Chunky: 0 Girlfriends: 2

Rainbow Dash · 03-01-2010, 07:14 PM

okay so i have been in an internet relationship with a 15 year old girl who lives in england for since mid-january. i've been in dc for about a week with limited access to my phone so i couldn't talk to her very much, as well as the rest of the internet. i guess she had been thinking about the whole relationship thing for the past week or so and decided today to break it off. she's doing this because she says she hasn't felt any feelings of love towards me this whole relationship. i don't know if this is true or if she's just saying it to make herself feel better about it, but i am crushed by this. she agreed to discuss it more in detail tomorrow (she started talking to me about this about 30 minutes before she was going to go to bed) so i guess that's something. i'm still feeling pretty down about this though so i don't even know what i should be feeling.

(the first girlfriend was freshman year and it didn't really count as a relationship i guess we were more just friends but i ruined that one)

Rainbow Dash · 03-01-2010, 10:59 PM

durf i should've probably posted this in the relationships forum

**Valigarmander** · 03-01-2010, 11:10 PM

That sucks, bro. I hope the best for you.

So you haven't talked to her since?

Rainbow Dash · 03-02-2010, 07:53 AM

This all happened yesterday and I usually don't get a chance to talk to her until I get home from school so no. Like I mentioned she agreed to talk more about this today.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 03-02-2010, 08:18 AM

I hope you can at least stay friends, man. There's not a lot you can do if she's not interested in continuing the relationship. Sometimes people say some weird stuff if they don't know how to deal with whatever's going on, so just try to keep chill. Good luck, okay?

(did you want me to move this to the Relationships forum, or are you happy with it here?)

Rainbow Dash · 03-02-2010, 03:08 PM

i don't know i'm in the process of beginning to talk it out and i don't really care if it's moved here, i guess it's kind of a vent too

Lurch1982 · 03-02-2010, 04:44 PM

Let's figure out your problem:

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okay so i have been in an internet relationship with a 15 year old girl who lives in england for since mid-january.

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i have been in an internet relationship with a 15 year old girl who lives in england.

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i have been in an internet relationship with a 15 year old girl.

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i have been in an internet relationship

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internet relationship

This is also assuming you're not over 18. If you are over 18, I'm calling Chris Hansen.

***The Doctor*** · 03-02-2010, 05:23 PM

^ Ermmm....

Unless they met in the Uk.*coughAgeofconsentinEnglandis16/cough*
Internet Relationship*coughAISD/Cough* or *coughHotDAnti/cough* or *coughTikalIntro/cough* or *coughSilverwindandtheoneshemetonhere/cough*

Lurch1982 · 03-02-2010, 05:32 PM

This place is bizzaroland as far as that's concerned. Long distance relationships as a whole do not work, let alone ones based on something that never involved meeting physically.

ZeldaGirl · 03-02-2010, 06:20 PM

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coughAISD/Cough

I read this as AIDS.

***CaptHayfever*** · 03-02-2010, 10:11 PM

^I agree, especially since he's coughing so much.

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

CuccoLady · 03-02-2010, 10:34 PM

^^ Me too x{D

Anyway Chunky, I hope you guys can remain friends. That's really the best thing that can come out of a breakup... I hope the talking goes well and you guys are able to recover :{)

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 03-02-2010, 11:17 PM

Relationships as a whole do not work, Lurch.

Singling out any one type of relationship as "the one that doesn't work" is just being willfully unobservant. The vast majority of people go through a handful (or more) partners before they meet someone they stick with.

***Cosmonautical*** · 03-03-2010, 12:19 AM

Yeah, so far in my life, relationships have more to do with your ability to judge a compatible and interested partner as well as remaining compatible and interested while maintaining your partner's compatibility and interest. Of course, that's a generalization. A fantastic way of compromising your partner's interest and compatibility is lying, or avoiding discussion, although quite honestly the propensity to do those things means your relationship isn't working already.

Lurch1982 · 03-03-2010, 12:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds

Relationships as a whole do not work, Lurch.

Singling out any one type of relationship as "the one that doesn't work" is just being willfully unobservant. The vast majority of people go through a handful (or more) partners before they meet someone they stick with.

I'm not saying 100% of distance/online relationships don't work (obviously, who am I talking to amirite?). Vast majority are stunted from the beginning and have an extremely weak foundation that really can't support building anything on it.

I mean yeah the average person goes through a slew of failed relationships before they find "TEH ONE!!1 I'm simply pointing out that getting bummed out because an international online relationship fell apart after a month is kind of silly when you get down to it. It's pretty hard to establish something when you can't go on dates, can't see the person, have to rely on phone/text/internet only to communicate. Its like if I find $20 on the street once. It happens (rarely). It doesn't mean that everyone should be searching the streets for $20, you know? Not like there's any sort of shortage of one sex in this country.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 03-03-2010, 01:11 AM

Oh, of course. But you wouldn't tell someone that they should never look at the ground, because they still might find their $20 if they keep their eyes open. However, if they intentionally weren't watching for it, they would pass it by, so there's no harm in being aware/open to the possibility.

I think Chunky was talking more about how the girl decided to break it off by saying she never felt anything for him in the prior month. That's harsh, no matter what kind of relationship you're in.

**S1x** · 03-03-2010, 01:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Lurch1982

I'm simply pointing out that getting bummed out because an international online relationship fell apart after a month is kind of silly when you get down to it.

Lurch1982 · 03-03-2010, 01:26 PM

^So do you try to be that awful or does it come naturally to you?

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Originally Posted by Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds

I think Chunky was talking more about how the girl decided to break it off by saying she never felt anything for him in the prior month. That's harsh, no matter what kind of relationship you're in.

How exactly is someone supposed to feel something after a month when your relationship is based on (at best) voice chat? Its pretty naive to think that anyone would have feeling of love that early to begin with, let alone someone you haven't seen and communicate via email/phone/text/etc.

***CaptHayfever*** · 03-03-2010, 02:20 PM

Love, I wouldn't expect after a month. But not even mild affection?

And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

***The Doctor*** · 03-03-2010, 03:18 PM

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Originally Posted by ZeldaGirl

I read this as AIDS.

So did I once I wrote it.

03-01-2010, 07:14 PM	#1
Rainbow Dash been dreamin', i've been waitin' Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: a bomb-ass cloud house bachelorette pad Gender: Posts: 24,402 Thanks: 173 Thanked 1,179 Times in 716 Posts	Chunky: 0 Girlfriends: 2 okay so i have been in an internet relationship with a 15 year old girl who lives in england for since mid-january. i've been in dc for about a week with limited access to my phone so i couldn't talk to her very much, as well as the rest of the internet. i guess she had been thinking about the whole relationship thing for the past week or so and decided today to break it off. she's doing this because she says she hasn't felt any feelings of love towards me this whole relationship. i don't know if this is true or if she's just saying it to make herself feel better about it, but i am crushed by this. she agreed to discuss it more in detail tomorrow (she started talking to me about this about 30 minutes before she was going to go to bed) so i guess that's something. i'm still feeling pretty down about this though so i don't even know what i should be feeling. (the first girlfriend was freshman year and it didn't really count as a relationship i guess we were more just friends but i ruined that one)

03-01-2010, 10:59 PM	#2
Rainbow Dash been dreamin', i've been waitin' Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: a bomb-ass cloud house bachelorette pad Gender: Posts: 24,402 Thanks: 173 Thanked 1,179 Times in 716 Posts	durf i should've probably posted this in the relationships forum

03-01-2010, 11:10 PM	#3
Valigarmander The Bee's Knees Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: The land of rain and trees (Oregon) Gender: Posts: 29,755 Thanks: 1,649 Thanked 5,701 Times in 2,581 Posts Blog Entries: 20	That sucks, bro. I hope the best for you. So you haven't talked to her since?

03-02-2010, 07:53 AM	#4
Rainbow Dash been dreamin', i've been waitin' Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: a bomb-ass cloud house bachelorette pad Gender: Posts: 24,402 Thanks: 173 Thanked 1,179 Times in 716 Posts	This all happened yesterday and I usually don't get a chance to talk to her until I get home from school so no. Like I mentioned she agreed to talk more about this today.

03-02-2010, 08:18 AM	#5
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	I hope you can at least stay friends, man. There's not a lot you can do if she's not interested in continuing the relationship. Sometimes people say some weird stuff if they don't know how to deal with whatever's going on, so just try to keep chill. Good luck, okay? (did you want me to move this to the Relationships forum, or are you happy with it here?)

03-02-2010, 03:08 PM	#6
Rainbow Dash been dreamin', i've been waitin' Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: a bomb-ass cloud house bachelorette pad Gender: Posts: 24,402 Thanks: 173 Thanked 1,179 Times in 716 Posts	i don't know i'm in the process of beginning to talk it out and i don't really care if it's moved here, i guess it's kind of a vent too

03-02-2010, 05:23 PM	#8
*The Doctor* The Last Timelord. Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: In the TARDIS Gender: Posts: 13,880 Thanks: 915 Thanked 656 Times in 426 Posts Blog Entries: 1	^ Ermmm.... Unless they met in the Uk.coughAgeofconsentinEnglandis16/cough Internet RelationshipcoughAISD/Cough or coughHotDAnti/cough or coughTikalIntro/cough or coughSilverwindandtheoneshemetonhere/cough

03-02-2010, 05:32 PM	#9
Lurch1982 Senior Member Join Date: May 2000 Location: DenCo Gender: Posts: 9,850 Thanks: 127 Thanked 365 Times in 192 Posts	This place is bizzaroland as far as that's concerned. Long distance relationships as a whole do not work, let alone ones based on something that never involved meeting physically.

03-02-2010, 10:11 PM	#11
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,661 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	^I agree, especially since he's coughing so much. And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"

03-02-2010, 10:34 PM	#12
CuccoLady Anime and Cartoons Mod Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: THIS LOCATION REMINDS ME OF A PUZZLE, LUKE Gender: Posts: 9,077 Thanks: 2,825 Thanked 1,222 Times in 822 Posts	^^ Me too x{D Anyway Chunky, I hope you guys can remain friends. That's really the best thing that can come out of a breakup... I hope the talking goes well and you guys are able to recover :{)

03-02-2010, 11:17 PM	#13
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	Relationships as a whole do not work, Lurch. Singling out any one type of relationship as "the one that doesn't work" is just being willfully unobservant. The vast majority of people go through a handful (or more) partners before they meet someone they stick with.

03-03-2010, 12:19 AM	#14
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,102 Thanks: 2,157 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	Yeah, so far in my life, relationships have more to do with your ability to judge a compatible and interested partner as well as remaining compatible and interested while maintaining your partner's compatibility and interest. Of course, that's a generalization. A fantastic way of compromising your partner's interest and compatibility is lying, or avoiding discussion, although quite honestly the propensity to do those things means your relationship isn't working already.

03-03-2010, 01:11 AM	#16
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	Oh, of course. But you wouldn't tell someone that they should never look at the ground, because they still might find their $20 if they keep their eyes open. However, if they intentionally weren't watching for it, they would pass it by, so there's no harm in being aware/open to the possibility. I think Chunky was talking more about how the girl decided to break it off by saying she never felt anything for him in the prior month. That's harsh, no matter what kind of relationship you're in.

03-03-2010, 02:20 PM	#19
*CaptHayfever* Smash SuperMod Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: (n) - the place where I am Gender: Posts: 27,661 Thanks: 1,991 Thanked 2,486 Times in 1,513 Posts	Love, I wouldn't expect after a month. But not even mild affection? And remember, "I'm-a Luigi, number one!"