When your parents divorce

1-up salesman · 06-24-2008, 10:48 AM

Man, it's the worst feeling in the world.

Tazy_10 · 06-24-2008, 10:51 AM

Well, it's obvious that if said couple cannot get along, Divorce is usually neccesary.

It could be worse. Murder, or Affairs could've been used.

1-up salesman · 06-24-2008, 10:53 AM

Yeah, I guess you're right. But still, it's hard to get over.

MASALOBOTOMY · 06-24-2008, 06:10 PM

My parents divorced not so long ago, I know the feeling mon.

Dio Brando · 06-24-2008, 06:22 PM

It's weird though, it seems like the normal is to have your parents divorced, nowadays.

DarkZero · 06-24-2008, 06:30 PM

My parents were never married, thus, never divorced. In fact, I don't think I've ever seen my dad for my entire life. However, I think I know how you feel. It'll take some time to adjust, and in that time you may be feeling a bit akward at how your life is going. Just remember, this wasn't your fault. If you need to talk, you know where to find us.

Speed is just Speed · 06-24-2008, 07:25 PM

Not Cool man

Bartman101 · 06-24-2008, 08:57 PM

I never really had to grow up with that seeing as how I never met my biological father. But I kinda know the pain of what you're talking about.

1-up salesman · 06-24-2008, 09:43 PM

Yeah, it's hard to get used to things when your parents have been together for most of your life so far.

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[That was not appropriate. Please, try to be supportive rather than antagonistic. Thank you. ~ZG]

Thanks. Good thing I didn't see what it was.

Mikhail Gorbachev · 06-24-2008, 09:59 PM

For me divorce isn't bad. My parents are getting divorced soon. I see it as a good thing, actually. For me. Probably for both of them too. Both are horrible, dysfunctional people who are much worse together than alone. That is both to each other and to me.
Neither loves the other, in fact, they pretty much hate each other, and so do I. I have no idea how they've been married for 16 years. It's a completely negative and unstable. I don't see why they should stay together. All three of us would benefit from a divorce. I'd only have to put up with one, and neither of them would have to put up with the other. We'd all be happier.
Sometimes, it's just the right thing to do.

1-up salesman · 06-24-2008, 10:09 PM

Yeah, it can be better if they flat-out hate each other. But I've always really hoped that my parents would stay together, and it's really important to me.

***ZeldaGirl*** · 06-25-2008, 02:04 AM

It's funny, my parents have been divorced for so long, I can't even imagine if they were married. Honestly, like Mikhail said, sometimes it's better that way - my parents were horrible for each other. I have to consider my brother and I the only good products of that union; everything else was horrible. But, it's better now; and trust me, eventually, things will get better with time.

Dr. Furball · 06-27-2008, 02:50 AM

My mom's been divorced thrice, so, yeah, I know what it's like. Although the last time wasn't that bad, since there was some evidence that he was a gay pedophile. Seriously. Glad to see the guy go, myself.

***ZeldaGirl*** · 06-27-2008, 03:02 AM

^Yeah, wow, that would be a relief.

The Joker · 06-27-2008, 08:56 AM

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Originally Posted by ZeldaGirl

It's funny, my parents have been divorced for so long, I can't even imagine if they were married. Honestly, like Mikhail said, sometimes it's better that way - my parents were horrible for each other. I have to consider my brother and I the only good products of that union; everything else was horrible. But, it's better now; and trust me, eventually, things will get better with time.

^ Took the words right out of my mouth (GIVE THOSE BACK!!)

I was fortunate enough to not have my parents divorce until I was about 19yrs old so I didn't really get to have any regrets about my parents breaking up. If anything being that old allowed for me to see how mismatched they were and how much better it would be for them to live separate lives. If anything I would have wished my mom would have left my dad a few years earlier but things ended up working out just fine either way.

Like ZG said, time will eventually allow for things to work on a level that makes it feel normal again. No matter what goes on in a divorce or how much your parents distance themselves from each other, the most important thing to know is that you are not loved any different or less than when they were together. And with time you might find that both of your parents are happier, smile more and are willing to confide in you because they no longer have each other.

I'm married and I have a child and I can't imagine what my son would think or do if his mother and I separated. All that I know is that my son will always be loved, he will always have a mother and a father and he will always be our proudest moment together. Vincent is the greatest thing that ever happened to us and in him we are eternally married to each other. Just as in you, your parents will remain married as long as their blood courses and beats through your heart.

If you love your parents and you don’t want them to fight anymore and you want them to be happy even if it means that you will have to hurt and be sad for a time then give them your support. Be strong for them, because they will need your support just as much as you will need theirs. Believe me when I say that by stepping up to the plate now and helping them through this situation will make you stronger. It will help you when you have to face situations where giving up your own happiness is necessary to helping out some one else.

(damn I feel old now)

06-24-2008, 10:48 AM	#1
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06-24-2008, 10:51 AM	#2
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06-24-2008, 09:59 PM	#10
Mikhail Gorbachev Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2004 Gender: Posts: 9,593 Thanks: 30 Thanked 81 Times in 65 Posts Points: 418.54 Bank: 32,290.67 Total Points: 32,709.21 Donate	For me divorce isn't bad. My parents are getting divorced soon. I see it as a good thing, actually. For me. Probably for both of them too. Both are horrible, dysfunctional people who are much worse together than alone. That is both to each other and to me. Neither loves the other, in fact, they pretty much hate each other, and so do I. I have no idea how they've been married for 16 years. It's a completely negative and unstable. I don't see why they should stay together. All three of us would benefit from a divorce. I'd only have to put up with one, and neither of them would have to put up with the other. We'd all be happier. Sometimes, it's just the right thing to do.

06-24-2008, 10:09 PM	#11
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06-25-2008, 02:04 AM	#12
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06-27-2008, 02:50 AM	#13
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06-27-2008, 03:02 AM	#14
*ZeldaGirl* Venting SuperMod Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 12,081 Thanks: 514 Thanked 853 Times in 582 Posts Points: 29,299.69 Bank: 463,808.78 Total Points: 493,108.46 Donate	^Yeah, wow, that would be a relief.