Dangling Conversations

Vapor · 06-10-2010, 03:11 PM

When you're talking with someone, 'specially with one for whom you care, and the conversation just degenerates into stuff that doesn't really matter and feels awkward and isn't at all satisfying. Like the Simon and Garfunkel song.

**Valigarmander** · 06-10-2010, 03:40 PM

I have this female friend that I talk to occasionally, and every time we talk our conversations end up being about weird, sexual stuff.

Does that count?

Valentine · 06-10-2010, 03:42 PM

I personally enjoy shooting the breeze with people I know. If a conversation with someone you know gets awkward its likely because there's something you want to say or something you want to ask. Say what you have to say, ask what you have to ask and you'll find that these moments with a friend will slingshot from awkward to enjoyable and satisfying.

**Galefore** · 06-10-2010, 04:40 PM

Ditto, Vapor. Though it is a known fact that men get much less articulate when talking with women they find attractive or they have a huge emotional investment in, especially early on in the friendship. In terms of just regular chats with either non-female friends or female friends you don't consider viable, if they get awkward it's likely for the reasons Stuman listed, or just because there isn't anything really uber-important to say.

Metal Man · 06-10-2010, 11:14 PM

I have this problem quite a bit, regardless of who it is. Often times I start rambling and eventually lose the conversation, then crash somewhere off-road where I'm discussing about metaphysical reality things while everyone else has fallen asleep.

Kil'jaeden · 06-11-2010, 08:46 AM

^That sounds a lot like me.

Panfan · 06-11-2010, 11:51 AM

"lol" and "k" are conversation cancers. And the people who send just those know it.

***Ace Mercury*** · 06-11-2010, 07:40 PM

The international sign of "this conversation is over" is to repeat back what the previous person said.

***CaptHayfever*** · 06-12-2010, 12:18 AM

^Agreed, that is so annoying. Which is why I had a very hard time believing the professor who was trying to tell me that repeating things back is supposed to be a method of "receptive listening".

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

06-10-2010, 03:11 PM	#1
Vapor Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: WHERE IT'S AT Gender: Posts: 5,211 Thanks: 314 Thanked 413 Times in 249 Posts	Dangling Conversations When you're talking with someone, 'specially with one for whom you care, and the conversation just degenerates into stuff that doesn't really matter and feels awkward and isn't at all satisfying. Like the Simon and Garfunkel song.

06-10-2010, 03:40 PM	#2
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,701 Times in 2,581 Posts Blog Entries: 20	I have this female friend that I talk to occasionally, and every time we talk our conversations end up being about weird, sexual stuff. Does that count?

06-10-2010, 03:42 PM	#3
Valentine Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Suppin' Earl Grey Gender: Posts: 7,308 Thanks: 74 Thanked 149 Times in 103 Posts Blog Entries: 3	I personally enjoy shooting the breeze with people I know. If a conversation with someone you know gets awkward its likely because there's something you want to say or something you want to ask. Say what you have to say, ask what you have to ask and you'll find that these moments with a friend will slingshot from awkward to enjoyable and satisfying.

06-10-2010, 04:40 PM	#4
Galefore EXPLOSION GOD OF MUSIC Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Some studio somewhere Gender: Posts: 8,275 Thanks: 1,361 Thanked 826 Times in 535 Posts Blog Entries: 5	Ditto, Vapor. Though it is a known fact that men get much less articulate when talking with women they find attractive or they have a huge emotional investment in, especially early on in the friendship. In terms of just regular chats with either non-female friends or female friends you don't consider viable, if they get awkward it's likely for the reasons Stuman listed, or just because there isn't anything really uber-important to say.

06-10-2010, 11:14 PM	#5
Metal Man Fairy-Slaying Maniac Join Date: Apr 2000 Location: 1592 Miles Away From Here Gender: Posts: 18,062 Thanks: 148 Thanked 683 Times in 482 Posts	I have this problem quite a bit, regardless of who it is. Often times I start rambling and eventually lose the conversation, then crash somewhere off-road where I'm discussing about metaphysical reality things while everyone else has fallen asleep.

06-11-2010, 08:46 AM	#6
Kil'jaeden Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: in your mind Gender: Posts: 2,134 Thanks: 21 Thanked 146 Times in 99 Posts	^That sounds a lot like me.

06-11-2010, 11:51 AM	#7
Panfan AND HE PRAYS Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Grayskull Gender: Posts: 18,806 Thanks: 1,405 Thanked 2,251 Times in 1,339 Posts Blog Entries: 15	"lol" and "k" are conversation cancers. And the people who send just those know it.

06-11-2010, 07:40 PM	#8
*Ace Mercury* Marshmallow Knight ☆ Supermod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Southern Ontario Gender: Posts: 23,275 Thanks: 568 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,582 Posts Blog Entries: 1	The international sign of "this conversation is over" is to repeat back what the previous person said.

06-12-2010, 12:18 AM	#9
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,661 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	^Agreed, that is so annoying. Which is why I had a very hard time believing the professor who was trying to tell me that repeating things back is supposed to be a method of "receptive listening". And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"