Has to do with friends and popularity

The Spark · 01-10-2009, 06:17 PM

Ok, so in school im pretty unliked. when its time to make groups with people, im never picked and have to be with someone I dont like . im decent looking, funny, and very smart. (the people in my school tend to judge people that way, so that is why i am implying that) so im wondering - wtf? im in middle school and im wondering how exactly to go from some outsider to a person that everybody knows who are. i mean, ive tried hanging out with people and trying to make new friends, but i keep getting the feeling of annoyance from the people i try to hang out with. i mean, i have guy friends, and i used to hang out with them during elementary. but now they only hang out with other guys, so im screwed there. also, this 'most popular' girl at school that everybody does know and likes alot that is so 'perfect' is always showing signs of friggin pity towards me! there's no reason for that. i mean, itd be one thing if i were ugly, or stupid, or poor (again talking about how they judge, I dont care either way). but im not any of those things!!! so again, what should i do? im a girl btw.

**Valigarmander** · 01-10-2009, 06:22 PM

Well, I used to be the same way pretty much. The best I could say is, just be yourself, and be cool to everyone. Don't get angry or begrudging, just be nice to people without really getting in their face. When it comes to making friends, go for people with interests like you. Don't try to get close with people just for the sake of being popular, but instead get close for the sake of having friends to be around.

I mean, I'm not "popular" in school. I never have been, and I never will be (unless something spectacular happens before graduation), but I'm happy because I've got friends there, and that's good enough.

As smarmy as "just be yourself" sounds, it's what will probably work out best for you in the long run.

The Spark · 01-10-2009, 06:37 PM

yeah, i meant friends really. i dont much believe in popularity, i just want friends. i mean, i do have friends. they just dont go to my school, or arent in my same grade. like Sam (girl). she was in my grade and we were best buds. plus, we had 5 classes together. but she moved to the next town over so we dont go to the same school anymore. Also, bri and alexis, who are a grade behind me and are in elementary school, not middle. so, im pretty much screwed.

I REALLY HATE POKEMON! · 01-10-2009, 06:44 PM

God, no offense, but someone has to tell you while you're still young; maybe the reason nobody wants to hang out with you is because of your attitude toward ugly, stupid, and, above all else, poor people.

Also, it's good to have self-confidence. However, you come off as arrogant and I am sure people pick-up on that, along with the desperation that you seem to exude, your need for popularity and acceptance.

Also, your gender is displayed. -_-

The Spark · 01-10-2009, 07:12 PM

i apologize, i understand now.

Robotazy · 01-10-2009, 07:28 PM

Oh, that's just IRHP, VGF's resident Douche and 3rd in Command Flamebait.

The truth is that if they can't see you for who you really are, they aren't worth your time. They may even feed off your desperation.

The One thing you need to learn is to never get too angry or sad from people who say negative things about you. Just smile and nod and you'll be able to get out of the hole these punks dig for free-thinkers.

Also, stay at VGF. We will be your helpful guide for who is right and who is wrong (not really.)

Also, hai [hi]. I am Tazy, VGF's resident Saiya-Jin [Those Guys on DBZ who powered up for 1 hour] and one of the top 50 ~~Spamming Asshats~~ Members [People addicted to the Internet].

I REALLY HATE POKEMON! · 01-10-2009, 07:34 PM

I just call it how I see it and, I really meant no offense.

We're in a recession right now, I dunno if you understand that, but, many think that the recession has been in the making since 9/11 (at least from what I hear), which is really no fault of the people. No one, besides some hardcore conspiracy theorists that believe the government orchestrated it, seen this coming.

Anyway, just don't try so hard and it'll work out probably.

...Tazy... >_<

The Spark · 01-10-2009, 07:36 PM

ok man. we coo', we coo'. ill do what i can.

Robotazy · 01-10-2009, 07:49 PM

I REALLY HATE POKEMON! · 01-10-2009, 08:01 PM

The one referring to me was more a declaration of fact vs an assumption based on personal observation. But I know you didn't mean it.

...right? RIGHT?!

**LASER BEAR ASSAULT UNIT** · 01-11-2009, 12:26 PM

Yo. Sup?

Being attractive, funny and w/e else you listed doesn't get you friends in a snap, you also have to be good at conversation, ect, and be a generally likable person.

In my boat I'm that guy who disrupts classes with silly remarks, who used to get into alot of fights (I'm trying to avoid that now since I'm growing up now + I have a busted leg, may I just add, I didn't start them >.>) and whom was eventually expelled from school for assaulting a teacher who made my friend cry. People loved me for these things, and these things alone, they didn't take their time to get to know me, or to care for me, yeah - I had alot of friends, but they weren't true friends, if I wasn't those things, they wouldn't of paid much attention to me. When I was on the news for saving my friend whom jumped into a river (which caused my busted leg.) I got alot of attention in college. But. It wasn't the attention I wanted, I just wanted the love, and good wishes of those who cared for me throughout it all...

My real friends, those who took time to get to know me, and those who cared about me, those who'd die for me, and I'd die for them. The ones who wanted to get to know you, not cause you're the class clown or whatever, because they liked you for you, and nothing more.

You can have alot of friends yes, but it leads to alot of arguements, or unhappiness.

Or you can have a few close friends, the one you do everything together with, whether it be camping, having a massive piss up, playing video games, or getting arrested on suspicion of mischief. (which is still the best thing ever)

TL;DR: Having close friends over many friends leads to alot more happiness. Be yourself, and you'll find these people.

BTW; Greeting time.

I'm glad to see you've joined VGF, and I hope you enjoy your stay here, the people on here arn't members as such, they are more like family, we are really close with one another, yeah we have idiots and the such, and we may act badly towards them, but still family.

While I'm at it I may as well introduce myself,

The name is Jacob, people call me Masa, Masahiro, Welsh Bastard, or You****ing****potyoujustmademelosethegamehiro, I'm the Anime and Cartoons mod around here, visit my forum anytime you see fit!

Enjoy your stay!

The Spark · 01-11-2009, 08:53 PM

aight sounds cool. nice to meet you. well, i better be hitting the old... dusty trail. ttyl. thanks for the advice, too, btw.

I REALLY HATE POKEMON! · 01-11-2009, 11:43 PM

FAMILY GUY YEA

Speed · 01-12-2009, 03:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Spark

if i were ugly, or stupid, or poor.

Being all of those things I am a little offended.

Jere · 01-12-2009, 10:34 AM

Well in ost cases it can be good to be yourself if you are not some evil bastard, but you dont appear to be that so take it just cool, then i have pretty much been in the same place you have been in, no body relay liked me and i hanged whit the people that treated me the least crappy.

Then i moved when is started highschool at the age of 16 and started from zero, managed to get some really great friends, that are so tight that we if we needed move bodies for eachother.

So in worst case cenario you might have to move to start to get along well, but i dont think you are like me that only does what i want to not what everybody tell me to do.

But lets cut the crap and let me introduse myself Carl-Jörgen Jeremias is my whole name but here just call me Jere, living in the cold scandinavia in sweden, my family lives in the moutains and im currently living on the east coast in sundsvall where im studying.

The people here is mostly nice some better some worse but overall we are nice chaps and birds.

Nice to meet you

The Spark · 01-12-2009, 04:16 PM

nice to meet you too. also, E-123, i wasnt meaning to offend anybody. that is just how my school is. err..my school takes thatextremely. like, they dont care their personality or anything, they just think of the subjects said, ya know?

Manny · 01-21-2009, 01:04 PM

Get into a fight, beat the **** out of him/her, and make people respect you.

I'm joking.

Nice to meet you.

When I moved to America, I had no friends, no nothing. The first day the teacher put me next to these jocks that loved to pick fights, so, I moved next this group of mexicans and I fit in pretty well, try moving somewhere else in class (unless you have assigned seats). Sit next to new people at lunch etc.

I manadged to get some cool friends at my school, they got my back and we always help each other out, so I guess I'm lucky. You're in middle school, so the whole "join a sport team" stuff won't work, I joined the soccer team freshman year and I met some pretty nice people.

Most people at my school are preppy little white kids (No racism intended) that only care about what you look like, what you wear, or how rich you are. If your pants aren't saggy, or if they aren't so tight on your legs, people think you're a fag, which is totally stupid (Yeah, I'm the fag for not wearing pants that show my ass to the world or squish my legs together, right

My name is Manuel Josue Ramirez, but, you may call me Manny, nice to meet other people from diff backrounds.

Dizzy · 01-21-2009, 04:14 PM

I'm the most popular person in my school. Why?

Because I declare it so.

***Cosmonautical*** · 01-24-2009, 11:54 AM

I can understand wanting friends, and hopefully the ones you make will be worth keeping as you get older, but..

Well, you're at an age where pretty much the entire school is trying to be "adult". That means they are separating into petty little groups (cliques) that pick on one another and anyone else who's the odd one out, because they are trying to prove how superior and capable they are. I can't really make any recommendations, because just having friends or being well known doesn't mean you'll have a smooth life. I was very well-known, and popular within a few cliques, but it's literally impossible to be well-liked in all groups.

If anything, you need to focus more on establishing your own confidence. People look up to those who are confident, and a lot of the time will look down on you if you are not confident, if they aren't simply ignoring you. And confidence isn't just about knowing you're smart and good looking - confidence is not needing someone else's approval to feel it.

Quote:

Originally Posted by I REALLY HATE POKEMON!

God, no offense, but someone has to tell you while you're still young; maybe the reason nobody wants to hang out with you is because of your attitude toward ugly, stupid, and, above all else, poor people.

Also, it's good to have self-confidence. However, you come off as arrogant and I am sure people pick-up on that, along with the desperation that you seem to exude, your need for popularity and acceptance.

I can agree with all of this, in part. It might sound like he's just being rude, but I read the same things in statements like "im never picked and have to be with some ugly and stupid person". You are being judgmental of your peers, and that more than anything will NOT win you friends.

People are people. Personally, I think they're all a little ugly and kind of stupid and definitely self-centered. I also tend to think stupid people can have moments of brilliance and ugly people tend to be ugly in part because I am viewing them through my personal bias. You should adjust your attitude for your own benefit- the people you're declaring stupid and ugly could end up being the only friends worth having in your class, considering that no one else is showing you any favor.

chibimod3 · 01-24-2009, 04:41 PM

Well as being the freshman bait I and moving to a new school in 8th its tough to get people to like you.

Advice to people of the same gender as you. If they are mean say, f*** off you stupid *i***. And the people who don't like them will like you. But only do this if they are a bigot to you first. If not, don't try this. If they are nice ask if they want to go hang out.

If its a dude. Don't act like a how 12 or 13 year old girl would. That could leave him saying things and starting rumors that you are a hoe and then you'll never get any friends. Just be calm and even if he's not cool its a friend. And most young men are extremly trusting.

By the by. Hoe (Hi, indian{feathers}) I am the Chibi. I almost never log on due to all the crap I do in school (Theatre, tennis, women, ect.) I'm a prodigy, slightly vain, and can be a peccimistic, narcisistic, bass turd. I also have bad spelling on things with c's that sound like s's.

01-10-2009, 06:17 PM	#1
The Spark Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: At the bottom of the shipping address list Gender: Posts: 1,743 Thanks: 156 Thanked 74 Times in 54 Posts	Has to do with friends and popularity Ok, so in school im pretty unliked. when its time to make groups with people, im never picked and have to be with someone I dont like . im decent looking, funny, and very smart. (the people in my school tend to judge people that way, so that is why i am implying that) so im wondering - wtf? im in middle school and im wondering how exactly to go from some outsider to a person that everybody knows who are. i mean, ive tried hanging out with people and trying to make new friends, but i keep getting the feeling of annoyance from the people i try to hang out with. i mean, i have guy friends, and i used to hang out with them during elementary. but now they only hang out with other guys, so im screwed there. also, this 'most popular' girl at school that everybody does know and likes alot that is so 'perfect' is always showing signs of friggin pity towards me! there's no reason for that. i mean, itd be one thing if i were ugly, or stupid, or poor (again talking about how they judge, I dont care either way). but im not any of those things!!! so again, what should i do? im a girl btw. Last edited by The Spark; 02-04-2009 at 10:00 PM.

01-10-2009, 07:12 PM	#5
The Spark Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: At the bottom of the shipping address list Gender: Posts: 1,743 Thanks: 156 Thanked 74 Times in 54 Posts	i apologize, i understand now. Last edited by The Spark; 02-04-2009 at 10:02 PM. Reason: I myself was in fact being douchey

01-10-2009, 07:34 PM	#7
I REALLY HATE POKEMON! Goku lives on the Sun Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: California, U.S.A Gender: Posts: 12,717 Thanks: 1,334 Thanked 275 Times in 234 Posts Blog Entries: 1	I just call it how I see it and, I really meant no offense. We're in a recession right now, I dunno if you understand that, but, many think that the recession has been in the making since 9/11 (at least from what I hear), which is really no fault of the people. No one, besides some hardcore conspiracy theorists that believe the government orchestrated it, seen this coming. Anyway, just don't try so hard and it'll work out probably. ...Tazy... >_< Last edited by I REALLY HATE POKEMON!; 01-10-2009 at 07:34 PM. Reason: Automerged Doublepost

01-10-2009, 07:49 PM	#9
Robotazy PRESS ANY KEY TO PANIC! Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: A Tiny Shed Gender: Posts: 16,483 Thanks: 529 Thanked 1,254 Times in 897 Posts Blog Entries: 46	I like making broad assumptions about people. Also, Gale is a redneck.

01-10-2009, 06:22 PM	#2
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,701 Times in 2,581 Posts Blog Entries: 20	Well, I used to be the same way pretty much. The best I could say is, just be yourself, and be cool to everyone. Don't get angry or begrudging, just be nice to people without really getting in their face. When it comes to making friends, go for people with interests like you. Don't try to get close with people just for the sake of being popular, but instead get close for the sake of having friends to be around. I mean, I'm not "popular" in school. I never have been, and I never will be (unless something spectacular happens before graduation), but I'm happy because I've got friends there, and that's good enough. As smarmy as "just be yourself" sounds, it's what will probably work out best for you in the long run.

01-10-2009, 06:37 PM	#3
The Spark Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: At the bottom of the shipping address list Gender: Posts: 1,743 Thanks: 156 Thanked 74 Times in 54 Posts	yeah, i meant friends really. i dont much believe in popularity, i just want friends. i mean, i do have friends. they just dont go to my school, or arent in my same grade. like Sam (girl). she was in my grade and we were best buds. plus, we had 5 classes together. but she moved to the next town over so we dont go to the same school anymore. Also, bri and alexis, who are a grade behind me and are in elementary school, not middle. so, im pretty much screwed.

01-10-2009, 06:44 PM	#4
I REALLY HATE POKEMON! Goku lives on the Sun Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: California, U.S.A Gender: Posts: 12,717 Thanks: 1,334 Thanked 275 Times in 234 Posts Blog Entries: 1	God, no offense, but someone has to tell you while you're still young; maybe the reason nobody wants to hang out with you is because of your attitude toward ugly, stupid, and, above all else, poor people. Also, it's good to have self-confidence. However, you come off as arrogant and I am sure people pick-up on that, along with the desperation that you seem to exude, your need for popularity and acceptance. Also, your gender is displayed. -_-

01-10-2009, 07:28 PM	#6
Robotazy PRESS ANY KEY TO PANIC! Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: A Tiny Shed Gender: Posts: 16,483 Thanks: 529 Thanked 1,254 Times in 897 Posts Blog Entries: 46	Oh, that's just IRHP, VGF's resident Douche and 3rd in Command Flamebait. The truth is that if they can't see you for who you really are, they aren't worth your time. They may even feed off your desperation. The One thing you need to learn is to never get too angry or sad from people who say negative things about you. Just smile and nod and you'll be able to get out of the hole these punks dig for free-thinkers. Also, stay at VGF. We will be your helpful guide for who is right and who is wrong (not really.) Also, hai [hi]. I am Tazy, VGF's resident Saiya-Jin [Those Guys on DBZ who powered up for 1 hour] and one of the top 50 ~~Spamming Asshats~~ Members [People addicted to the Internet].

01-10-2009, 07:36 PM	#8
The Spark Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: At the bottom of the shipping address list Gender: Posts: 1,743 Thanks: 156 Thanked 74 Times in 54 Posts	ok man. we coo', we coo'. ill do what i can.

01-10-2009, 08:01 PM	#10
I REALLY HATE POKEMON! Goku lives on the Sun Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: California, U.S.A Gender: Posts: 12,717 Thanks: 1,334 Thanked 275 Times in 234 Posts Blog Entries: 1	The one referring to me was more a declaration of fact vs an assumption based on personal observation. But I know you didn't mean it. ...right? RIGHT?!

01-11-2009, 12:26 PM	#11
LASER BEAR ASSAULT UNIT Videos Mod Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: In my pants Gender: Posts: 4,613 Thanks: 2,502 Thanked 767 Times in 422 Posts	Yo. Sup? Being attractive, funny and w/e else you listed doesn't get you friends in a snap, you also have to be good at conversation, ect, and be a generally likable person. In my boat I'm that guy who disrupts classes with silly remarks, who used to get into alot of fights (I'm trying to avoid that now since I'm growing up now + I have a busted leg, may I just add, I didn't start them >.>) and whom was eventually expelled from school for assaulting a teacher who made my friend cry. People loved me for these things, and these things alone, they didn't take their time to get to know me, or to care for me, yeah - I had alot of friends, but they weren't true friends, if I wasn't those things, they wouldn't of paid much attention to me. When I was on the news for saving my friend whom jumped into a river (which caused my busted leg.) I got alot of attention in college. But. It wasn't the attention I wanted, I just wanted the love, and good wishes of those who cared for me throughout it all... My real friends, those who took time to get to know me, and those who cared about me, those who'd die for me, and I'd die for them. The ones who wanted to get to know you, not cause you're the class clown or whatever, because they liked you for you, and nothing more. You can have alot of friends yes, but it leads to alot of arguements, or unhappiness. Or you can have a few close friends, the one you do everything together with, whether it be camping, having a massive piss up, playing video games, or getting arrested on suspicion of mischief. (which is still the best thing ever) TL;DR: Having close friends over many friends leads to alot more happiness. Be yourself, and you'll find these people. BTW; Greeting time. I'm glad to see you've joined VGF, and I hope you enjoy your stay here, the people on here arn't members as such, they are more like family, we are really close with one another, yeah we have idiots and the such, and we may act badly towards them, but still family. While I'm at it I may as well introduce myself, The name is Jacob, people call me Masa, Masahiro, Welsh Bastard, or You**ing**potyoujustmademelosethegamehiro, I'm the Anime and Cartoons mod around here, visit my forum anytime you see fit! Enjoy your stay!

01-11-2009, 08:53 PM	#12
The Spark Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: At the bottom of the shipping address list Gender: Posts: 1,743 Thanks: 156 Thanked 74 Times in 54 Posts	aight sounds cool. nice to meet you. well, i better be hitting the old... dusty trail. ttyl. thanks for the advice, too, btw.

01-11-2009, 11:43 PM	#13
I REALLY HATE POKEMON! Goku lives on the Sun Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: California, U.S.A Gender: Posts: 12,717 Thanks: 1,334 Thanked 275 Times in 234 Posts Blog Entries: 1	FAMILY GUY YEA

01-12-2009, 10:34 AM	#15
Jere Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Sutme Gender: Posts: 3,648 Thanks: 404 Thanked 331 Times in 256 Posts Blog Entries: 3	Well in ost cases it can be good to be yourself if you are not some evil bastard, but you dont appear to be that so take it just cool, then i have pretty much been in the same place you have been in, no body relay liked me and i hanged whit the people that treated me the least crappy. Then i moved when is started highschool at the age of 16 and started from zero, managed to get some really great friends, that are so tight that we if we needed move bodies for eachother. So in worst case cenario you might have to move to start to get along well, but i dont think you are like me that only does what i want to not what everybody tell me to do. But lets cut the crap and let me introduse myself Carl-Jörgen Jeremias is my whole name but here just call me Jere, living in the cold scandinavia in sweden, my family lives in the moutains and im currently living on the east coast in sundsvall where im studying. The people here is mostly nice some better some worse but overall we are nice chaps and birds. Nice to meet you

01-12-2009, 04:16 PM	#16
The Spark Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: At the bottom of the shipping address list Gender: Posts: 1,743 Thanks: 156 Thanked 74 Times in 54 Posts	nice to meet you too. also, E-123, i wasnt meaning to offend anybody. that is just how my school is. err..my school takes thatextremely. like, they dont care their personality or anything, they just think of the subjects said, ya know?

01-21-2009, 01:04 PM	#17
Manny Newbie Join Date: Jan 2009 Gender: Posts: 20 Thanks: 0 Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts	Get into a fight, beat the **** out of him/her, and make people respect you. I'm joking. Nice to meet you. When I moved to America, I had no friends, no nothing. The first day the teacher put me next to these jocks that loved to pick fights, so, I moved next this group of mexicans and I fit in pretty well, try moving somewhere else in class (unless you have assigned seats). Sit next to new people at lunch etc. I manadged to get some cool friends at my school, they got my back and we always help each other out, so I guess I'm lucky. You're in middle school, so the whole "join a sport team" stuff won't work, I joined the soccer team freshman year and I met some pretty nice people. Most people at my school are preppy little white kids (No racism intended) that only care about what you look like, what you wear, or how rich you are. If your pants aren't saggy, or if they aren't so tight on your legs, people think you're a fag, which is totally stupid (Yeah, I'm the fag for not wearing pants that show my ass to the world or squish my legs together, right My name is Manuel Josue Ramirez, but, you may call me Manny, nice to meet other people from diff backrounds.

01-21-2009, 04:14 PM	#18
Dizzy Podiaphobe Join Date: Oct 2007 Gender: Posts: 19,359 Thanks: 1,764 Thanked 1,162 Times in 805 Posts Blog Entries: 116	I'm the most popular person in my school. Why? Because I declare it so.

01-24-2009, 04:41 PM	#20
chibimod3 Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: The bottom of a Dr. Pepper bottle Gender: Posts: 497 Thanks: 52 Thanked 18 Times in 16 Posts	Well as being the freshman bait I and moving to a new school in 8th its tough to get people to like you. Advice to people of the same gender as you. If they are mean say, f*** off you stupid i**. And the people who don't like them will like you. But only do this if they are a bigot to you first. If not, don't try this. If they are nice ask if they want to go hang out. If its a dude. Don't act like a how 12 or 13 year old girl would. That could leave him saying things and starting rumors that you are a hoe and then you'll never get any friends. Just be calm and even if he's not cool its a friend. And most young men are extremly trusting. By the by. Hoe (Hi, indian{feathers}) I am the Chibi. I almost never log on due to all the crap I do in school (Theatre, tennis, women, ect.) I'm a prodigy, slightly vain, and can be a peccimistic, narcisistic, bass turd. I also have bad spelling on things with c's that sound like s's.