My sister...

**Booyakasha** · 02-20-2008, 09:31 AM

...just told me she's pregnant. With bastard.

I'm so sad for her, so disappointed in her and for her, that I can hardly see straight. It's going to break my mother's heart, I'll tell you that for free. Goddamn mess this is. I don't know how the hell the family's going to cope--I'll likely have to drop school again.

Stupid, irresponsible girl.

STOP LOOKING AT ME · 02-20-2008, 09:53 AM

How old is she?

Just asking.

Blake · 02-20-2008, 12:06 PM

Well I just want to say you shouldn't have to drop out of school. This is your daughter's problem, not yours. For as selfish as it may sound, you should not accounted for your sisters mistakes.

I somewhat have this kind of problem. I seem to let others drag me down at times. Like my cousins a few years ago needed a ride to school every single day, and sometimes I even drove them to work.

Thought that's nothing near to your situation, I think it applies to your situation as well. If it's going to affect your life dramatically, don't let it. There's only so much one person can do. It's better to have one person down in the slums than two people.

Though perhaps I should hear more about why you'll have to drop school before continuing on. If it's regards to your sister, she should have to drop out (hopefully she's in college) and delay her education instead of yours. Unless it has something to do with your parents that you'll have to drop out of school.

But I wish you luck nonetheless.

**Crazyswordsman** · 02-20-2008, 12:42 PM

Don't drop out of school. Try to help her in any way you can, but you have to focus on your own life financially. If there's anything to do, try to take her out and cheer her up.

How long ago did she get pregnant? -CSM

DELICIOUS POISON · 02-20-2008, 12:51 PM

Damn, Boo, I'm sorry to hear that.

...Don't jump in too deep.

**Booyakasha** · 02-20-2008, 01:00 PM

Month and a half ago. Dunno if she's even keeping it, to be honest--she and Ma both skew well liberal.

Heat of the moment in that earlier post. I was venting, more than a little messed up by the whole thing. I don't honestly see dropping out, now I think of it.

***ZeldaGirl*** · 02-20-2008, 01:01 PM

Well, I'm glad you're not dropping school, and I'm sorry for the news. Hopefully, she will be able to work everything out.

* ZeldaGirl give Boo hugs.

**Crazyswordsman** · 02-20-2008, 01:22 PM

Well, if she wants an abortion, that's her decision. -CSM

**Dr. Horrible** · 02-20-2008, 03:12 PM

^Well, depending on her age and where she lives, her parents might have a say in it too.

I'm sorry to hear that, though, Boo. The same thing happened to someone very close to me. Whether she keeps it or not, she'll have a burden to carry that time will lighten, but not erase. Don't drop out of school though. I'm sure she doesn't want to feel responsible for that as well. Your family is likely to be alright after the shock dies down, though.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 02-20-2008, 08:20 PM

It's okay, Boo. I understand how stressful an unexpected pregnancy can be on the entire immediate family, and that you will feel a sense of responsibility. Just remember, with a mistake like that over her head, your sister will need your love and support more than ever. Even if you're angry and disappointed in her behaviour, she's your sister first. *hugs tight*

Don't forget, VGF is always here to offer terrible innertubes advice!

Chop Chop Master Onion · 02-20-2008, 08:49 PM

Christ, Boo, I'm sorry. I hope it all turns out okay. And it's a good thing you aren't dropping school, you need that.

Not much I can tell you as far as experience, but let us know what happens and know we're keeping you and your family in our thoughts

**Booyakasha** · 02-20-2008, 09:24 PM

Hoo boy.

First and foremost, thanks for bearing with me and 'being there', everyone. It's been a hell of a day.

Had a sitdown with Sister early this afternoon, and it cleared the air a touch.
1. She's keeping the kid, assuming it comes to term.
2. Father isn't one of the unemployable drug-addled pissants that make up most of her old clique, but rather a 'respectable' sort with a good career and a kid. (Also seven years her senior, but ehh.)
3. She and the father have known each other forever and are in a romantic relationship (i.e. not a one-night stand).
4. Sister is definitely moving out, to be fully supported by the father. I have to keep the damn cat, though.
5. "Hey, look on the bright side, you're going to be an uncle!" (Also, I'll have weird familial connections to most of the aforementioned druggie scum, to whom the father is distantly related. So, hallelujahs all around, then.)

Then I talked with Ma. She was disappointed and all of that, but decidedly cool.

So. There it is.

**Dr. Horrible** · 02-20-2008, 09:33 PM

Seems like things are going pretty well, as far as unplanned pregnancies go. I'm glad to hear it.

Do...do you have pictures of the kitty?

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 02-20-2008, 09:33 PM

That's really great, Boo. I'm glad things are smoother with your sister after having a talk

**Booyakasha** · 02-20-2008, 09:47 PM

^^No pics. She's a Siamese mix--looks like the real thing, but with white socks. (Siamese vocal chords, that's for damn sure. Big-time yowler.) I have to keep her because she's fifteen and a bit mental--plus, there's the old thing about how handling litter can screw up your unborn child.

**Dr. Horrible** · 02-20-2008, 09:49 PM

Oh yeah, I just heard about that litter thing for the first time recently. Means I'll have to clean after my fiancee's kitties when the time comes.

Chop Chop Master Onion · 02-20-2008, 10:28 PM

Huh, sounds pretty good. Glad to hear, Boo.

**Wyborn** · 02-20-2008, 10:29 PM

Looks like I missed the whole thing.

Good to hear she's got plans for supporting the kid, and she's with a guy who has previously been shown capable of doing that sort of thing.

I can understand why you freaked out, though. Christ, if my sister came home pregnant? I'd end up in jail.

**Booyakasha** · 02-20-2008, 10:51 PM

Heh. I'll let all of you clever folks figure out why I'm giggling immaturely over the last paragraph in Wy's post.

Thanks again for your kind counsel, O my brothers. Hopefully everything'll be back on the bright now.

**Wyborn** · 02-20-2008, 10:55 PM

I hate you Boo.

I hope you get pregnant.

02-20-2008, 09:31 AM	#1
Booyakasha Mod of War Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Wisconsinland Gender: Posts: 7,129 Thanks: 92 Thanked 524 Times in 288 Posts Points: 17,028.71 Bank: 55,546.50 Total Points: 72,575.21 Donate	My sister... ...just told me she's pregnant. With bastard. I'm so sad for her, so disappointed in her and for her, that I can hardly see straight. It's going to break my mother's heart, I'll tell you that for free. Goddamn mess this is. I don't know how the hell the family's going to cope--I'll likely have to drop school again. Stupid, irresponsible girl. __________________ Boo--beware, he lives

02-20-2008, 01:00 PM	#6
Booyakasha Mod of War Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Wisconsinland Gender: Posts: 7,129 Thanks: 92 Thanked 524 Times in 288 Posts Points: 17,028.71 Bank: 55,546.50 Total Points: 72,575.21 Donate	Month and a half ago. Dunno if she's even keeping it, to be honest--she and Ma both skew well liberal. Heat of the moment in that earlier post. I was venting, more than a little messed up by the whole thing. I don't honestly see dropping out, now I think of it. __________________ Boo--beware, he lives

02-20-2008, 09:24 PM	#12
Booyakasha Mod of War Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Wisconsinland Gender: Posts: 7,129 Thanks: 92 Thanked 524 Times in 288 Posts Points: 17,028.71 Bank: 55,546.50 Total Points: 72,575.21 Donate	Hoo boy. First and foremost, thanks for bearing with me and 'being there', everyone. It's been a hell of a day. Had a sitdown with Sister early this afternoon, and it cleared the air a touch. 1. She's keeping the kid, assuming it comes to term. 2. Father isn't one of the unemployable drug-addled pissants that make up most of her old clique, but rather a 'respectable' sort with a good career and a kid. (Also seven years her senior, but ehh.) 3. She and the father have known each other forever and are in a romantic relationship (i.e. not a one-night stand). 4. Sister is definitely moving out, to be fully supported by the father. I have to keep the damn cat, though. 5. "Hey, look on the bright side, you're going to be an uncle!" (Also, I'll have weird familial connections to most of the aforementioned druggie scum, to whom the father is distantly related. So, hallelujahs all around, then.) Then I talked with Ma. She was disappointed and all of that, but decidedly cool. So. There it is. __________________ Boo--beware, he lives

02-20-2008, 09:47 PM	#15
Booyakasha Mod of War Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Wisconsinland Gender: Posts: 7,129 Thanks: 92 Thanked 524 Times in 288 Posts Points: 17,028.71 Bank: 55,546.50 Total Points: 72,575.21 Donate	^^No pics. She's a Siamese mix--looks like the real thing, but with white socks. (Siamese vocal chords, that's for damn sure. Big-time yowler.) I have to keep her because she's fifteen and a bit mental--plus, there's the old thing about how handling litter can screw up your unborn child. __________________ Boo--beware, he lives

02-20-2008, 10:51 PM	#19
Booyakasha Mod of War Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Wisconsinland Gender: Posts: 7,129 Thanks: 92 Thanked 524 Times in 288 Posts Points: 17,028.71 Bank: 55,546.50 Total Points: 72,575.21 Donate	Heh. I'll let all of you clever folks figure out why I'm giggling immaturely over the last paragraph in Wy's post. Thanks again for your kind counsel, O my brothers. Hopefully everything'll be back on the bright now. __________________ Boo--beware, he lives

02-20-2008, 09:53 AM	#2
STOP LOOKING AT ME Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: YOU SAID THAT YOU KNEW ME AND I BELIEVED YOU DID Gender: Posts: 9,247 Thanks: 267 Thanked 579 Times in 425 Posts Blog Entries: 7 Points: 6,556.14 Bank: 74,653.97 Total Points: 81,210.10 Donate	How old is she? Just asking.

02-20-2008, 12:06 PM	#3
Blake Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: A generic place such as a house Gender: Posts: 3,853 Thanks: 513 Thanked 135 Times in 104 Posts Points: 284.33 Bank: 51,125.67 Total Points: 51,410.00 Donate	Well I just want to say you shouldn't have to drop out of school. This is your daughter's problem, not yours. For as selfish as it may sound, you should not accounted for your sisters mistakes. I somewhat have this kind of problem. I seem to let others drag me down at times. Like my cousins a few years ago needed a ride to school every single day, and sometimes I even drove them to work. Thought that's nothing near to your situation, I think it applies to your situation as well. If it's going to affect your life dramatically, don't let it. There's only so much one person can do. It's better to have one person down in the slums than two people. Though perhaps I should hear more about why you'll have to drop school before continuing on. If it's regards to your sister, she should have to drop out (hopefully she's in college) and delay her education instead of yours. Unless it has something to do with your parents that you'll have to drop out of school. But I wish you luck nonetheless.

02-20-2008, 12:42 PM	#4
Crazyswordsman RPG Mod Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Booyaville (yeah!) Gender: Posts: 8,578 Thanks: 633 Thanked 468 Times in 310 Posts Points: 166,850.08 Bank: 77,775.54 Total Points: 244,625.62 Donate	Don't drop out of school. Try to help her in any way you can, but you have to focus on your own life financially. If there's anything to do, try to take her out and cheer her up. How long ago did she get pregnant? -CSM

02-20-2008, 12:51 PM	#5
DELICIOUS POISON Retro Nintendo Supermod Art & Literature Mod Metroid Mod Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 16,925 Thanks: 579 Thanked 1,777 Times in 873 Posts Points: 17,903.57 Bank: 4,848,504.55 Total Points: 4,866,408.12 Donate	Damn, Boo, I'm sorry to hear that. ...Don't jump in too deep.

02-20-2008, 01:01 PM	#7
*ZeldaGirl* Venting SuperMod Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Why do YOU want to know...? Gender: Posts: 12,594 Thanks: 573 Thanked 962 Times in 648 Posts Points: 39,788.84 Bank: 909,378.75 Total Points: 949,167.59 Donate	Well, I'm glad you're not dropping school, and I'm sorry for the news. Hopefully, she will be able to work everything out. * ZeldaGirl give Boo hugs.

02-20-2008, 01:22 PM	#8
Crazyswordsman RPG Mod Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Booyaville (yeah!) Gender: Posts: 8,578 Thanks: 633 Thanked 468 Times in 310 Posts Points: 166,850.08 Bank: 77,775.54 Total Points: 244,625.62 Donate	Well, if she wants an abortion, that's her decision. -CSM

02-20-2008, 03:12 PM	#9
Dr. Horrible PP&R Mod Current Events Mod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: More important than where is when.... Gender: Posts: 6,786 Thanks: 137 Thanked 477 Times in 309 Posts Points: 6,574.28 Bank: 5,568,857.78 Total Points: 5,575,432.06 Donate	^Well, depending on her age and where she lives, her parents might have a say in it too. I'm sorry to hear that, though, Boo. The same thing happened to someone very close to me. Whether she keeps it or not, she'll have a burden to carry that time will lighten, but not erase. Don't drop out of school though. I'm sure she doesn't want to feel responsible for that as well. Your family is likely to be alright after the shock dies down, though.

02-20-2008, 08:20 PM	#10
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 24,315 Thanks: 450 Thanked 703 Times in 455 Posts Points: 30,508.18 Bank: 392,666.43 Total Points: 423,174.62 Donate	It's okay, Boo. I understand how stressful an unexpected pregnancy can be on the entire immediate family, and that you will feel a sense of responsibility. Just remember, with a mistake like that over her head, your sister will need your love and support more than ever. Even if you're angry and disappointed in her behaviour, she's your sister first. hugs tight Don't forget, VGF is always here to offer terrible innertubes advice!

02-20-2008, 08:49 PM	#11
Chop Chop Master Onion KICK, PUNCH, IT'S ALL IN YOUR MIND Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Either UN's bed or Andre's bed. Gender: Posts: 13,957 Thanks: 981 Thanked 1,691 Times in 809 Posts Points: 265.98 Bank: 122,690.75 Total Points: 122,956.73 Donate	Christ, Boo, I'm sorry. I hope it all turns out okay. And it's a good thing you aren't dropping school, you need that. Not much I can tell you as far as experience, but let us know what happens and know we're keeping you and your family in our thoughts

02-20-2008, 09:33 PM	#13
Dr. Horrible PP&R Mod Current Events Mod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: More important than where is when.... Gender: Posts: 6,786 Thanks: 137 Thanked 477 Times in 309 Posts Points: 6,574.28 Bank: 5,568,857.78 Total Points: 5,575,432.06 Donate	Seems like things are going pretty well, as far as unplanned pregnancies go. I'm glad to hear it. Do...do you have pictures of the kitty?

02-20-2008, 09:49 PM	#16
Dr. Horrible PP&R Mod Current Events Mod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: More important than where is when.... Gender: Posts: 6,786 Thanks: 137 Thanked 477 Times in 309 Posts Points: 6,574.28 Bank: 5,568,857.78 Total Points: 5,575,432.06 Donate	Oh yeah, I just heard about that litter thing for the first time recently. Means I'll have to clean after my fiancee's kitties when the time comes.

02-20-2008, 10:28 PM	#17
Chop Chop Master Onion KICK, PUNCH, IT'S ALL IN YOUR MIND Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Either UN's bed or Andre's bed. Gender: Posts: 13,957 Thanks: 981 Thanked 1,691 Times in 809 Posts Points: 265.98 Bank: 122,690.75 Total Points: 122,956.73 Donate	Huh, sounds pretty good. Glad to hear, Boo.

02-20-2008, 10:29 PM	#18
Wyborn Zelda Mod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: All over the place Gender: Posts: 12,333 Thanks: 86 Thanked 456 Times in 274 Posts Points: 21,273.80 Bank: 88,927.77 Total Points: 110,201.57 Donate	Looks like I missed the whole thing. Good to hear she's got plans for supporting the kid, and she's with a guy who has previously been shown capable of doing that sort of thing. I can understand why you freaked out, though. Christ, if my sister came home pregnant? I'd end up in jail.

02-20-2008, 10:55 PM	#20
Wyborn Zelda Mod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: All over the place Gender: Posts: 12,333 Thanks: 86 Thanked 456 Times in 274 Posts Points: 21,273.80 Bank: 88,927.77 Total Points: 110,201.57 Donate	I hate you Boo. I hope you get pregnant.