A question to all

**Loot** · 07-05-2009, 08:54 AM

Is there ever a time appropriate to break your best friend's trust, perhaps even reaching an irreparable point?

Microphone_Kirby · 07-05-2009, 12:00 PM

... Interesting question. Has your friend:

Stolen Something greatly Valuable?
Killed or Raped someone?
Hurt a member of your family?
Had (or is having) an affair?
Any combination of these???

If so, then I can see your moral dilemma... maybe.

If he hurt your family for his own pleasure, then you better tell someone who can bust his ass!!! >:[
If he's some silly thief, then I don't see the reason to break some friendship by squealing.
... Rape and murder are gray areas for me in this regard. It depends on your threshold for self-guilt.
An affair... well, there's no need to talk about those kind of things. It's consensual sex with about as much guilt as rape.

If it's none of these... then good f***ing luck, since (I'm guessing) you can't elaborate without breaking this friend's trust.

... Or if you want the "give a straight answer and don't try to figure out your problem" version:
Times where Your friend has hurt your family and maybe cases of Rape and Murder.

Eric · 07-05-2009, 12:08 PM

What did you do?

***Ace Mercury*** · 07-05-2009, 12:38 PM

Humans put a large focus on social connections; this is what allowed us to survive in tribes fighting dinosaurs and whatnot. One aspect of that is that we like punishing cheaters, i.e. those who steal, lie, slander, and otherwise don't follow the implicit social contracts we implicitly agree to. Break the contract, suffer the consequences.

If it was for your friend's "own good" (e.g. illicit drug issues, unchecked psychological problems, crime, etc.), it's probably okay. He'll either grow up and accept that you were helping him or not, but the rest of the society will probably look at you with a positive spin. Myself, I don't think I would do it for anything less than this.

07-05-2009, 08:54 AM	#1
Loot Apparently I'm a mod? Join Date: May 2001 Location: LEGITIMATE BUSINESS Gender: Posts: 13,208 Thanks: 236 Thanked 1,237 Times in 659 Posts	A question to all Is there ever a time appropriate to break your best friend's trust, perhaps even reaching an irreparable point?

07-05-2009, 12:00 PM	#2
Microphone_Kirby Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: None of your business. Gender: Posts: 7,155 Thanks: 559 Thanked 225 Times in 181 Posts Blog Entries: 6	... Interesting question. Has your friend: Stolen Something greatly Valuable? Killed or Raped someone? Hurt a member of your family? Had (or is having) an affair? Any combination of these??? If so, then I can see your moral dilemma... maybe. If he hurt your family for his own pleasure, then you better tell someone who can bust his ass!!! >:[ If he's some silly thief, then I don't see the reason to break some friendship by squealing. ... Rape and murder are gray areas for me in this regard. It depends on your threshold for self-guilt. An affair... well, there's no need to talk about those kind of things. It's consensual sex with about as much guilt as rape. If it's none of these... then good f**ing luck, since (I'm guessing) you can't elaborate without breaking this friend's trust. ... Or if you want the "give a straight answer and don't try to figure out your problem" version: Times where Your friend has hurt your family and maybe* cases of Rape and Murder.

07-05-2009, 12:08 PM	#3
Eric Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Up your arse and around the corner. Gender: Posts: 1,343 Thanks: 236 Thanked 65 Times in 51 Posts	What did you do?

07-05-2009, 12:38 PM	#4
*Ace Mercury* Marshmallow Knight ☆ Supermod Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: Southern Ontario Gender: Posts: 23,275 Thanks: 568 Thanked 3,297 Times in 1,582 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Humans put a large focus on social connections; this is what allowed us to survive in tribes fighting dinosaurs and whatnot. One aspect of that is that we like punishing cheaters, i.e. those who steal, lie, slander, and otherwise don't follow the implicit social contracts we implicitly agree to. Break the contract, suffer the consequences. If it was for your friend's "own good" (e.g. illicit drug issues, unchecked psychological problems, crime, etc.), it's probably okay. He'll either grow up and accept that you were helping him or not, but the rest of the society will probably look at you with a positive spin. Myself, I don't think I would do it for anything less than this.