip to the next one.

2. Stop Being Weird - Do You Like Yu-Gi-Oh? How about Pokemon? Here's a secret: You dont have to lie about liking Yu-Gi-Oh or Pokemon. Just dont bring it up in conversation. For Example: I like pokemon, however nobody has ever asked me if I play or like playing it. So I just dont mention it. I dont hide it, but I dont feel it's something people need to know, especially to keep up the reputation I have. This applies to many things people consider as childish. A girl walked in one day last year with a full pirate costume on. Safe to say not a lot of people like her, it's a pretty odd thing to do.

3. Hold/Initiate a Conversation - Self Explanitory. Pick somebody you think you like or that you think is a chill person and just talk to get to know them more.

4. Stop Caring What People Think So Much - You're your own person, do your own thing. Just know when to talk and shut up, but dont change your overall personality for anyone. Besides these 4 tips, just do you and most people should like you for that.

Totally Kennerson · 07-03-2007, 12:29 AM

Bah, I would rather have one really good friend than 100 friends who don't even know my last name.

Metal Man · 07-03-2007, 01:56 AM

Most people go through them like toilet paper, wheras I still have the same friend I had from Kindergarten. We don't really participate or subscribe to the whole 'in' crowd thing, of course we're both pretty old by now, too.

Kil'jaeden · 07-03-2007, 10:15 AM

You could grant people favors. Works really well.

Chocolate Ninja · 07-03-2007, 11:46 AM

Problem with that is it might turn you into a pushover.

Kil'jaeden · 07-03-2007, 03:31 PM

Or you could just be yourself, and wait until you find someone who actually likes you. That way you won't have to pretend to be someone you aren't or whore yourself out to a bunch of stuck up little bastards. Even if you have one friend, and everyone else hates you, you could know that your friend's loyalty is real. That's more valuable than anything else. And, you know, what the people above said too.

Godot · 07-04-2007, 11:16 PM

Do what I did.

I carried some hair gel with me, and slick my hair back with my comb. Then I go "Heyyyyyy..." And every girl fell for me. I also can beat a juke box and make it play any music I want, ripping off the favorite diner a nickle.

Ah, those were the days...

***Ace Mercury*** · 07-05-2007, 01:57 AM

And then you had to do that stunt where you did a water-ski jump over a shark.

Eagle Eye · 07-06-2007, 08:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Metal Man

No. Become so angry I'd lose my mind and go The Hulk on them. All I know is that I definately didn't feel pain very much in that state, and I chased one bully around the playground for all of Recess. Heh heh heh. I scared him good. Jerk. Nobody throws Milk on the Metal Man.

It's times like these I like you Metal Man lol.

Meh, middle school is middle school. It's the point where basically your personality begins to form. Not fully, just begins to, all I can say is don't let anyone do that, you have to mold yourself, and that begins by surrounding yourself with the right people.

In MS you're impressionable still (mostly), so sometimes you'll get involved with what your friends are doing, good or bad. By the time you get to HS, you'll kinda have more of a sense, so really you can hang around anyone, just be ready for consequences.

If that makes any sense, you owe me a dollar.

07-01-2007, 07:58 PM	#1
Hannah Newbie Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Tempe, AZ Posts: 1 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	How Do I Get Middle School Kids To Like Me? Last year in school I wasn't very popular. Seeing as this next year will be my last in middle school I want people to like me. But most of all, I want a boyfriend. What can I do?

07-01-2007, 08:46 PM	#2
Chocolate Ninja Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Wouldn't you like to know? Gender: Posts: 55 Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Well... that's a pretty open-ended one. Why don't you think kids like you now? Do you want to be friends with all of them, or just have some friends (I remember most kids in middle school being jerks)? Also, for the boyfriend part, do you have someone in mind, or is it because you feel it'll bring more social acceptance? Think about what you want, and if you yourself truly want it. Popularity might come at the price of hiding your true self.

07-01-2007, 11:22 PM	#3
Sim Kid Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: The state of Denial Gender: Posts: 8,884 Thanks: 80 Thanked 198 Times in 122 Posts	1) Most people in middle school are conformists trying to be like the "Cool crowd". 2) It's not always a bad thing, but generally the "Cool crowd" won't let anyone else in because they think "oh, he's just pretending so he'll be cool". 3) Drugs and sex get you instant popularity. Who cares if you're expelled or are ruining your body, screw my body I'm popular!

07-02-2007, 10:36 AM	#4
Bomby You just freaking blew Joe Biden's mind! Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: WHAT?house Gender: Posts: 19,491 Thanks: 513 Thanked 1,449 Times in 849 Posts Blog Entries: 5	In general, you're best sticking to isolation during middle school. I suggest not talking to any of your classmates until high school.

07-02-2007, 01:21 PM	#5
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 2,134 Thanks: 21 Thanked 146 Times in 99 Posts	^^ Really? I don't remember seeing any rules like that.

07-02-2007, 02:31 PM	#6
*Ace Mercury* Marshmallow Knight ☆ Supermod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Southern Ontario Gender: Posts: 23,275 Thanks: 568 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,582 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Learn how to hold a conversation. You will have to talk with people during school. I can't really give much help, because I am antisocial.

07-02-2007, 03:57 PM	#7
Chocolate Ninja Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Wouldn't you like to know? Gender: Posts: 55 Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Aren't all of us?

07-02-2007, 04:52 PM	#8
Metal Man Fairy-Slaying Maniac Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: 1592 Miles Away From Here Gender: Posts: 18,062 Thanks: 148 Thanked 683 Times in 482 Posts	I found an easy way to get popular was to defend other kids from bullies and fight back when bullies attacked me. However I evaded having to do that in Middle School by switching out to independent study. Mainly, it would have eventually progressed to knives and guns, and I wanted to learn, not learn how to fight people. Although I still remember my old tactics.

07-02-2007, 05:56 PM	#9
Rainbow Dash been dreamin', i've been waitin' Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: a bomb-ass cloud house bachelorette pad Gender: Posts: 24,402 Thanks: 173 Thanked 1,179 Times in 716 Posts	Kick them in the groin and run?

07-02-2007, 09:37 PM	#10
Metal Man Fairy-Slaying Maniac Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: 1592 Miles Away From Here Gender: Posts: 18,062 Thanks: 148 Thanked 683 Times in 482 Posts	No. Become so angry I'd lose my mind and go The Hulk on them. All I know is that I definately didn't feel pain very much in that state, and I chased one bully around the playground for all of Recess. Heh heh heh. I scared him good. Jerk. Nobody throws Milk on the Metal Man.

07-02-2007, 10:14 PM	#11
Sim Kid Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: The state of Denial Gender: Posts: 8,884 Thanks: 80 Thanked 198 Times in 122 Posts	Your middle school had recess? Lucky bastard. ...but then again, my Jr. High made up for it by allowing classmate torment/stupidity to happen every time during school hours. Hey, unless someone did something, you wouldn't get in trouble for harassing. Not like they emphasized "Anti-harassment laws" every year.

07-03-2007, 12:27 AM	#12
Brandon2390 Veteran Member Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Connecticut Posts: 10,519 Thanks: 7 Thanked 30 Times in 22 Posts	1. Make sure your hygiene game is on lock. No offense to you, but kids dont want to be around somebody smelly. If this is good, you can just skip to the next one. 2. Stop Being Weird - Do You Like Yu-Gi-Oh? How about Pokemon? Here's a secret: You dont have to lie about liking Yu-Gi-Oh or Pokemon. Just dont bring it up in conversation. For Example: I like pokemon, however nobody has ever asked me if I play or like playing it. So I just dont mention it. I dont hide it, but I dont feel it's something people need to know, especially to keep up the reputation I have. This applies to many things people consider as childish. A girl walked in one day last year with a full pirate costume on. Safe to say not a lot of people like her, it's a pretty odd thing to do. 3. Hold/Initiate a Conversation - Self Explanitory. Pick somebody you think you like or that you think is a chill person and just talk to get to know them more. 4. Stop Caring What People Think So Much - You're your own person, do your own thing. Just know when to talk and shut up, but dont change your overall personality for anyone. Besides these 4 tips, just do you and most people should like you for that.

07-03-2007, 12:29 AM	#13
Totally Kennerson Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Falling down all these stairs Gender: Posts: 2,116 Thanks: 340 Thanked 406 Times in 136 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Bah, I would rather have one really good friend than 100 friends who don't even know my last name.

07-03-2007, 01:56 AM	#14
Metal Man Fairy-Slaying Maniac Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: 1592 Miles Away From Here Gender: Posts: 18,062 Thanks: 148 Thanked 683 Times in 482 Posts	Most people go through them like toilet paper, wheras I still have the same friend I had from Kindergarten. We don't really participate or subscribe to the whole 'in' crowd thing, of course we're both pretty old by now, too.

07-03-2007, 10:15 AM	#15
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 2,134 Thanks: 21 Thanked 146 Times in 99 Posts	You could grant people favors. Works really well.

07-03-2007, 11:46 AM	#16
Chocolate Ninja Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Wouldn't you like to know? Gender: Posts: 55 Thanks: 1 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Problem with that is it might turn you into a pushover.

07-03-2007, 03:31 PM	#17
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 2,134 Thanks: 21 Thanked 146 Times in 99 Posts	Or you could just be yourself, and wait until you find someone who actually likes you. That way you won't have to pretend to be someone you aren't or whore yourself out to a bunch of stuck up little bastards. Even if you have one friend, and everyone else hates you, you could know that your friend's loyalty is real. That's more valuable than anything else. And, you know, what the people above said too.

07-04-2007, 11:16 PM	#18
Godot Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Coffee. Gender: Posts: 6,054 Thanks: 169 Thanked 161 Times in 102 Posts	Do what I did. I carried some hair gel with me, and slick my hair back with my comb. Then I go "Heyyyyyy..." And every girl fell for me. I also can beat a juke box and make it play any music I want, ripping off the favorite diner a nickle. Ah, those were the days...

07-05-2007, 01:57 AM	#19
*Ace Mercury* Marshmallow Knight ☆ Supermod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Southern Ontario Gender: Posts: 23,275 Thanks: 568 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,582 Posts Blog Entries: 1	And then you had to do that stunt where you did a water-ski jump over a shark.