Really need to vent

Systasis · 03-19-2011, 06:29 PM

I have a story that i just need to vent about.

Me and my bestfriend used to hangout almost every weekend. We always did the same routine- chill for 10 minutes, go to walgreens to get our fuel for the night, and stay up until 5 a.m. playing video games. Of course we woud do other stuff like go to the baseball field and hang out with our other friends and do crazy, semi-illegal stuff (in which i would not like to elaborate).

Then things just kinda slowed down. We havent hung out in weeks, and he sounds a bit annoyed when i text him (but thats just how i'm percieving it). He cancels plans too. I just feel like...i don't even know, because i told him everything, and we hung out a lot, etc. I never really hang out with anyone else outside of school.. Sorry if i sound whiny, gay, etc. (Which leads me to point out- No, I'm not gay)

Random User · 03-19-2011, 06:46 PM

Can you think of anything you might have done to offend him? Or perhaps something tragic happened to your friend? It sounds like your friend might be sad about something, ask him how he's doing and see what he says. If he tells you he's sad or down, let him know you're there for him.

Also, don't worry about being gay. There's nothing wrong with it, honestly.

Systasis · 03-19-2011, 07:09 PM

I honestly can't think of anything i could've done or anything that's happened to him. We're like brothers, and we tell each other anything and everything. Since he's like the only person i hang out with outside of school, i believe i get a little clingy sometimes... Probably because I'm not really open to hanging out with other people. I have a bunch friends at my school i just don't hangout with them.

I REALLY HATE POKEMON! · 03-19-2011, 07:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Systasis

Sorry if i sound whiny, gay, etc. (Which leads me to point out- No, I'm not gay)

Actually, as I read your initial post, I came to the conclusion that you were a chick by the way you were talking.

You might be freaking him out, so you should take a step back and just see him when you see him.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 03-19-2011, 09:19 PM

^ Yeah, but your ability to read people is questionable already, IRHP.

Welcome Systasis. To me, it sounds like your friend might just be "growing up"; that's not nearly as condescending as it sounds, I just mean that people go through times where they need a bit of change in their life. If that means that he's not hanging out with you as much, that can be hurtful to you, but the only thing you can do is talk to him. I know that guys don't usually have meaningful discussions on their feelings, but if you could let your friend know that you're missing him, maybe ask if something's up, if things have changed or if he wants to hang out but do different things.

If you don't talk to him, you won't know what's going on. I can see that you don't want to come off as too needy to him, but if this is a longstanding tradition between you, it's fair to say that it's a big deal to just stop hanging out together. Good luck, man.

ZeldaGirl · 03-19-2011, 10:32 PM

I echo SD's welcome, and advice (she's a good one, trust her). I hope that you can resolve this. Good luck!

CuccoLady · 03-19-2011, 11:04 PM

Welcome to VGF! :{D

I, too, support SD's advice. You need to talk to him if you want to what's going on. I hope for the best when you do, and we're here to support you if things don't go well.

Best of luck!

I REALLY HATE POKEMON! · 03-23-2011, 07:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds

^ Yeah, but your ability to read people is questionable already, IRHP.

I guess the proof is in the pudding; he wasn't female.

***CaptHayfever*** · 03-24-2011, 01:36 AM

You might not wanna eat that pudding.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

03-19-2011, 06:29 PM	#1
Systasis Newbie Join Date: Mar 2011 Gender: Posts: 2 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Really need to vent I have a story that i just need to vent about. Me and my bestfriend used to hangout almost every weekend. We always did the same routine- chill for 10 minutes, go to walgreens to get our fuel for the night, and stay up until 5 a.m. playing video games. Of course we woud do other stuff like go to the baseball field and hang out with our other friends and do crazy, semi-illegal stuff (in which i would not like to elaborate). Then things just kinda slowed down. We havent hung out in weeks, and he sounds a bit annoyed when i text him (but thats just how i'm percieving it). He cancels plans too. I just feel like...i don't even know, because i told him everything, and we hung out a lot, etc. I never really hang out with anyone else outside of school.. Sorry if i sound whiny, gay, etc. (Which leads me to point out- No, I'm not gay)

03-19-2011, 06:46 PM	#2
Random User Senior Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Equestrian Republic of Spanglidesh Gender: Posts: 3,562 Thanks: 321 Thanked 195 Times in 143 Posts Blog Entries: 4	Can you think of anything you might have done to offend him? Or perhaps something tragic happened to your friend? It sounds like your friend might be sad about something, ask him how he's doing and see what he says. If he tells you he's sad or down, let him know you're there for him. Also, don't worry about being gay. There's nothing wrong with it, honestly.

03-19-2011, 07:09 PM	#3
Systasis Newbie Join Date: Mar 2011 Gender: Posts: 2 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	I honestly can't think of anything i could've done or anything that's happened to him. We're like brothers, and we tell each other anything and everything. Since he's like the only person i hang out with outside of school, i believe i get a little clingy sometimes... Probably because I'm not really open to hanging out with other people. I have a bunch friends at my school i just don't hangout with them.

03-19-2011, 09:19 PM	#5
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	^ Yeah, but your ability to read people is questionable already, IRHP. Welcome Systasis. To me, it sounds like your friend might just be "growing up"; that's not nearly as condescending as it sounds, I just mean that people go through times where they need a bit of change in their life. If that means that he's not hanging out with you as much, that can be hurtful to you, but the only thing you can do is talk to him. I know that guys don't usually have meaningful discussions on their feelings, but if you could let your friend know that you're missing him, maybe ask if something's up, if things have changed or if he wants to hang out but do different things. If you don't talk to him, you won't know what's going on. I can see that you don't want to come off as too needy to him, but if this is a longstanding tradition between you, it's fair to say that it's a big deal to just stop hanging out together. Good luck, man.

03-19-2011, 10:32 PM	#6
ZeldaGirl Awesome member Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 15,896 Thanks: 1,130 Thanked 1,919 Times in 1,046 Posts	I echo SD's welcome, and advice (she's a good one, trust her). I hope that you can resolve this. Good luck!

03-19-2011, 11:04 PM	#7
CuccoLady Anime and Cartoons Mod Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: THIS LOCATION REMINDS ME OF A PUZZLE, LUKE Gender: Posts: 9,077 Thanks: 2,825 Thanked 1,222 Times in 822 Posts	Welcome to VGF! :{D I, too, support SD's advice. You need to talk to him if you want to what's going on. I hope for the best when you do, and we're here to support you if things don't go well. Best of luck!

03-24-2011, 01:36 AM	#9
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,661 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	You might not wanna eat that pudding. And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"