Having no clear sense of direction

Zharen · 08-25-2009, 04:40 AM

So, I just been sitting here behind this computer screen, realizing that a third of my life is now over and I still haven't figured out what I want to do or what I'm really searching for in Life. I've always had this problem of over-analyzing things or looking for signs to lead me in the right path. Problem is, it's been almost 9 months since I've moved back home, and there hasn't been a single sign to show me what the Hell I'm supposed to do now. Perhaps it's a bit foolish to think that the clouds would suddenly part and a beam of light would shine down from the heavens leading me to my next venture or quest. Everyone keeps telling me to go back to school, but why the Hell do I want to be 30K in debt over a career choice that I am not certain of? Another part of me wants to keep waiting it out, hoping this recession has hit the brink and things will soon be back to normal, but I seriously doubt things will go back to the way they were. The old, trustworthy friends that I once had are now buried in relationships or starting families, and about 98% of the other people I met I just don't trust enough. And burying these thoughts with parties and drugs have gotten old (Though I've had lots of fun times with both). I want the next phase of my Life to happen already but I have no idea when, where or how that's going to be. Simply put, I'm lost and I'm alone. I've been that way for a while now. I don't even feel any fear or sadness about it anymore, just apathy and a general disregard for the human race.

Anyway, I'm not asking for any help, guidance or pity, I just wanted to get this out somewhere. Figure some obscure gaming message board would suit my purpose.

Kargath · 08-25-2009, 05:33 AM

My advice:
Build something.

Jere · 08-25-2009, 05:37 AM

My advice:
Get a hobby

***Ace Mercury*** · 08-25-2009, 06:58 AM

Ref:
Quarter-life crisis - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

You're not alone at being alone.

***Cosmonautical*** · 08-25-2009, 09:00 AM

Yeah, dude, I'm 26 and I've very roughly come to terms with life passing. Just get up and do what you want to do. Don't take no for an answer, kick everything's ass. You want to be an artist? Give it a shot. You want to be a DJ? ****ing do it. That's all there is to it. You don't have to be the best at anything, despite what your parents and school and tv have told you all your life. None of those people ever "win", and they're pushing their own unfulfillable aspirations onto you. Ignore it, watch a sunset, waste some time, that's what life is about. What else are you going to do when you're old and retired, anyway, if anyone ever gives you the chance?

Zharen · 08-25-2009, 07:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jere

My advice:
Get a hobby

I already have 3. Burying yourself with interesting things can only put your mind at ease for so long.

Zharen · 08-25-2009, 09:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MANLY RIPPLING MUSCLES

Yeah, dude, I'm 26 and I've very roughly come to terms with life passing. Just get up and do what you want to do. Don't take no for an answer, kick everything's ass. You want to be an artist? Give it a shot. You want to be a DJ? ****ing do it. That's all there is to it. You don't have to be the best at anything, despite what your parents and school and tv have told you all your life. None of those people ever "win", and they're pushing their own unfulfillable aspirations onto you. Ignore it, watch a sunset, waste some time, that's what life is about. What else are you going to do when you're old and retired, anyway, if anyone ever gives you the chance?

Eh, at least you got a loving wife. I remember when I first turned 21, I thought I was ready to deal with the responsibility of relationships and starting a family. I think a part of me is happy that I never got the chance to deal with that. Actually started doing things for myself rather than what parents or society were telling me I should do.

And lol @ quarter-life crisis. How often do you see people actually live to be a 100? Average life expectancy is 75. It should be called a third-life crisis because that's what it actually is. Appreciate the article link though.

***Ace Mercury*** · 08-25-2009, 09:47 PM

Half life crisis is in your forties. Your full life crisis (re: death) happens in your eighties. Quarter life crisis in your twenties sounds about right.

Average life expectancy at birth is sort of skewed pessimistically, due to infant mortality and whatnot. If you manage to get past that whole not being able to feed yourself part, it's not so bad.

08-25-2009, 04:40 AM	#1
Zharen Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Modesto, CA U.S. Gender: Posts: 7,085 Thanks: 21 Thanked 71 Times in 35 Posts	Having no clear sense of direction So, I just been sitting here behind this computer screen, realizing that a third of my life is now over and I still haven't figured out what I want to do or what I'm really searching for in Life. I've always had this problem of over-analyzing things or looking for signs to lead me in the right path. Problem is, it's been almost 9 months since I've moved back home, and there hasn't been a single sign to show me what the Hell I'm supposed to do now. Perhaps it's a bit foolish to think that the clouds would suddenly part and a beam of light would shine down from the heavens leading me to my next venture or quest. Everyone keeps telling me to go back to school, but why the Hell do I want to be 30K in debt over a career choice that I am not certain of? Another part of me wants to keep waiting it out, hoping this recession has hit the brink and things will soon be back to normal, but I seriously doubt things will go back to the way they were. The old, trustworthy friends that I once had are now buried in relationships or starting families, and about 98% of the other people I met I just don't trust enough. And burying these thoughts with parties and drugs have gotten old (Though I've had lots of fun times with both). I want the next phase of my Life to happen already but I have no idea when, where or how that's going to be. Simply put, I'm lost and I'm alone. I've been that way for a while now. I don't even feel any fear or sadness about it anymore, just apathy and a general disregard for the human race. Anyway, I'm not asking for any help, guidance or pity, I just wanted to get this out somewhere. Figure some obscure gaming message board would suit my purpose.

08-25-2009, 06:58 AM	#4
*Ace Mercury* Marshmallow Knight ☆ Supermod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Southern Ontario Gender: Posts: 23,275 Thanks: 568 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,582 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Love can mend your life but Love can break your heart Ref: Quarter-life crisis - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia You're not alone at being alone.

08-25-2009, 09:00 AM	#5
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,102 Thanks: 2,157 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	Yeah, dude, I'm 26 and I've very roughly come to terms with life passing. Just get up and do what you want to do. Don't take no for an answer, kick everything's ass. You want to be an artist? Give it a shot. You want to be a DJ? ***ing do it. That's all there is to it. You don't have to be the best at anything, despite what your parents and school and tv have told you all your life. None of those people ever "win", and they're pushing their own unfulfillable aspirations onto you. Ignore it, watch a sunset, waste some time, that's what life is about. What else are you going to do when you're old and retired, anyway, if anyone ever gives you the chance? Last edited by Cosmonautical; 08-25-2009 at 09:09 AM.*

08-25-2009, 05:33 AM	#2
Kargath et in Arcadia ego Join Date: Jul 2001 Gender: Posts: 8,334 Thanks: 1,226 Thanked 780 Times in 488 Posts	My advice: Build something.

08-25-2009, 05:37 AM	#3
Jere Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Sutme Gender: Posts: 3,650 Thanks: 404 Thanked 331 Times in 256 Posts Blog Entries: 3	My advice: Get a hobby

08-25-2009, 09:47 PM	#8
*Ace Mercury* Marshmallow Knight ☆ Supermod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Southern Ontario Gender: Posts: 23,275 Thanks: 568 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,582 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Half life crisis is in your forties. Your full life crisis (re: death) happens in your eighties. Quarter life crisis in your twenties sounds about right. Average life expectancy at birth is sort of skewed pessimistically, due to infant mortality and whatnot. If you manage to get past that whole not being able to feed yourself part, it's not so bad.