Haven't Done This In a While

1-up Salesman · 05-06-2011, 06:41 PM

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Chewtoy · 05-06-2011, 10:33 PM

I'm going through the same thing. I have a friend that I treat like a brother. He comes from a very bad family and has fallen victim to drugs and constant fist fights. I need to be there for him to stop this. That's why I have to be his family, because his doesn't care. But things have been happening... And I think our brotherly bond has been split. I wonder constantly if he thinks of me as his family or not...

**Loot** · 05-06-2011, 11:17 PM

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There's some stuff that I don't really know if I feel comfortable about talking about on here, but I'll just leave it at this- have you ever been "friends" with someone, and you really cared for the friend, I mean REALLY cared for the friend, and been unsure of how they feel about you?

Is this a crush

1-up Salesman · 05-06-2011, 11:18 PM

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Dizzy · 05-06-2011, 11:20 PM

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have you ever been "friends" with someone, and you really cared for the friend, I mean REALLY cared for the friend, and been unsure of how they feel about you?

D'aww, I care for you too, 1-up. =P

1-up Salesman · 05-06-2011, 11:23 PM

^ NNNNOOOOOOOoooooooooooo

GET AWAY FROM ME

1-up Salesman · 05-07-2011, 10:18 PM

So...huh.

Weird talking about. Anyone else want to say anything before I keep going on and on?

CuccoLady · 05-07-2011, 11:09 PM

If there is ONE thing I have learned, it is that if you don't tell the person how you feel, you will never know how that person feels.

Don't try to play games or do the "send a friend to get info for you" or that crap. If you say it or ask straight out it shows that you're being up-front and honest and that the person is important to you. So if you REEEEAALLLY like this friend, let the friend know this. And even if the friend doesn't feel the same way, it won't ruin your friendship. It will just give you closure on something that's been worrying you for a long while.

***Cosmonautical*** · 05-07-2011, 11:54 PM

Yeah. I told her that my door was open and I was willing if she felt at all similar.

We're married now, btw.

I should mention, though, that if you aren't hells of smooth like I am, you might wreck up that nice friendship you've got. Point in case, if someone can't get over the "hey you are pretty jawsome let's makeout" factor between you two, they're probably loaded with bs preconceptions and might be a huge hassle, anyway.

**Loot** · 05-08-2011, 02:09 AM

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^uuuuhmaybeyesnomaybe

Okay then yeah I've been on this path before.

By the way for all you know said person could be fully aware about your feelings. The longer you wait the more it kinda tears the two of you. So, yeah, let that haunt you and make you want to get it done right away. Cause even if it's not true, hey, you got it over with.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 05-08-2011, 02:27 AM

The only way to find out how they feel is by talking to them, not us.

We don't know how they feel any more than you do. So if you think you have feelings, you'll need to have a discussion with that person about those feelings and if they are reciprocated. Good luck!

1-up Salesman · 05-08-2011, 03:01 PM

Thinking about this; thanks a bunch for the advice, and please continue if you have more. I appreciate it.

A lot.

1-up Salesman · 05-12-2011, 04:49 PM

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1-up Salesman · 05-12-2011, 06:55 PM

Help?

Jere · 05-12-2011, 08:17 PM

I think you have to have some fingertip feeling on this one, thread carefully, don't make stupid mistakes and so on.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 05-12-2011, 08:38 PM

Just be honest. Don't lay it on too thick (now is not the "marriage and babies" time, now is the "I have strong feelings for you and would really like to try a relationship" time). It's okay to be nervous. It's okay to make mistakes in what you're saying as long as you're just trying to say things from the heart. If it doesn't work out, just nod and tell them you need to have a little time to deal with your emotions. Your friendship isn't automatically over just because you wanted to try dating. You'll do fine.

1-up Salesman · 05-13-2011, 06:57 PM

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Speed · 05-13-2011, 07:52 PM

Listen don't worry, I've been there and recently too.

Just think of it this way, you're way more likely to regret not doing it then you are to regret doing it.

***Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds*** · 05-13-2011, 09:54 PM

Things always seem bigger than they really are when you're worrying about them!

CuccoLady · 05-14-2011, 12:18 PM

GO FOR IT BRO.

*cheerleader pompoms*

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05-06-2011, 10:33 PM	#2
Chewtoy Junior Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: I live in my Minecraft world. Gender: Posts: 27 Thanks: 8 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	I'm going through the same thing. I have a friend that I treat like a brother. He comes from a very bad family and has fallen victim to drugs and constant fist fights. I need to be there for him to stop this. That's why I have to be his family, because his doesn't care. But things have been happening... And I think our brotherly bond has been split. I wonder constantly if he thinks of me as his family or not...

05-06-2011, 11:23 PM	#6
1-up Salesman Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Letting you guys know that I'm planning on continuing Attack of the Spammers soon. Gender: Posts: 4,095 Thanks: 2,162 Thanked 250 Times in 194 Posts Blog Entries: 9	^ NNNNOOOOOOOoooooooooooo GET AWAY FROM ME

05-07-2011, 10:18 PM	#7
1-up Salesman Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Letting you guys know that I'm planning on continuing Attack of the Spammers soon. Gender: Posts: 4,095 Thanks: 2,162 Thanked 250 Times in 194 Posts Blog Entries: 9	So...huh. Weird talking about. Anyone else want to say anything before I keep going on and on?

05-07-2011, 11:09 PM	#8
CuccoLady Anime and Cartoons Mod Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: THIS LOCATION REMINDS ME OF A PUZZLE, LUKE Gender: Posts: 9,077 Thanks: 2,825 Thanked 1,222 Times in 822 Posts	If there is ONE thing I have learned, it is that if you don't tell the person how you feel, you will never know how that person feels. Don't try to play games or do the "send a friend to get info for you" or that crap. If you say it or ask straight out it shows that you're being up-front and honest and that the person is important to you. So if you REEEEAALLLY like this friend, let the friend know this. And even if the friend doesn't feel the same way, it won't ruin your friendship. It will just give you closure on something that's been worrying you for a long while.

05-07-2011, 11:54 PM	#9
*Cosmonautical* Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: I rub my tilde all over your asterisk Gender: Posts: 28,102 Thanks: 2,157 Thanked 5,338 Times in 2,433 Posts	Yeah. I told her that my door was open and I was willing if she felt at all similar. We're married now, btw. I should mention, though, that if you aren't hells of smooth like I am, you might wreck up that nice friendship you've got. Point in case, if someone can't get over the "hey you are pretty jawsome let's makeout" factor between you two, they're probably loaded with bs preconceptions and might be a huge hassle, anyway.

05-08-2011, 02:27 AM	#11
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	The only way to find out how they feel is by talking to them, not us. We don't know how they feel any more than you do. So if you think you have feelings, you'll need to have a discussion with that person about those feelings and if they are reciprocated. Good luck!

05-08-2011, 03:01 PM	#12
1-up Salesman Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Letting you guys know that I'm planning on continuing Attack of the Spammers soon. Gender: Posts: 4,095 Thanks: 2,162 Thanked 250 Times in 194 Posts Blog Entries: 9	Thinking about this; thanks a bunch for the advice, and please continue if you have more. I appreciate it. A lot.

05-12-2011, 06:55 PM	#14
1-up Salesman Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Letting you guys know that I'm planning on continuing Attack of the Spammers soon. Gender: Posts: 4,095 Thanks: 2,162 Thanked 250 Times in 194 Posts Blog Entries: 9	Help?

05-12-2011, 08:17 PM	#15
Jere Senior Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Sutme Gender: Posts: 3,650 Thanks: 404 Thanked 331 Times in 256 Posts Blog Entries: 3	I think you have to have some fingertip feeling on this one, thread carefully, don't make stupid mistakes and so on.

05-12-2011, 08:38 PM	#16
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	Just be honest. Don't lay it on too thick (now is not the "marriage and babies" time, now is the "I have strong feelings for you and would really like to try a relationship" time). It's okay to be nervous. It's okay to make mistakes in what you're saying as long as you're just trying to say things from the heart. If it doesn't work out, just nod and tell them you need to have a little time to deal with your emotions. Your friendship isn't automatically over just because you wanted to try dating. You'll do fine.

05-13-2011, 07:52 PM	#18
Speed Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: If there's a bright center to the universe I'm on the planet it's farthest from Gender: Posts: 3,747 Thanks: 1,598 Thanked 320 Times in 224 Posts Blog Entries: 1	Listen don't worry, I've been there and recently too. Just think of it this way, you're way more likely to regret not doing it then you are to regret doing it.

05-13-2011, 09:54 PM	#19
*Saria Dragon of the Rain Wilds* Admin "mine.. not yours. NO. MINE." Epic Ladynerd Join Date: Jul 2000 Location: Forteresse de Valois Gender: Posts: 28,504 Thanks: 1,658 Thanked 1,820 Times in 1,042 Posts	Things always seem bigger than they really are when you're worrying about them!

05-14-2011, 12:18 PM	#20
CuccoLady Anime and Cartoons Mod Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: THIS LOCATION REMINDS ME OF A PUZZLE, LUKE Gender: Posts: 9,077 Thanks: 2,825 Thanked 1,222 Times in 822 Posts	GO FOR IT BRO. cheerleader pompoms