I'm going to need help on this.

**L007 is Cooler than Dylan** · 06-19-2008, 10:50 PM

As some of you guys know by now, I have had suicidal thoughts in the past. And shortly afterward, I alerted my friends about this since, well, it's only right to let them know so I can stay safe, to seem as non-egotistic as possible. Now, unfortunately, what I didn't tell them was I... did in fact have suicidal thoughts recently. In fact, the last time was one and a half months ago. Now, luckily for me, I was able to bring the thought of betraying so many people with my own death would pretty much suck, so I staved it off. However, I still feel like something is wrong. Like I need to come completely clean with the three.

So, here's my situation. Should I really tell them that it was, in fact, recently that I did have suicidal thoughts? I know the answer is "HELL YES", but the thing that's holding me back is how they will react. In fact, worst case scenario is that they will see me differently. Instead of the loud mouthed persistent yet good hearted guy that I show, they'll see a person struggling through life with great difficulty. Pessimistic, yes, but that's how my mind works. If it isn't romance I'm thinking of, I'm going to be pretty pessimistic about situations, including involving the three people that have kept me running at full speed.

It's too much for me to think any more about it right now. I just hope I can have an epiphone of some sort in my dreams soon.

Bomby · 06-19-2008, 10:56 PM

Admitting that everything isn't okay is a difficult thing to do, but it has to be done. They may see you a bit differently, but if they're true friends, they will support you just the same and be glad that you told them, even if it does hurt them to know that you're feeling that way.

***ZeldaGirl*** · 06-19-2008, 11:36 PM

^Exactly what Bomby said. They're you're friends, they will likely want to lend you whatever support they can. Just trust them to help you. And know that we're always here for you, too.

DarkZero · 06-20-2008, 06:34 AM

Their reaction only means that they care about you. They would want to give you help.

On the other hand, keeping things to yourself can also be a good way to vent. I know it sounds strange, but it works for me. Whatever you decide to do, we'll support you.

Blake · 06-20-2008, 01:13 PM

Hmm, I hope this doesn't come off as mean, but I'm thinking there's a better way and a not as good way to tell them how you feel.

The not as good way would be to completely drag yourself down as well as them to help you in your situation. There isn't necessarily wrong with falling down to such a low level, but I wouldn't recommend feeling this way and acting this way all the time in front of your friends. If you become too needy, your friends may not be able to keep up with you and may not be as supportive.

On the other hand, the better solution I'm thinking that you can handle this is to tell them your problems and converse with them to find a solution to getting your mind off such thoughts. Perhaps something like "You know guys I've been feeling down again, but maybe we go out and do something I can get my mind off those things." I'm thinking that if you express your recent thoughts and show initiative as well as motivation that you can overcome this with just a little help from your friends they may be much more willing to support you and won't feel they are carrying a burden themselves.

Anyway, sorry if that post came off the wrong way. I'm hoping I didn't cross the line and make judgments or anything of that matter since I obviously don't know you. Lol, and sorry if it sounds like lecture.

The main idea I'm trying to convey is aim for showing them you have initiative to overcome your depressive thoughts and they should be much more willing and accepting.

**Kargath** · 06-20-2008, 10:29 PM

[Bloody hell. It's times like this that make me frustrated I can't comment on anything involving health in 'public'...]

***CaptHayfever*** · 06-20-2008, 11:33 PM

^Wait, what? Why would they restrict that? Is socio-medical advice now classified governmental information in Australia?

I wouldn't proclaim it to a group of people or anything, L007, but I might tell them in personal conversations.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

**Kargath** · 06-21-2008, 12:56 AM

[It's due to the particular area of Government I work in. Plus we have a publicly-run health system.]

06-19-2008, 10:50 PM	#1
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06-19-2008, 10:56 PM	#2
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06-19-2008, 11:36 PM	#3
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06-20-2008, 06:34 AM	#4
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06-20-2008, 01:13 PM	#5
Blake Senior Member Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: A generic place such as a house Gender: Posts: 3,620 Thanks: 451 Thanked 121 Times in 92 Posts Points: 1,228.81 Bank: 32,109.93 Total Points: 33,338.74 Donate	Hmm, I hope this doesn't come off as mean, but I'm thinking there's a better way and a not as good way to tell them how you feel. The not as good way would be to completely drag yourself down as well as them to help you in your situation. There isn't necessarily wrong with falling down to such a low level, but I wouldn't recommend feeling this way and acting this way all the time in front of your friends. If you become too needy, your friends may not be able to keep up with you and may not be as supportive. On the other hand, the better solution I'm thinking that you can handle this is to tell them your problems and converse with them to find a solution to getting your mind off such thoughts. Perhaps something like "You know guys I've been feeling down again, but maybe we go out and do something I can get my mind off those things." I'm thinking that if you express your recent thoughts and show initiative as well as motivation that you can overcome this with just a little help from your friends they may be much more willing to support you and won't feel they are carrying a burden themselves. Anyway, sorry if that post came off the wrong way. I'm hoping I didn't cross the line and make judgments or anything of that matter since I obviously don't know you. Lol, and sorry if it sounds like lecture. The main idea I'm trying to convey is aim for showing them you have initiative to overcome your depressive thoughts and they should be much more willing and accepting.

06-20-2008, 10:29 PM	#6
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06-20-2008, 11:33 PM	#7
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06-21-2008, 12:56 AM	#8
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